Hello Michelle, enjoy your hike.

Both of me and her are seeking our happiness and if only the happiness that we seek are each other of us.

As of now, somehow it isn’t the right time to bring up the topic but I wish something romantically will have happened between us. I was surprised that she didn’t bring up the topic regarding me having a crush on her.

But her negligence towards friends or people can be risky because people might misinterpret her to be unfriendly and less caring. It is important how we treat every individual fairly and equally no matter how much or close we know the person.

Actually, I did bring up, stating that she used to be engaging in conversation and I enjoy my conversation with her but somehow she starts to be less engaging these days. I also told her that I care but my mistake was I care too much and it may seem to be annoying at times. I do agree that at times when she needed her alone time, I am being too pushy to find out what’s wrong with her or perhaps it is just because I care too much for her. Maybe even being thoughtful has its limits too.  Will it be too much if I ask that she enjoy my company at times if it seems appropriate?

I don’t go out with her often, most of the times we will turn up for colleagues gathering. Actually a few months ago, she did ask me out because both of us got a place we want to visit and it is still in the midst of planning out the activities that we will be doing. But I am taking it as a friend outing even though a few of my friends that I share this with are saying that it is a date.

I haven’t been texting her for a few days even though I am tempted to at times, but the way it is, texting her is a way for me to know how she is feeling because sometimes we don’t get to talk to each other at work.

I am actually scared but not because to lose her but more of affecting what it is between us. Both of us are still treating each other as friends. But I realise that what if I misinterpret my own feelings, I treat her as a good friend but I thought it is a crush but somehow every day, I am often concerned about how she is.

Hello Anita

It is more of the space given to her, the personal space that she needs. Caring too much is more of when she says she need her alone time, I should give it to her instead of insisting her not to bottle up and says out her issue or problem.

Am I right about it?

Hello Michelle

I tend to give her compliment at times, I guess it is fine to do so? Actually, she can be hard to read at times even from her expression unless she is enjoying herself. I realise at times, I find myself looking or staring at her and vice versa.

I am insecure because I wasn’t sure enough if I am worthy for her. In the past, I was rejected before by another girl and it didn’t end well so it kind of haunts me somehow, thus creating a fear of rejection or to take the next step. I do realise that I check in on her more often than in the past.

Honesty and trust is one of the aspects in forging a connection with someone, thus I have always been honest and truthful about my views or opinions on certain topics or conversations. Just that I find myself to be very talkative at times.

Hello Michelle

I agree. Sometimes, she did ask if I am willing to tolerate all her negative points, I told her I am willing but she says she couldn’t. But I guess she was asking in the perspective of a friend. I did have doubts in her before, wondering if she is just toying with my feelings.

The previous girl, I was so certain she was the one and I believe I can get her to be with me. But somehow, I dive in too deep and got hurt badly thus causing me to have the fear and be very cautious. I realise that when I am being too nice, I tend to get into the friend-zone easily. People often say that I am a nice person, why do I not have a girlfriend, that question has keep me wondering too.

It is more of engaging with her in conversation, to find out how is she and what is she doing. Somehow she is becoming less interested, but it could be because she has already gotten used to me being around her. Sometimes, I do have the feeling of insecure but not to the extent of asking insecure questions.

I do agree that our conversations have become heavier and more serious. In the past, mostly she is the one that often approaches me to share everything but nowadays, somehow I am being the one that approaches her more to find out from her. So probably, I should give her some space instead of being too clingy towards her.

I am not sure is it because of my text conversations that cause her to be in this manner, asking her non-open ended questions, expecting an answer instead of having a conversation. Because I am always curious.

Hello Michelle, adding to the point

Does my situation considered to be unrequited love?