January 14, 2020 at 1:08 am #333313
For example right now I have so much shit to do. Cleaning up my space, study for my exams etc .. but I’m still sitting here scrolling on my phone. Another snobbed early alarm, lmaoJanuary 14, 2020 at 7:26 am #333349
You posted three posts following my post to you. The first was not addressed to anyone, the second was addressed to another member, and the third, most recent was not addressed to anyone. Who are you posting to.. who do you want to read your posts that are not addressed to anyone?
anitaJanuary 14, 2020 at 8:11 am #333361
The first one was addressed to you, the third was meant for anyone who had joined this topic and wanted to answer or add somethingJanuary 14, 2020 at 8:29 am #333377
Okay, so when you address me by name, I will definitely answer. When you address “anyone who had joined this topic” and you don’t ask a question, then I figure you are venting and will not reply.
Personally, I don’t see a need for me to reply to a question that wasn’t asked. But other members may and you are always welcome to vent here, anytime!
anitaJanuary 14, 2020 at 9:13 am #333397
<p style=”text-align: center;”>I didn’t feel like I was venting, but maybe I did the mistake to start using this thread as a chat where one (I) says something and anyone can feel free to comment. I will definitely address you specifically from this time on, hoping it’s not burdening you
January 14, 2020 at 9:31 am #333411
- This reply was modified 5 months, 4 weeks ago by Gaia.
I didn’t want you to think I am ignoring you when I don’t reply to some of your posts.
With a clear understanding, I will feel comfortable (and not burdened) to not reply to some of your posts (those that are not addressed to me and where you don’t ask a question or request advice), and you will know when to expect a reply from me and when not to.
anitaJanuary 14, 2020 at 4:04 pm #333477
Tonight for my stupidity I almost killed my roommates, by putting a wet blanket against a heater. When I went to check if it was dry enough to my horror I saw a small fire burning the heater, my blanket and a small part of forniture. If everything is safe now is because of one of my roommate cold reasoning that managed to suffucate the fire, while my stupid idea was to throw water at it. Gosh. There’s smoke all around the house, ashes of blankets and my own heater is completely destroyed. I can’t believe I caused all of it for a stupid idea I hadJanuary 14, 2020 at 4:33 pm #333479
Your story reminds me of my story, when I was about thirty I lived in a very small studio apartment. One evening, I was wearing a wide brown cotton skirt, and was too close to the electric hotplate. My skirt caught fire big time. I couldn’t believe it, fire all around me. Well, luckily I wasn’t burnt, only the skirt. Another day, in that same apartment, I turned the water faucet on in the morning. When I returned in the evening I realized that I forgot to turn the water faucet off and the apartment was flooded. Next morning, the wooden floor rose to create waves, like solid waves of an ocean. There was no way to fix that.
Do pay close attention in the future to not repeat that particular mistake and any other that can create fire or a safety hazard. I hope your roommates will be careful as well.
January 15, 2020 at 12:58 am #333553
- This reply was modified 5 months, 3 weeks ago by anita.
Yes I definitely hope not to repeat something like that. I feel very shitty, maybe I wouldn’t be so shitty if the idea behind it all wasn’t so dumb and would just accept it was an accident but I’m hopelessly dumb I guess. My roommates acted like it was no big deal but they were definitely scared and I’m pretty sure they consider me even dumber than before nowJanuary 15, 2020 at 5:16 am #333563
But you are not dumb! Don’t say that about yourself again!
You had a good idea: put a wet blanket by the heater and it will dry, an intelligent idea. Did you ever put a wet something near a heater so it dries? If you did, I bet what happened was that it did get dry, so you figured yesterday to do the same.
Maybe you watched someone in your life place something wet by a heater and it got dry, so yesterday you figured that you’ll do the same.
We learn from experience and what worked well before, we do again.
Now let’s say you heard before, or were told in a class to not put fabrics by a source of heat. That was a sentence you heard, not an experience you had. We forget most words we hear and remember our experience instead.
So now, you have a new experience, now you will remember to not place fabrics by a source of heat.
Gaia, please don’t call yourself dumb again, it makes me cringe!
anitaJanuary 15, 2020 at 5:38 am #333571
Yeah, definitely such an experience will not be something I’ll forget easily, if anything, it’s pushing me to be more aware and mindful of how I behave around electricity and fire (it also needs to be added that because of this the whole building risked to be left without electricity, or worse, the fire could reach other apartments, I thank God no one was in the elevator in that moment, for example)
Why me saying that I’m dumb makes you cringe?January 15, 2020 at 7:38 am #333585
It makes me cringe because it is not true and it is rude to say: you are dumb!- it is rude to say it to another person, and it is equally rude to say it to yourself.
anitaJanuary 15, 2020 at 8:51 am #333599
I know. I try and try again to change my mindset but I always fall into self loathing and destructive habits. I’m glad I’ve found this site by the way, it’s a blessingJanuary 15, 2020 at 9:47 am #333605
I tis very difficult to change one’s mindset. When the mindset is that of self loathing, it is very difficult to stop getting angry at yourself and at people when you feel that they too think that you deserve loathing.
It is very difficult to stop being angry (at oneself and at others).
anitaJanuary 15, 2020 at 10:33 am #333617
I know. What’s worse is that I’m doing all of this alone, there’s no one I can really honest with in real life besides this community.
Did you also experience this kind of self loathing? (I ask cause we share many common points)