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  • #305735

    pete
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    I only say that because like you said…”even though you didn’t and don’t see her as often as you’d like (not even close)”.  Also like I text her to call me or text me in a day or 2 and we can set something up but I ended up having to text her last night or once again nothing would get done. It’s boring doing all the effort, so i’m no longer going to put in the effort.

    #305739

    anita
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    Dear blkhwkdwn1:

    I know how frustrated you’ve been for so very long doing so much of the effort, and for talking to and seeing her so rarely, so I understand that you don’t want to do that anymore.

    I will be back in about 13 hours.

    anita

    #305985

    pete
    Participant

    To be honest, not sure if she will pay me back fully. On the way through the trail just before she said how huge what I did was for her she wanted to ask me if she can give me a big chunk and forget about the rest because she has a lot of things going on so I said sure. Later on she was mentioning some day down the line saying something about paying me but not sure what she meant and was saying she does not want money to get between the 2 of us, told her when I left “we are square now”. She was also saying how her mother and sister really wanted to help her out but they could not afford it. I really don’t have an urge to message her, call her, hang out with her since we hung out. It’s just…meh. It was a good time together but it was just ok. Nothing like that summer, not really thinking about it this week.

     

    BTW…just started messaging a girl on tinder I hit “super like” to, she liked me back and she was telling me she would love to go up the mountain I go to (the one me and the lady this thread is about went to yesterday) a few days a week, so offered her to join me tomorrow but she’s busy and is free next week. Got a girl on POF that’s talking to me, should ask her to hang out, and a customer at my work been meaning to ask out, pretty sure she’s really into me. Always wants to hug me, met my pops and joked if he wondered if we were boyfriend and girlfriend and joked back he was and we were. So at least I got these other girls and I am not just going for the 1 that’s only into me as an acquantance. I say acquantance because we barely hang out and she never calls and takes forever to text me although I see her on her phone and she responds fast to others when we were hanging out and it makes a loud dinging noise.

    #305997

    pete
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    Maybe not in the “super like” woman. She lasted 1 day and gave up on the app because all the guys only want sex. Ahwell, next!

    #306045

    anita
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    Dear blkhwkdwn1:

    The one who you super liked gave up  on the app “because all the guys only want sex”- but you didn’t express that, did you? If not, I wonder why she expressed to you that all the guys only want sex.

    I have a complete understanding why you don’t want to hang on to the woman this thread is about. You need way more than an acquaintance kind of relationship (“I am not just going for the 1 that’s only into me as an acquaintance”). You want a woman who will pay you way more attention, spend way more time with you, prefer your company over the company of friends and acquaintances, in other words, you want a special friend, aka a girlfriend.

    anita

    #306063

    pete
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    She later asked for my cell number after telling her I am not looking for sex, just friends.

     

    As for the other part. Yeah, guess so. But I see and hear about friends hanging out all the time but she doesn’t hang out with her friends that often. Took 7 months to hang out with her “best friend of 20 years”. Another she wants to hang out with she’s not seen in a year. I already told her I don’t wanna be one of those people that only gets a few times a year and doing the same thing all the time with her family is much more priority then friends, which she already said was not a priority (I guess I could improve my friendships were her words). Like I said, moving on now. Especially now that she’s moving.

    #306067

    anita
    Participant

    Dear blkhwkdwn1:

    I understand you moving on, especially now that she is moving. When will you be taking your driver’s license tests?

    anita

    #306345

    pete
    Participant

    No clue tbh. I saw the woman at work today as I was leaving so talked for a few minutes. Told her one of the girls I am meeting up next week with I am taking her to the place we go, she said “Oh taking her to our spot?” joking most likely, she wont really care lol.

     

    Got 2 girls (1 tinder, 1 POF) I am hanging out with next week as we are all only looking for friends and been talking to this older woman and kinda hit it off right away and she would love to keep talking to me later, but she’s from the states lmao. POF had her on my front page so I commented on her scarf and it went from there. Told her POF wanted me to message her so I did.

     

    On POF and tinder all I pretty much do is look at their profiles and comment on something from their pictures. I ain’t the “Hey pretty” or just “Hello” guy, that’s SO BORING! I gotta joke around about something in their picture, like the POF girl I am meeting up with had a picture of a mammoth behind her, so I said”Are you a time traveler? because there is a MAMMOTH behind you” and she laughed and said that was a really good line.

    #306375

    anita
    Participant

    Dear blkhwkdwn1:

    I smiled myself (still smiling) at your great line: “Are you a time traveler? because there is a MAMMOTH behind you”- brilliant, I say!

    I hope the meeting next week takes place and I hope to read about it!

    anita

    #306429

    pete
    Participant

    I’ll let you know.

     

    The one above I told you about, then the tinder one deleted her tinder as she was looking for friends but all the guys there wanted sex and she’s got no libido and has thanked me for not being a douche to her and she really wants to meet me for some hiking. The USA woman I was thinking if I had my papssport I could take a cheap ferry ride over from where I live all the way to where she lives, it’s like 1 maybe 2 hours I guess? Port Angeles. Here is how it went at the end.

     

    Me: Next time you go to the beach send me an invite. 🙂

    Her: 🙂 Definitely

    Me: Awesome. 🙂 Have yourself a great day, I am getting off POF for a while, maybe we can talk again.

    Her: Love to!

    Me: 🙂

    Her: 🙂

     

    I’ll message her tomorrow. She’s much older then me (49 vs 35) so that’s probably why she’s talking to me haha.

     

    Talking to another one, challenged her to a race and was saying I bet I could beat her. My mountain bike against her motorbike, winner gets bragging rights and loser I guess no bragging rights. Commented on her ham, told me she ate it all but she has more in the freezer! (a subtle hint maybe 😉 ) told her next time maybe.

    #306449

    pete
    Participant

    Ok creepy…I have not seen this woman for years and she shows up at my work and remembers me (used to work together, she also used to work at my current work), we said hello and stuff and she’s drop dead gorgeous, just saw her and read her POF profile. What are the odds? Did not message her, that would be creepy IMO. What are the chances?

     

    also one of the bumble girls that I really dug her and we messaged for hours before she unmatched me, just saw her on POF lmao.

    #306471

    anita
    Participant

    Dear blkhwkdwn1:

    You are hilarious but be serious sometimes, after all, you want a love relationship, not just opportunities to practice comedy. Remember I said you are a loving man? Not just a funny man, but a loving man. So you want a love relationship, go for that !

    “What are the chances?”, you mean the chances for you dating that gorgeous woman? If this is what you mean, why not message her on POF- but again, don’t just be funny, be… serious, because I want to see you in a love relationship!

    anita

     

    #306479

    pete
    Participant

    That woman said her motorbike was not insured so I would win and loser will have to recieve a back massage, obviously I had to accept. 😉 But then she stopped messaging me back. If I had my bike license and a bike and hers was insured we could go on long bike rides together instead of a date. Something more creative and I would try and get bike helmets with mics so we could talk, those moto vlogs have them.

    What are the chances meaning I saw her on POF just hours after talking to her at my work.

     

    Been talking with another 2, 1 is wheelchair stuck because of a lot of issues, the other is another American woman. We will unite our 2 countries together and rule the world together but I told her we need money so our first thing would be a kick starter campaign. Now she thinks I am just too hilarious.

    All this messaging back and fourth with women has been really exhausting though. I also don’t really know what to do after the initial first day so normally that’s the end of that. Or if they don’t respond I think they are done with me so I don’t message again.  Or if it’s all 1 or 2 words and see a trend of this happening I see they aren’t into what I am saying, so I stop messaging. I peak too early? I’d like to have a love relationship one day, just need to get out of the woman this thread is about and have fun with many others. But I really need to work on myself before I can do that.

     

    I’ll message back sometime next week.

    #306509

    anita
    Participant

    Dear blkhwkdwn1:

    I know you are hilarious, but like I said, you need to look for more than short, hilarious communications. I mean, look for a girlfriend, not for entertainment online. I have known you for so long in the context of your thread, and I believe that I know what I am talking about here. And you agree: “I’d like to have a love relationship one day”. Do you need to “have fun with many others”- I don’t think so. I think you need just one, one woman for a serious relationship.

    If you are clear about your objective (a serious love relationship with one woman) then you will  operate online, on POF, differently than you would if your objective is to “have fun with many (women)”.

    Looking forward to you messaging me next week.

    anita

    #306765

    pete
    Participant

    The american woman I posted our convo has ghosted me, one of the ones I was going to meet with the no libido ended things because I am  working and wont be able to hang out also she was looking to go halfers for a cheap bed and breakfast room, the other one ghosted me (both just looking for friends too). I’m done with these online women, they are just straight up messed up. I’m just going to work on myself and maybe one day i’ll try again when I am in shape, got my license (so I can drive whatever miles to them), my social skills, maybe try meetup.com if I want friends because POF/Tinder are full of people I rather not be around. Lone wolf life for a while. No wonder online dating gets shit on lmao! Meet people in person is by far the better way anyway.

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