In Case No One Told You Today
I Lost My Father—and the Illusion of My Mother
“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.” ~Eckhart Tolle
In July 2023, my father died in a tragic accident. We were devastated—my sisters, my mother, and I. Or so I thought.
What followed in the months after his death forced me to confront the truth of my mother’s emotional disconnection, a truth I had sensed but never fully allowed myself to see. In losing my father, I also lost the illusion of the mother I thought I had.
A Sudden Exit
By September, just two months after my father’s death, my …
Left-Side Pain: A Powerful Messenger for My Abandoned Parts
“The body always leads us home… if we’re willing to listen.”
For over a decade, I lived in a body that tried to tell me something I wasn’t ready to hear. But eventually, it got louder—loud enough that I could no longer ignore the message.
It started with migraines—always on the left side.
Then came a string of sinus infections and dental issues—again, always on the left.
Lumps formed in my left breast. Then pain in my left ribs. Then a left-sided numbness that made doctors run MRIs for multiple sclerosis. Every test came back normal. And yet my body …
Raised on Their Best Intentions—Healed on My Own Terms
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” ~Kahlil Gibran
There are two versions of me.
There’s the one I am now—the grounded, present woman who holds space for others, who guides people toward healing, who walks barefoot through the grass and whispers affirmations while sipping her coffee.
And then there’s the other version. The one who barely made it. The one who used to stare into her fridge not out of hunger but as a distraction from the ache in her chest. The one who didn’t feel at home in her …
The Truth About Why I’ve Ghosted People (and What I’ve Learned)
“Ghosting is cruel because it denies a person the chance to process, to ask questions, or to get closure. It’s emotional abandonment, masquerading as protection.” ~Dr. Jennice Vilhauer
I never set out to ghost anyone.
In fact, I used to hate ghosting with the burning fury of a thousand unread dating app notifications. I told myself I’d never be that person—the one who disappears mid-conversation, fails to reply after a good date (or sends a very bland thank you message), or silently vanishes like a breadcrumb trail to nowhere.
And yet… here I am. Writing a post about how I’ve …
How Two Simple Lists Completely Transformed My Life
“Happiness turned to me and said, ‘It is time. It is time to forgive yourself for all of the things you did not become… Above all else, it is time to believe, with reckless abandon, that you are worthy of me, for I have been waiting for years.” ~Bianca Sparacino
I didn’t know who I was.
That realization hit me like a punch to the chest after I ended a decade-long relationship and canceled my wedding six weeks before it was supposed to happen.
I remember standing in my kitchen one morning, staring at the floor, and thinking, I have …
Rebuilding Myself After Divorce: How I Found Healing and Hope
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~Rumi
I never imagined I’d be here at forty-nine—divorced, disoriented, and drowning in an identity crisis. I had met him just before my sixteenth birthday. He was all I knew. We built an entire life together—nearly three decades of marriage, raising children, shared memories, traditions, routines. And then, one day, it all collapsed with five haunting words: “I need some space, Heather.”
At first, I thought it was a phase. But the space became silence, the silence became separation, and soon after, I was signing divorce papers. The man I …
How to Speak from the Heart: Let Your First Word Be a Breath
“Mindfulness is a pause—the space between stimulus and response: that’s where choice lies.” ~Tara Brach
We’ve all been there.
A sharp reply. A snide remark. A moment when we said something that didn’t come from our heart but from somewhere else entirely—a need to be right, to sound smart, to prove a point, to stay in control, or simply to defend ourselves.
What follows is the spinning. The knowing that what was said didn’t align with our soul. The overthinking, the replaying of the moment, the rumination, the regret, the tightening in the chest, the wish we could take …
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