Nope. She was. Good luck with your new enterprise.

I feel like something is missing from this puzzle. How did the fight start? (You don’t actually have to respond, just think about it) She was aggravated from being sick and tired (in the literal sense) and you were aggravated from having to rush home after the meeting (?). It should’ve ended there, with you having your food and she getting her sleep. What more is there to talk about after that? Both had needs that were conflicting at that moment in time, but eventually everyone got what they needed.

I can definitely see myself in your girlfriend’s shoes… I am an extremely light sleeper and when my sleep is disrupted I get extremely irritated. It’s just one of those things, sleep is just so damn important to me, it brings me joy and happiness, and to have it ruined just sets me off. I also have a fiancé who likes watching TV late into the wee hours of the night while in bed. He also works a later shift than me (noon to 8pm) so he doesn’t need to go to bed that early anyway. And when he falls asleep, he just passes out for the night. Lucky him!

So I can imagine your GF wanting to rest as much as she can because she is ill as well, and being mad that you interrupted that, but the part about you saying that she tends to guilt trip you into coming home makes me think it’s more than that. Maybe she has trust issues. Maybe she’s got worst-case-scenerios running through her head (i.e. if you’re at home with her you’re not being shot or stabbed). Maybe she feels like the fact that you don’t rush home to her means that you don’t really love her (because we all learned some terrible lessons about how love works). Whatever the case, find a moment when both of you are calm and relaxed and talk things over. Communication of authentic feelings will illuminate any underlying issues.

Jade Chen is so write .. 🙂 And Jade .. yes sometimes I am like that too 🙂 Porterman I complain when he get’s out and forgets to come back a) because he knows I long to see him an do something together -> so here comes what Jade Chen said about your needs of together time .
b) When i see him more excited and happy with his friends than with me . maybe selfish but scares me ,maybe because our relationship is not strong enough.
There is also a problem when we have different expectations from each other. it gets messy 🙁 But since you want to solve it , everything will be ok 🙂
I have to deal with a wall 🙂 I hope that these situations are not often.
Maybe if I was in her place and I wanted so much to spend some time with you before sleeping , I would have asked you to go out with your partner before the appointment so we could synchronize a little . I think I would try to synchronize with you and I would expect the same from you in order to have a better flow and more time together 🙂 but again there are always other parameters .Talk Talk Talk to each other. explore your expectations from the relationship !! Good luck !

She is needing your attention. May be you have got busier with your new business and she’s feeling a lack of your time and attention. I think cold and sleep issues are being portrayed as a problem for you to figure out that you need to be there for her.

Attention works very differently for men and women. Men don’t need so much attention but some women do need and they really go crazy when they don’t have it. This has happened with me. You need to talk to your girlfriend and make her understand politely. Be frank with her, say that you love her but she is not correct to react this way (sulk). Make her understand that you’re working for both of you to have a better life; and you miss her more than she misses you….(She will stop sulking and ask..’really’?:-))Ask her to express whenever she is missing you but not go crazy like this as it could break the precious relation. And you don’t want that. And it should come from both the sides.

Look who’s writing this….:-) a person who is divorced and had another break-up! We fail when it comes to us.