And no I’m not afraid of IRL. I had IRL and I enjoyed it quite a lot

Dear Anita:
So, my previous LDR lasted more than 3 years. Really tested my patience. haven’t met in person. and not even video called once (funny I know) I felt like I wasted so much time and for what?
I’m an Aries-INFJ so I’m someone who prefers action yet still I waited that much long…and it took me more than a year to heal from that

Now this LDR, it’s been only two months. We didn’t meet in person Yet. She’s nice and mature but she is somewhat an anxious person. like whatever I suggest she be like it’s easy to tell, hard to do. even though I tried being patience she’s just doesn’t want to get out of her comfort zone. She didn’t even tell her parents about her moving plans or that she wants to study in Europe. I’m like when you planning to tell them.
It’s me I’m impatience and I’m kind of scared too because I don’t want to waste my time and emotions

Dear Anita!
Good morning to you 🌞
Hope you’re doing well

I understood that clearly. Thanks for such a simple and clear wisdom. I highly appreciate it.
Have a good day and don’t forget to smile :))

Dear Anita:

Diverse? Yeah I took lot responsibilities in single roles so yeah, I guess so. Impressive?? idk because I guess others could’ve done the same

Dear Anita:

Let me give you some examples:

Today in my interview Recruiter told me I’m really calm and friendly person (Somehow, I was able to accept this compliment – because I started to believe that long ago?)
But, When he said you have quite diverse and impressive work experience (I was like ooohkkyy)

I don’t think that’s just to be polite is it?

Also, when some gives me any physical compliment, I can’t accept without doubting or questioning myself. Although while another part of my brain thinking like does this really matter? NOPE. most of the time

Dear Anita,

Well how silly of me I didn’t even knew the 2nd page is created, just today I noticed 😂
How are you doing? Good plans for the weekend? Things that you love during your weekends?

About that yes! I do have that critical negative voice. but I’d say it’s dynamic because there is voice which makes me relax and resilient about things as well. As a child I’ve been like that who Always listened to my parents and Grandparents and someone who is not very demanding. I’ve sacrificed for lot of things and never asked for it. Although somehow, I knew it wouldn’t help me fulfil my emotional needs.
But don’t you think I striving for being better is a good thing? Now I do kind of feel that I’m good enough (Not sure though) But I do like to make myself better than the last day
So that’s why “child gets anxious and feels overwhelmed by being rushed this way” Interesting….

PS Have a great weekend ahead

Addy

Bom Dia Anita,
Sorry but calling dear all the time? Naah better to have the good variations. If that’s okay

Addy-the-boy emotions? and without critical thinking? Oh boy that’s hard I’m mostly very critical of myself and sometimes I also put that pressure to being better on my girlfriend as well eg. For eating, and sleeping healthy by being strict with her (LDR and time difference so you know)
Lately I did notice that patterned that I should just focus on my improvement and not tell others what to do.. They’re mature enough they know.. but I don’t know, I like to see my close ones achieving better things and most importantly being Healthy.
So I feel like sometimes I force them to be better which isn’t good.

Yet there’s also the thing, like I’m not consistent in some areas then who am I tell them?

Dear Anita!
I’m glad your weekend was fine.
First of all, thanks a lot for detailed reply I appreciate it 🙂

Yes I’m actually working on soft skills by meeting with different type of Analysts and Managers and they did give me good feedback. All of them told me they like my mix of calming nature with leadership skills (Maybe that’s how INFJs like me? idk)
and yes of course your feedback is welcome. I’d appreciate that

Something to remember for me,
have humility and compassion for yourself (and for others) for feeling intimidated by others’ talent and success.

focus on the progress you make every day, and build on that progress the next day.

About the CEN and the self confidence
I do agree with you. Now it’s just time to heal and making it better
What are the best ways or practices for that in your opinion?