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Celebrating Six Years Sober: Here’s How I Did It
“I chose sober because I wanted a better life. I stay sober because I got one.” ~Anonymous
Seven years ago, I never thought I would be able to say that I have been six years sober! I didn’t think I was physically addicted. I never got the shakes, never morning drank, never drank daily unless on vacation, never got a DUI (even though that was lucky), and never lost a job or a relationship because of drinking. I was, however, incredibly emotionally and mentally addicted.
I am fifty-six years old and started drinking in high school. Except when pregnant, I …
The Truth Behind Imposter Syndrome: What It’s Really About
“We are who we believe we are.” ~C.S. Lewis
Have you ever caught yourself hiding behind the term “imposter syndrome”? I know I have—more times than I’d like to admit.
We hear the phrase so often now, and it’s almost become a catch-all for our fears, doubts, and insecurities. But what if I told you that imposter syndrome isn’t what you think it is? What if it’s something deeper that has been with you far longer than your career or the roles you play in your life?
Let me take you on a journey that may mirror your own. …
How to Ease Pain and Anxiety Through Meditation
“If nothing changes, nothing changes. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’re going to keep getting what you’re getting. You want change, make some.” ~Courtney C. Stevens
If someone looked at my life when I was younger, they would think that I had it all together. I went to college to obtain my bachelor’s in psychology and social work, followed by my master’s in social work. I have always had good friendships and family relationships. I traveled regularly. I was and still am young and living my life. Little would they know that so much was brewing inside…
The …
Free Download, Living Without Hurry: It’s Time to End the Rush
Do you ever feel like you’re living your life racing toward someday when everything feels better or easier? Like you’re constantly chasing something—maybe a dream, money, the perfect body, or love and, at the core of it all, happiness?
I chased all these things for years, filling most of my time with activities to attain them, all the while neglecting my deepest needs and ultimately feeling stressed and overwhelmed.
It’s one of life’s greatest ironies—we push ourselves so hard to find peace and fulfillment in the future without realizing both are available right now if we could only create space …
Let Your Tears Flow: The Proven Benefits of Crying
“Crying is not a sign of weakness, it’s a courageous expression of emotions that leads to strength.” ~Unknown
When was the last time you cried? Tears are often seen as a sign of weakness, but for me, they are a powerful guide that helps me recognize and understand my feelings. In a society that frequently suppresses emotions, I want to share my journey with tears and encourage you to reflect on your own experiences.
The Change in My Relationship with Tears
Sometimes, I like to cry. During my studies, I hardly ever cried sober and was proud of it. I …
5 Lessons About Change I Learned from Moving to a New City
“You may not be able to control every situation and its outcome, but you can control how you deal with it.” ~Unknown
I recently moved to Florida, a decision thirty years in the making.
Growing up in Haiti, I always longed to return to a warm climate. I remember being on our layover in Miami when we first moved to the States and thinking, “Why don’t we just stay here?” Moving to Boston at ten, the cold rain was a shock, and I’ve been dreaming of Florida ever since.
Here’s the thing about dreams—they take time, and life sometimes gets …
How to Turn Shame into Self-Love and Emotional Resilience
“The less we talk about shame, the more control it has over our lives.” ~Brené Brown
The pain and suffering I experienced as a child, which I kept hidden for over a decade, was the very seed that gave me the strength, resilience, empathy, authenticity, and courage that I possess today—but only because I surrendered the old story to embrace a new one. I alchemized my pain into my fuel, my traumas as contributions to my triumphs, and my curses into my greatest blessings.
But all of this came with a very hefty price.
Growing up with a single mother …
Creating Massive Change: How to Get Out of Our Own Way
Has it ever occurred to you that maybe your life isn’t changing because you’re holding yourself back but don’t know it?
Like maybe there’s something in your conditioning or a subconscious belief that’s preventing you from doing something that could bring you the change you seek?
I’ve been thinking about this a lot since I took Nadia Colburn’s five-day mindful writing challenge because one of the prompts elicited a profound insight about why I’ve struggled to create the change I want most in life.
Part of the prompt was “Don’t go off somewhere else,” and after a brief meditation at …
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