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August 31, 2021 at 10:53 am #385503
SPDMParticipantDear Anita,
well I think mostly about the excessive overthinking and that the problem is not about my sexual orientation but because of my overthinking I guess? But I don’t know why it doesn’t leave and even though sometimes I feel better I just have this constant feeling that I like women and that’s it and I don’t what to do to stop it
August 31, 2021 at 11:07 am #385504
AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
“the excessive overthinking“- (1) did you suffer from excessive overthinking in regard to other topics, in the past, and (2) did you ever see a doctor or a therapist in regard to your excessive overthinking?
anita
August 31, 2021 at 11:11 am #385505SPDMParticipantDear Anita,
no I have never seen a doctor or a therapist for my ever thinking I know that it destroys me from the inside out but I don’t wanna get over it on my own I want to try at least. The problem is that sometimes I call myself from these thoughts and when I think of my boyfriend I feel bad and he makes me feel like I’m not attracted to him anymore and these thoughts come back and what does that could mean? Does that mean I am bi? I don’t want at all to ruin my relationship…
August 31, 2021 at 11:13 am #385506SPDMParticipantOr worse does that mean that I’m not attracted to men anymore? Even though I think of us doing something and I feel something then comes what I presented you before…
August 31, 2021 at 11:17 am #385507SPDMParticipantOn the first message I wanted to say that I feel bad and this makes me feel like I’m not attracted to him anymore and that I like women, I wrote it wrong, I’m sorry. Just like I said I just want that to go away I don’t want you to mean something and I want everything to go back to normal…Sorry for annoying you…
August 31, 2021 at 11:32 am #385508AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
“Sorry for annoying you“- you figure that you are annoying me because you keep asking the same questions, don’t you, asking other people the same questions over and over again and some of those people get annoyed with you?
anita
August 31, 2021 at 11:51 am #385510SPDMParticipantHello Anita,
I don’t know but I don’t to put pressure on you…Besides that, I just want all of these thoughts gone…Because it ruins my relationship with my boyfriend…Because I think that I’m not attracted to him anymore because of all that and I never thought of that before even when these thoughts occurred again…I don’t know what to do…
August 31, 2021 at 12:03 pm #385511AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
“it ruins my relationship with my boyfriend… I don’t know what to do“-
– I suggest that you make an appointment with your family doctor, if you have one, or a medical doctor otherwise, and describe to the doctor your current excessive overthinking (about your sexual orientation), and your history with excessive thinking (on other topics).
anita
August 31, 2021 at 12:06 pm #385512SPDMParticipantDear Anita,
so just like the others, you think is anxiety and overthinking not about my sexual orientation right?
August 31, 2021 at 12:06 pm #385513SPDMParticipantBecause I really don’t want it to be that I am bi…
August 31, 2021 at 12:20 pm #385514AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
Yes, I think that you are suffering from anxiety and overthinking. It would be so good for you if you calmed down and slowed down your thinking.
anita
August 31, 2021 at 12:21 pm #385515SPDMParticipantI just read though that if I was bi or lesbian the thought of being with someone would not don’t disgust me. Personally it doesn’t, I just have never done it and I don’t know if I could at the end. I’ve had several dreams of me doing it and had no problem I woke up thinking that oh then I have no problem and the thoughts were coming back again stronger but as a girl said I don’t want to be with them I want to be them, you know what I mean… I just don’t want to be bi or anything but I don’t know why that’s happening and why every time I think of my boyfriend even though I love him and I don’t wanna lose him the thoughts come back and I feel like I’m not attracted to him anymore and to men in general just to women even though I’ve never done something? Does that mean I’m bi? Because I don’t want too…
August 31, 2021 at 12:51 pm #385517SPDMParticipantDear Anita,
I just read though that if I was bi or lesbian the thought of being with someone would not don’t disgust me. Personally it doesn’t, I just have never done it and I don’t know if I could at the end. I’ve had several dreams of me doing it and had no problem I woke up thinking that oh then I have no problem and the thoughts were coming back again stronger but as a girl said I don’t want to be with them I want to be them, you know what I mean… I just don’t want to be bi or anything but I don’t know why that’s happening and why every time I think of my boyfriend even though I love him and I don’t wanna lose him the thoughts come back and I feel like I’m not attracted to him anymore and to men in general just to women even though I’ve never done something? Does that mean I’m bi? Because I don’t want too…
August 31, 2021 at 1:03 pm #385518AnonymousGuestDear Bella:
I understand that you don’t want to be bisexual and that the thought bothers you a lot. I think that it will be helpful to you to (1) no longer watch pornography and (2) see a medical doctor as I suggested earlier.
I wish you well.
anita
August 31, 2021 at 1:05 pm #385519SPDMParticipantDear Anita,
So you don’t think I’m bi or anything right?
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