Dear Gaia:

You posted three posts following my post to you. The first was not addressed to anyone, the second was addressed to another member, and the third, most recent was not addressed to anyone. Who are you posting to.. who do you want to read your posts that are not addressed to anyone?

anita

Dear Gaia:

Okay, so when you address me by name, I will definitely answer. When you address “anyone who had joined this topic” and you don’t ask a question, then I figure you are venting and will not reply.

Personally, I don’t see a need for me to reply to a question that wasn’t asked. But other members may and you are always welcome to vent here, anytime!

anita

Dear Gaia:

I didn’t want you to think I am ignoring you when I don’t reply to some of your posts.

With a clear understanding, I will feel comfortable (and not burdened) to not reply to some of your posts (those that are not addressed to me and where you don’t ask a question or request advice), and you will know when to expect a reply from me and when not to.

anita

Dear Gaia:

Your story reminds me of my story, when I was about thirty I lived in a very small studio apartment. One evening, I was wearing a wide brown cotton skirt, and was too close to the electric hotplate. My skirt caught fire big time. I couldn’t believe it, fire all around me. Well, luckily I wasn’t burnt, only the skirt. Another day, in that same apartment, I turned the water faucet on in the morning. When I returned in the evening I realized that I forgot to turn the water faucet off and the apartment was flooded. Next morning, the wooden floor rose to create waves, like solid waves of an ocean. There was no way to fix that.

Do pay close attention in the future to not repeat that particular mistake and any other that can create fire or a safety hazard. I hope your roommates will be careful as well.

anita

Dear Gaia:

But you are not dumb! Don’t say that about yourself again!

You had a good idea: put a wet blanket by the heater and it will dry, an intelligent idea. Did you ever put a wet something near a heater so it dries? If you did, I bet what happened was that it did get dry, so you figured yesterday to do the same.

Maybe you watched someone in your life place something wet by a heater and it got dry, so yesterday you figured that you’ll do the same.

We learn from experience and what worked well before, we do again.

Now let’s say you heard before, or were told in  a class to not put fabrics by a source of heat. That was a sentence you heard, not an experience you had. We forget most words we hear and remember our experience instead.

So now, you have a new experience, now you will remember to not place fabrics by a source of heat.

Gaia, please don’t call yourself dumb again, it makes me cringe!

anita

Dear Gaia:

It makes me cringe because it is not true and it is rude to say: you are dumb!- it is rude to say it to another person, and it is equally rude  to say it to yourself.

anita

Dear Gaia:

I tis very difficult to change one’s mindset. When the mindset is that of self loathing, it is very difficult to stop getting angry at yourself and at people when you feel that they too think that you deserve loathing.

It is very difficult to stop being angry (at oneself and at others).

anita