I wanted to respond with my story, but I’m sad to see all the responders are from years ago so I feel a little bit alone. But I’m hoping someone will see this. A year ago in July, I was at my permit test (yes I am young, but please don’t let that take away of how serious it is I feel) and my boyfriend surprised me with flowers at the dmv. My mom said I could go spend time with him and at that time it’s been 6 months with him. We hung out in his car and we were going to do the deed, but I wasn’t as aroused. (Which has been happening a lot and I found out it was because of my birth control) He looked sad because he thought I wasn’t attracted to him anymore. I told him it’s not his fault and I just don’t know why I haven’t been in the mood lately. As we sat there in the car I began to cry and I suddenly felt and extreme dread inside me and I thought “what if I don’t love him anymore?” And after he took me home I felt EXTREMELY sick and I was crying and panicking and that led to an extreme downhill spiral. I was so worried because I loved him more than anything and I wanted to spend my life with him he treats me unlike any other guy I have seen or met. So a week passes and I couldn’t shake the feeling. I told him how I was feeling and his heart broke, but he said we could get through this. Months go by with endless doctors appointments and yet he was supportive of any decision I made, all he worried about was my health. Everyday I would cry and soon I became extremely depressed and suicidal and I was afraid to get better in fear of my feelings not coming back. I had times where I felt hopeful and like I felt the love, but they didn’t last long. Soon school started again (he had graduated and I was in senior year) I cried in school a lot. Overtime for some reason I got better and fell back in love with him and I was happy, but I could never shake the thoughts of “I don’t know if he’s going to be the one I marry” “maybe there is someone better” then quarantine began and at first everything was okay and we were good although we couldn’t talk as much I was okay with it because I know we were both occupied. The past week though it came back and in full force. I feel extremely numb and I think I just need to break up with him, but I just can’t. I’m so angry and I don’t understand why this ever happened. I can’t stay with him, but I also don’t want to be without him. I’ve told him that these feelings are resurfacing and that I’m becoming depressed again and he’s always pushing me to heal and get out of this depression, but I don’t want to. He’s still so optimistic and I can’t help, but feel like I deserve to suffer for all the good things he’s done For me and how much I put him through. Thinking of everything that’s going to change and the fact that he is my best friend and I don’t have anyone else I’m close to. He still loves me so much and I feel like I deserve to suffer for putting him through so much. I try to keep hope and think that we’re still young so maybe we have some growing to do on our own and maybe in the future we can join together again even better, but right now I can’t think of being with anybody. If we don’t end up getting back together again I don’t think I can be with anyone else. I get sick thinking of being with anyone else besides him. I haven’t done it yet, but I’m so nervous I don’t want him to leave my life. I pray everyday that he find someone better and that he can get over me even if it hurts and I am alone. I care for him a lot. And I feel as if I cannot allow myself to be happy unless he is. I’ve just became extremely depressed again and I’d rather not exist than to feel what I’m feeling and to make him feel horrible.

• This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by tinybuddha.

As we all know Breaking up with someone, is a very bad phase of our Life.

And we all have to go through that Phase today or someday of our Life.

So here is a list of Some Best Motivational Broken Heart Quotes, which will Heal your Heart & help you Move On In Your Life:-

1. If I could show you how awful you made me feel, you would never be able to look me in the eyes again.
2. Learning how to leave people alone & go on with your life is a needed skill. You must master it….
3. When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.
4. The past can’t hurt you anymore, not unless you let it.
5. I am not AFRAID to Walk the World ALONE
6. Love that remains longest in your heart is the one that is not returned.
7. I gave you my heart, I just didn’t expect to get it back in pieces.
8. This time I wouldn’t forget him, because I couldn’t ever forgive him – for breaking my heart twice.

• This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by tinybuddha.
• This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by tinybuddha.

I have just told my boyfriend of a year that I needed a break to think about our relationship and if it’s gonna work. I have this problem of not understanding my own emotions until it’s very late… Until he read it from my body language and the expressions of my face. We both graduated and things just didn’t feel the same anymore and I was growing uncertain of our future together and if there ever could be one. I wanted to be alone. That was just it, I wanted to be alone cause our dates felt like work and I felt constantly on surveillance with how he accurately read everything my body displayed. He is the most loving person I’ve ever met. He loves me so much and I know that for a fact so when I finally met with him after 12 days of asking for a break and telling him I need more time so I can be absolutely sure about my feelings so I won’t cause any of us regrets in the future and when he started telling me how much he loves, how I was his only source of hope and why he was looking forward for the future how he wanted to marry me how we could never love anyone else how he’d imagined we’d last forever how all he’s been doing was to have a good life with me and when he said all this over and over fighting off tears…. I felt wretched! I felt so dirty and so cruel and heartless. Why did I start this whole thing if I was gonna be like this in the end?? I couldn’t bear the pain of causing HIM pain! But I was unhappy too. Our conversations were dull and strained, I had to always order coffee or soda to save money and not stress him out either since he’s also a fresh graduate with a job that pays so little! We weren’t in that comfortable-talk-nonsense-leave-satisfied kind of relationship… We never had that. Since the very start I was the one coming up with topics to talk about but somehow he seemed absolutely fine with our dates as long as I was there. But I wasn’t. And he read it off my face which stressed me even more. I broke out crying in the middle of the road after I hurriedly left the cafe when he said all those things and my mind went numb. He came and hugged me and I just sobbed like a baby. I wanted to die.

I told my father today about it after my mom insisted about asking my father’s advice and he immediately told me to pray and repent for ruining this man’s life for dragging him into this and not seeing this to the end. For being like my aunt who married a man who constantly abuses her when she rejected another guy who loves her so much. Who cried about her since he was very heartbroken. He asked how I’m any different from any heathen girl. What are my reasons for wanting to leave him? Did I just not like him anymore? That’s it??? I just stared at him with no answer and just said goodnight and left their bedroom. I fear God will punish me for breaking his heart and I’m entertaining the idea of staying in the relationship anyway and just seeing how it goes… I’m also thinking about leaving early in the morning tomorrow to go somewhere where I can be alone, we have church tomorrow and they’ll probably kill me especially mom but I can not be with them like this.

I don’t know what to do.

I’m in the same situation , the breakup was yesterday. After almost 3 years. My heart aches.

Lease tell me it gets better

We probably never will be friends. How did it work out for you? Did you just forget what’s missing after some month or years?

Lease tell me it gets better.

I really understand what you feel, I would like to share my story as I am facing a potential break up today. My guy of two years on  one month ago told me that he is not feeling the same way anymore, we have the most perfect relationship that when i try to figure out what might have happened, i still do not understand.  I tred to ask him what brought the problem he said it nothing his feelings are not just the same and he feels like we should break up as he doesn’t want a recurrence in the future. We agreed to work out for a moth on the connection he said there is an improvement but not enough, i tried to talk with him but he said he need some space to navigate through his feelings which we did a two week break. The  two weeks is now over but he has already told me there is no way to save our relationship. We agreed to meet for a dialogue, but i guess i know deep down what is going to happen but still in denial. Seeing all of you go through something similar is giving hope, but i don’t know if i will be able to handle the breakup well. My Heart is already heavy

By perfect I mean, We really never had a heated argument. We always try to solve the problem immediately, I felt at home when I am with him and very peaceful. We used to spend alot of time together, share ideas, go out with friends. I really felt this was where I belonged and currently is like am hitting a hard rock. You are right he doesn’t want to explain anything but I need answers for me to move on, and I feel this type of rejection is driving me crazy.

I try to compose myself but we have really never actually talked seriously about what is happening to us now.

I prepared for the meeting but he postponed, and when I told him it’s gonna be a long talk he simply said “no it’s not”. Why can’t we just hear each other out?

Dear allette:

I hope that you are feeling better today..?

You shared that you’ve been in a relationship with your boyfriend for 2 years. A month ago, he told you “that he is not feeling the same way anymore“. You asked him “what brought the problem“?, and “he said it (is) nothing, his feelings are not just the same, and he feels like we should break up as he doesn’t want a recurrence in the future“.

The two of you then agreed “to work out for a month on the connection“,  and the result, 2 weeks later: “he said there is an improvement but not enough… he said he need some space to navigate through his feelings“.

The two of you then took a 2-weeks break, which ended yesterday (Sat, Feb 10), when he told you that “there is no way to save our relationship“. The two of you agreed “to meet for a dialogue“, but he postponed meeting you, and by yesterday afternoon (your 2nd post), you did not meet for a dialogue, “he doesn’t want to explain anything… we have really never actually talked seriously about what is happening to us now“.

I will be trying to bring up possibilities in the following quotes & comments as to what’s been happening in your relationship. These are only possibilities based on the little information that you provided in only 2 posts:

“When I told him it’s gonna be a long talk, he simply said ‘no it’s not‘. Why can’t we just hear each other out?“- you did not ask or suggest to him that the two of you will have a talk, and a long talk at that.. you told him. And like a child who does not like to be told what to do/ to be bossed around, he said: NO, IT’S NOT (going to be a long talk)..?

“We have the most perfect relationship…   By perfect I mean, We really never had a heated argument. We always try to solve the problem immediately“- there were arguments (although not heated arguments). I wonder how those arguments were resolved and if they were resolved to his satisfaction. Maybe some heat built up in him during many (?) not quite resolved arguments, and that heat caused him to end the relationship eventually.

Maybe he is and has been a selfish, heartless man who does not care about most or all other people, including about his girlfriend of 2 years. Maybe he felt powerless in the relationship (for valid and/ or invalid reasons) and wants his power back…?

anita