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  • #449854
    silvery blue
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    I wanted to share one more thought…

    I want to be compassionate and respectful to you, so I won’t drag you into my own problems over and over again. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want to connect with you… I just believe that oversharing doesn’t connect us, but rather the opposite… I can’t quite put it into the right words now… I don’t want to burden you with my own problems – I take responsibility for them. I know I have to deal with myself and my own emotions on my own. I don’t want to drag you into it and drain you, hurt you… again and again… That’s why I have to solve it on my own… and kind of isolate myself a bit. But I do cherish your presence…

    Does it make sense to you? I cannot put my thoughts into words very well.

    🦋

    #449878
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Jana:

    (is “Dear” okay with you?)

    I just finished reading all your recent posts.

    In regard to the most recent, right above: are you talking to me, or to Everyone (me included, or me excluded). I don’t understand.. there’s no name next to “you”.

    Are you interested in me posting on this thread and addressing you directly (and respectfully)?

    🌿 Anita

    #449887
    silvery blue
    Participant

    Hello Anita, I am talking to everyone on this forum, including If you need to ask or process something very sensitive, you can write to me silvery8blue@gmail.com

    It is invitation for anyone who wants to speak to me.

    I don’t want to put anyone under more stress in public. People here deserve peace, compassion and respect.

    I do believe you have a lot of controlling habits, but I feel that you are not still open and ready to accept it. And thus I will not discuss it publicly with respect to others, because it could create more stress to all members here and it is not fair to them.

    You can write to me on my email.

    With all respect and compassion, Anita. 🙏

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    #449890
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Jana:

    If you change your mind, at any point, you are welcome to tell me here- for the first time- what you are referring to as a lot of controlling habits.

    With all respect and compassion, back to you, Jana!

    🌿 Anita

    #449919
    silvery blue
    Participant

    Anita

    It is a sensitive topic. I would like to discuss it by email privately: silvery8blue@gmail.com

    It is the most compassionate and respectful way with regard to everyone – you, me and other members here.

    🌸

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    #449952
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Jana:

    Like I expressed a short while ago, in my first post in the forums today, I am moving on from any and all conflict in the forums. I am taking in all that I learned recently and my intent is to put it into practice today and every day that follows.

    I don’t want to revisit history of conflicts, not here and not on email.

    Having said that, I want to encourage you to express yourself here in the forums, to be more active- if it suits you, to make your voice heard. I don’t own this space (the tiny buddha forums) any more than you do. This is a shared space and all are welcome.

    Does this, what I wrote here, reads reasonable to you?

    🌿 Anita

    #449953
    silvery blue
    Participant

    Yes, it does. Thank you. 🪷

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    #449955
    anita
    Participant

    You are welcome, and thank you 🕊️☘️🌈

    #450021
    silvery blue
    Participant

    Hello everyone,

    I would like to share my feelings with you. ❤️

    I decided that I would become less active here… and the one and only reason is that I need to get to know myself deeper. I know that I can connect with myself only when I am offline… in wild places where I feel connected, mindful, stable… Therefore, I will distance myself a bit.

    But remember it is only because I am working on being a better person… in order to become a better friend for you all. ❤️

    And one more thing:

    FRESH BEGINNING
    Of course we have made mistakes. Of course we have not been very skillful. Of course we have made ourselves and the people around us suffer. But that does not prevent us from improving, from transforming, from beginning anew. To begin anew is to look deeply and honestly at ourselves, our past actions, speech, and thoughts, and to create a fresh beginning within ourselves and in our relationships with others. The Buddha said that if you have not suffered, there is no way you can learn. We learn by making mistakes. We can begin anew at the last moment of the day and even at the last moment of our life. In one day, in twenty-four hours, you have hundreds of chances to begin anew.

    ❤️❤️❤️

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    #450022
    anita
    Participant

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    #450038
    Tee
    Participant

    This is so sweet of you to say, Jana. You’re such a good person, with a big heart, and your willingness to keep working on yourself, to keep improving, is remarkable. You’re also helping us all here by opening important topics, that may be uncomfortable to talk about, but are crucial for self-development.

    I wish you a lot of fulfilling time in nature and connecting to your deepest self. ❤️

    The quote about new beginnings is beautiful – indeed, every day is a chance for a new beginning, a new way to look at ourselves and the world. Every day is an opportunity to become more healed, more whole… ❤️

    I hope you don’t stay away for too long. Your presence here is much appreciated. ❤️

    #450044
    Alessa
    Participant

    Hi Yana

    Have a good time offline, thinking of you! ❤️

    Thank you for sharing such a wonderful passage. 🙏

    #450057
    Roberta
    Participant

    Dear Jana
    I get your need to step back from the intensity of it all.
    It would be nice if we could just walk together in nature enjoying a companiable silence instead of analyzing & fixing ourselves & each other , just like they do at Plum Village and other events held by Thic Nat Han & his sangha.
    warm regards Roberta

    #450087
    Lucidity
    Participant

    Hi Silvery Blue, Respect on taking time out for yourself and acting on the awareness that this is where you want to take your growth. All the best with this journey and perhaps see you back here in the future ❤️

    #450093
    Lucidity
    Participant

    Hi Alessa,

    Thank you for sharing how you navigate your way thro emotional moments. Dysregulation is still hard for me to navigate in real time despite having the know how going in and the endless list of experiences knowing what will happen if I just slow down versus push my way thro like a tornado. Once my anxiety goes up to a certain point tho, that deliciousness of putting my foot in my mouth is too tempting for me to resist every single time. When I write it out in black and white I see how ridiculous it is that I would make the wrong choice but I do – way too often 😅😕

    I like this – “I try to rate from 1-10 the realistic severity of the situation and try to self-soothe to match emotional intensity of the number.” Will try this out (altho I’m sure the taste of my foot will tempt me)

    ❤️

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