One of the Deepest Forms of Strength
Healing Is Happening Even When You Can’t See It
“One never notices what has been done; one can only see what remains to be done.” ~Marie Curie
I almost didn’t go to my cousin’s wedding.
Not because I didn’t want to celebrate her. I did. But the thought of walking into a room full of people who knew the version of me from two years ago felt unbearable.
They knew that version well.
The one who cried in bathroom stalls at family gatherings. Who smiled through dinners while silently replaying an argument from three days earlier. Who drank a little too much at Christmas because it was easier than …
The Best Thing to Say to Someone Who Won’t Try to Understand You
“True love is born from understanding.” ~Buddha
I believe one of our strongest desires in life is to feel understood.
We want to know that people see our good intentions and not only get where we’re coming from but get us.
We want to know they see us. They recognize the thoughts, feelings, and struggles that underlie our choices, and they not only empathize but maybe even relate. And maybe they’d do the same thing if they were in our shoes.
Maybe, if they’d been where we’ve been, if they’d seen what we’ve seen, they’d stand right where we …
Sometimes Love Needs to Move
“It may be that when we no longer know what to do, we have come to our real work, and when we no longer know which way to go, we have begun our real journey.” ~Wendell Berry
I was watching television one night when something on the screen made me set everything aside and go still. It was a scene where the main character, a man who loved his daughter dearly, couldn’t change what was happening to her. So, he went out into the wilderness as a kind of prayer.
I put the remote down and didn’t pick it back …
The 7 Types of Overthinking That Drain Your Energy
Many years ago, I clearly remember celebrating a strange victory. I had only spent one day overthinking a problem.
I was triggered by the end of another situationship. I could feel them pulling away. Something had changed, but I didn’t have the answers. I was stuck in that painful limbo space.
For that day, I had done what I always did. I replayed conversations in my head, searched for hidden meanings, imagined different scenarios, and mentally rehearsed what I would say if I could turn back time. I checked my phone more times than I could count and searched YouTube …
Why You’re Drawn to the Wrong People (And It Feels Like Love)
“The heart that’s been through the most can sometimes mistake chaos for connection.” ~Unknown
I remember the exact moment I knew something was wrong.
We had been talking for three weeks. Every conversation left me either floating or deflated, never just… okay. Either he said something that made me feel like the most understood person on earth or he went quiet for two days, and I spent those two days mentally replaying everything I’d said, looking for what I’d done wrong.
And yet, when he came back, I felt relief. That rush of “he’s back, everything is fine” was …
