Posts tagged with “wisdom”
13 Things to Do Instead of Comparing Yourself to Others
“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.” ~Shannon L. Alder
You know it already.
You know you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. Yet, that’s often easier said than done.
Job title, income, grades, house, and Facebook likes—the number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others are infinite. So is the number of people we can compare ourselves to.
Comparison is generally the fast track to unhappiness. It’s a recipe for misery. All it does is keeping you focused on what you don’t like about yourself and your life.
Ever …
5 Reasons to Forgive Yourself and How to Do Better Going Forward
“At the end of life, the wish to be forgiven is ultimately the chief desire of almost every human being. In refusing to wait; in extending forgiveness to others now; we begin the long journey of becoming the person who will be large enough, able enough and generous enough to receive, at the very end, that absolution ourselves.” ~David Whyte
The last time I saw my mother she was smiling and laughing at nothing in particular. My mother has had dementia for almost ten years now. Each visit brings an onslaught of guilt and uncomfortable feelings. Could I have …
Dealing with Postnatal Depression: It’s Okay to Ask for Help
“The light at the end of the tunnel might seem a long way off. But the switch may be very near.” ~ Anonymous
When I think about it now, the ominous signs of postnatal depression were there even while I was pregnant.
What started with worries and anxieties would continue to escalate after the birth of my child, finally coming together like a perfect storm, to become a deep, dark depression that would threaten to take my life away from me.
Eighteen months after my daughter was born, now barely able to function, I found myself alone in the …
3 Things That Cause Unhealthy Food Cravings and How to Stop Them
“Reminder: food is fuel, not therapy.” ~Unknown
I learned about food cravings at a young age.
My parents divorced when I was six years old. My older brother and I ended up living in another city with our grandmother. We used to spend long hours alone, and we learned soon enough how food could help us lift our mood and suppress our real feelings.
That was when I started having unstoppable food cravings.
Eating would make me feel good and bring me peace and calm. Trying to avoid my favorite foods would make me nervous and unsettled, and would …
6 Lessons to Remember When Someone Judges or Criticizes You
“Every judgment, all of them, point back to a judgment we hold against ourselves.” ~Lynne Forrest
I sat across from my good friend Anna over a cup of coffee. We had been having issues in our friendship and had finally gotten together to discuss them. I’m not a fan of conflict and call myself a “recovering people pleaser,” so I was very nervous.
I noticed immediately that the conversation didn’t seem to be going very well. I addressed my issues concerning our friendship and tried hard to own my part. But Anna kept saying things like, “There are …
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