Don’t Live Inside Their Misery
5 Things to Know When an Abusive Parent Dies
“Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.” ~Iyanla Vanzant
My brother called me at work on a random Tuesday to say that my mother had suddenly died. Powerful emotions of shock and relief ran through my body, like someone rang a gong right next to me. The war was over.
Like most people with an abusive parent, I had previously wondered how I would feel when my mother died. I was not surprised at the relief, nor that I wasn’t sad.
I did not think about what …
The Problem with Meditating to Become More Productive
“Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there,’ or being in the present but wanting to be in the future.” ~Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now
I started learning yoga and meditation when I was eighteen years old, in the late nineties, in the car garage of one of the few yoga teachers in Puerto Rico. I took to it like a duck to water.
By the time I was twenty-five, I had spent months on Buddhist silent retreats, living in ashrams in the USA, India, and Burma.
Meditative practices and retreats provided me with great moments …
3 Important Things to Remember When People Are Mean
“Be kind. Be thoughtful. Be genuine. But most of all, be thankful.” ~Unknown
Nobody is spared from being on the receiving end of a mean comment at some point or another. And it’s been said time and time again that allowing a mean person to get under your skin only serves to let them control you. The wiser thing to do is recognize that their comment about you is uninformed and get on with your day.
Still, it’s far easier to know that wisdom than it is to truly feel and live it.
I remember one instance in particular: A …
Embracing Rejection Helped Me Love Dating and Meet My Husband
“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.” ~Steve Maraboli
I think most single people these days dream of meeting someone “in real life.”
The fantasy is that in “the real world” it’ll be easier.
I dated BA and AA. Before apps and after apps.
The sad truth is that technology changed the game whether you’re on apps or not.
The life skill of walking up to someone in a bar and starting a conversation out of thin air has vanished. The ability to be the receiver of that …
A Tool to Help You Love Yourself Unconditionally
Hi friends! Today, I’m thrilled to share with you a beautiful, healing, and inspiring card deck that I’ve been obsessed with as of late.
Created by Tiny Buddha contributor Rita Loyd, the Unconditional Self-Love Message Card Deck contains fifty colorful art images, each with an accompanying message on how to cultivate unconditional self-love on the back.
At 2.5”x 3.5“, the deck is small enough to carry within a purse or pocket if you’d like to keep these messages close, should you need a little boost of self-love throughout your day. You can …
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