Posts tagged with “wisdom”
The Truth About Why I’ve Ghosted People (and What I’ve Learned)
“Ghosting is cruel because it denies a person the chance to process, to ask questions, or to get closure. It’s emotional abandonment, masquerading as protection.” ~Dr. Jennice Vilhauer
I never set out to ghost anyone.
In fact, I used to hate ghosting with the burning fury of a thousand unread dating app notifications. I told myself I’d never be that person—the one who disappears mid-conversation, fails to reply after a good date (or sends a very bland thank you message), or silently vanishes like a breadcrumb trail to nowhere.
And yet… here I am. Writing a post about how I’ve …
How Two Simple Lists Completely Transformed My Life
“Happiness turned to me and said, ‘It is time. It is time to forgive yourself for all of the things you did not become… Above all else, it is time to believe, with reckless abandon, that you are worthy of me, for I have been waiting for years.” ~Bianca Sparacino
I didn’t know who I was.
That realization hit me like a punch to the chest after I ended a decade-long relationship and canceled my wedding six weeks before it was supposed to happen.
I remember standing in my kitchen one morning, staring at the floor, and thinking, I have …
Rebuilding Myself After Divorce: How I Found Healing and Hope
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~Rumi
I never imagined I’d be here at forty-nine—divorced, disoriented, and drowning in an identity crisis. I had met him just before my sixteenth birthday. He was all I knew. We built an entire life together—nearly three decades of marriage, raising children, shared memories, traditions, routines. And then, one day, it all collapsed with five haunting words: “I need some space, Heather.”
At first, I thought it was a phase. But the space became silence, the silence became separation, and soon after, I was signing divorce papers. The man I …
How to Speak from the Heart: Let Your First Word Be a Breath
“Mindfulness is a pause—the space between stimulus and response: that’s where choice lies.” ~Tara Brach
We’ve all been there.
A sharp reply. A snide remark. A moment when we said something that didn’t come from our heart but from somewhere else entirely—a need to be right, to sound smart, to prove a point, to stay in control, or simply to defend ourselves.
What follows is the spinning. The knowing that what was said didn’t align with our soul. The overthinking, the replaying of the moment, the rumination, the regret, the tightening in the chest, the wish we could take …
Can You Live a Meaningful Life Without Being Exceptional?
“The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.” ~Alan Watts
As I enter the later stage of life, I find myself asking questions that are less about accomplishment and more about meaning. What matters now, when the need to prove myself has softened, but the old voices of expectation still echo in my mind?
In a world that prizes novelty, speed, and success, I wonder what happens when we’re no …
Mindful Parenting: How to Calm Our Kids and Heal Ourselves
“When we show up for our kids in moments when no one showed up for us, we’re not just healing them. We’re healing ourselves.” ~Dr. Becky Kenedy
I wasn’t taught to pause and breathe when I was overwhelmed.
I was taught to push through. To be a “good girl.” To smile when something inside me was begging to be seen.
I was told to toughen up. Not to cry. Not to feel too much.
But how can we grow into resilient humans when we’re taught to hide the very feelings that make us human?
I thought I was learning strength. …
When Growth Comes with Grief Because People Still See the Old You
“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” ~Deepak Chopra
There’s a strange ache that comes with becoming healthy. Not the physical kind. The relational kind. The kind that surfaces when we’re no longer quite so wired to betray ourselves for belonging. When we stop curating ourselves to fit into spaces where we used to shrink, bend, or smile politely through the dissonance.
Years of hard work and effort, slowly unwrapping all those unhealthy ways of being in the world, cleaning off my lenses to see more clearly …
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