Dear Anita:
I hope you’re having great Sunday morning 🌞

To the answer, I actually had to look up how to know if you’re self-confident.
According to usf.edu
It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weakness well and have a positive view of yourself. You set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively, and can handle criticism.

Let me break it to you now

It means you accept and trust yourself
I accept myself but I don’t I trust myself very highly because I feel what if things go this way instead of this?  and also, I have hard time trusting other people as well

have a sense of control in your life
Not Always. I used to have very controlling behavior about everything but thanks to meditation and mindfulness practice I’m getting lot better

You know your strengths and weakness
I do and still exploring those

have a positive view of yourself

I do have positive view of myself

You set realistic expectations and goals
Yes I do. I’m very rational thinker and minimalistic as well so

communicate assertively, and can handle criticism.
Both Yes very well

To your definition
a feeling of trust in your abilities and judgment – I do have trust in my abilities but if I’m trying too hard for too long yet I don’t see the progress I get frustrated for the time that I wasted, which makes it worse and that cycle uuugh
I just wanna feel like I’m making a good progress tbh

believing in your inherent worth: that inherently, you are not inferior to anyone.
I think I do believe in my worth but still have to work
I don’t compare myself to others like before though

Dear Anita,

I can totally understand maybe that’s kind perfectionism because you don’t like to make mistakes. But as for my experience I think making mistakes is how we grow and improve. I mean faced similar situation where I just circle round with the same things if I’m not able to resolve that mistake. What happened, Happened. now there’s another chance of mistake but as crazy it may sound I just myself this question If “I make that mistake would I die? Probably not” then there’s another thing that people always says like you should learn from your mistakes and yeah, it’s true but for mind it’s not that easy. Mind doesn’t like to create new patterns that easily so you shouldn’t spend energy in something that you’re not capable of YET. I try to note things down what worked right and what can I improve next time
I guess you already know these things very well than me, but we all need reminders time to time so…
Have an Funtastic day 😀

Thanks a lot Anita. I think you’re right. I also do the gratitude prayers in the morning time. 🙂