A Love Language We Rarely Mention
How to Heal on a Deeper Level After Moving On
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” ~C.G. Jung
For twelve years, I believed I was the architect of a perfect life. I had the “Summa Cum Laude” degree, a respected career in human services, a devoted husband, and two healthy daughters. I had checked every box on the “Success” list. I truly thought I had outrun my past.
But trauma has a way of waiting. It doesn’t disappear just because you stop looking at it. It simply goes underground, like a silent program running in the background of a …
The Beautiful Gift We Give Without Even Knowing
“The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Five years ago, my son missed a basketball tryout.
We had been out of town, and by the time we got back, the rosters were already set. I made a few calls anyway, hoping someone might give a kid a late shot. One coach said yes. He had a spot left, and he was willing to take a chance on a name he’d never heard from a father he’d never met.
That coach became one of my closest friends.
I started coming to practices to help …
Finding Peace with Money After Years of Feeling “Responsibly Broke”
“A big part of financial freedom is having your heart and mind free from worry about the what-ifs of life.” ~Suze Orman
During my upbringing, my parents often fought about money since we didn’t have much of it. My mom was more of an occasional spender, while my father would go as far as making me wear shoes that were a size smaller just so he could save money.
This conflict of opposites created real tension in our home, and eventually, my dad instructed my mom to give my father her entire salary so he could manage it. She had …
A Little-Known Truth About People-Pleasing and How to Stop (for Good)
“Being a people-pleaser may be more than a personality trait; it could be a response to serious trauma.” ~Alex Bachert
Growing up in a home, school, and church that placed a lot of value on good behavior, self-discipline, and corporal punishment, I was a model child. There could have been an American Girl doll designed after me—the well-mannered church girl with a nineties hair bow edition.
I was quiet and pleasant and never got sent to the principal’s office. Complaining and “ugly” emotions were simply not allowed. Though I was very rambunctious and “rebellious” as a toddler, all of that …
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