Not Everyone Is Against You
Rethinking Productivity: Less Hustle, More Harmony, More Energy
“The flame that burns twice as bright burns half as long.” ~Lao Tzu
I can hear the voices now:
“You should be disappointed in yourself” (for not taking the SATs in seventh grade).
“Don’t be lazy like [fill in a not-so-studious sibling/cousin]!”
“You need to work harder or else you’ll fall behind.”
“Always be analyzing, analyzing, analyzing!”
“We need to improve our operational efficiency or ELSE.” Or else what?
My mind became a boiling stew of negative self-talk, heavy thoughts, and beliefs that didn’t serve me. Throughout my entire life, from an immigrant Asian family to corporate leaders fixated on
If You Haven’t Found Your Purpose: How to Feel Good Anyway
“The person who lives life fully, glowing with life’s energy, is the person who lives a successful life.” ~Daisaku Ikeda
We’ve all heard the phrase “find your life purpose.” It gets thrown around so much nowadays. Many of us have been in what feels like an eternal quest to find it, especially if we’ve been feeling stuck, lost, and out of alignment. Finding our purpose then becomes an almost obsessive search for the solution that will solve all our problems.
We’ve been led to believe that a life purpose is a single thing, a calling that we’ll be passionate about…
How to Start Saying No When You’re Afraid of Disapproval
“Sometimes what you’re most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.” ~Robert Tew
When I say that my need for people to like me has been one of the hidden rulers of my life, I’m not kidding!
Ever since I was a kid, I wanted everyone to like me, and I had significant anxiety if they didn’t. My fear of the disapproval of others quietly lurked beneath the surface like a shadow under my skin, dictating my behavior and my mood.
I was so afraid of the disapproval of others that I would ruminate over …
How I Found the Good Within the Difficult
“Inner strengths are the supplies you’ve got in your pack as you make your way down the twisting and often hard road of life.” ~Rick Hanson
“I had a rough day. Can we talk?” I asked my husband in 2015 after coming home from work. He nodded, and we sat down on the couch.
I continued: “I got really challenging performance feedback from my manager today. It was hard to hear because I know it’s true.”
It was the most significant critical feedback I had received at once. All afternoon, I’d ruminated on the conversation. I had sat in the …
How to Wake Up from the Painful Trance of Unworthiness
“When we experience our lives through this lens of personal insufficiency, we are imprisoned in what I call the trance of unworthiness. Trapped in this trance, we are unable to perceive the truth of who we really are.” ~Tara Brach
Breaking free from the trance of unworthiness is a key part of our evolution process, both at an individual and collective level.
Let me explain why.
What I observe with clients and what resonates with my own experiences is that most (if not all) triggers, limitations we impose on ourselves, and fears of failure or success stem from a deep …
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