“The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.” -Henry David Thoreau
Yesterday I helped a friend with a project that he’d spent a lot of time, money, and energy planning as a surprise for someone he loves. I knew it meant a lot to him to do this–and do it well.… Read More
“If you worry about what might be, and wonder what might have been, you will ignore what is.” ~Unknown
This weekend, I devoted an extensive amount of time to writing something I’ve been struggling to complete. I wrote and rewrote so many times that it felt like more like destruction than creation, but I’ve come to realize that chaos is often the path to clarity.… Read More
“The best things in life are unexpected, because there were no expectations.” -Eli Khamarov
There was a time when I hesitated to accept unsolicited offers of support. If someone suggested a way they could help me, I assumed they were looking for something specific in return. This made me somewhat defensive, because there were and are a lot of things I don’t want to do.… Read More
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“Sometimes we have to go right into the fire in order to find our true healing.” ~Jack Kornfield
No matter who you are, no matter what you’ve accomplished, no matter how well you’ve planned, you will deal with challenges in life.… Read More
“The future is completely open, and we are writing it moment to moment.” -Pema Chodron
A while back, a reader commented that it’s easy for me to suggest tomorrow is full of possibilities, since I am relatively young. An older woman, she believed her options were far more limited, and that even if she could do the things she wanted to do, they wouldn’t count–not at her age.… Read More
“Success will never be a big step in the future; success is a small step taken just now.” ~Jonatan Mårtensson
We often talk about releasing the fear of failure to create motivation and momentum, but I’ve found that there’s another obstacle that can keep us from taking risks: the fear of success.… Read More
“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” -William James
Last year, someone emailed me Seth Godin’s inspiring blog post You Matter. That one act made a huge difference in my day, so I’d like to build on that now.
- When you show up for the people in your life, even though you’re having a hard day, you make a difference.
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“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” ~Paul Boese
In a previous post about forgiveness, I mentioned that I spent years holding onto anger toward someone who hurt me repeatedly years ago.
I eventually realized that forgiving this person was the only way to set myself free.… Read More
“To become truly great, one has to stand with people, not above them.” -Charles de Montesquieu
There is a very specific type of post I look for when reading guest contributions. It’s not expert advice, though clearly it helps to have a thorough knowledge of a topic. It’s not beautiful prose, though obviously it’s enjoyable to receive a post that reads like poetry.… Read More
“Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
Many times in life we ask questions of people and then put way too much weight on their answers.
We ask people we admire if they think we have what it takes, and then consider their opinions fact.… Read More
“Not what we have but what we enjoy constitutes our abundance.” -John Petit-Senn
It’s such a cliche, but true: money cannot buy happiness. It can influence happiness, since it can afford us necessities, a comfortable lifestyle, and opportunities that may increase our overall life satisfaction; but money, in itself, is not the abundance we seek.… Read More
“Change is not a process for the impatient.” -Barbara Reinhold
A while back, a Tiny Buddha contributor commented that she was feeling like a fraud for struggling to take advice she’d offered in an article. I told her I could relate. I’ve written more than 600 wisdom-themed blog posts over the past few years, meaning there is abundant potential for me to contradict something I’ve previously explored in my writing.… Read More
“Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real.” -Unknown
Sometimes we feel certain that we know exactly what we’re seeing. If you’re anything like me, odds are you’ve had plenty of opportunities to recognize your perception is often off.
A friend of mine once told me a story about a near-confrontation in the subway.… Read More
“The natural flights of the human mind are not from pleasure to pleasure but from hope to hope.” -Samuel Johnson
You’ll find lots of inspiring posts that suggest you hold onto hope against all odds and push through difficult times with your eye on a light down the road. This isn’t one of them.… Read More
“Peace and justice are two sides of the same coin.” Dwight Eisenhower
The other night, my boyfriend drove me to the airport for a cross-country flight. After he took a wrong turn, we ended up in a mess of traffic that pushed me dangerously close to my departure time.
When I entered, I saw two lines to check baggage: a long, winding one, and another that was oddly short.… Read More
“Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.” -Mahatma Gandhi
When I was 21 years old, I starved myself to 95 pounds and then spent every ounce of my energy worrying about the potential to gain weight back. It was torturous and yet comforting all at once.… Read More
“Love is saying, ‘I feel differently’ instead of ‘you’re wrong.'” -Unknown
I’ve written a lot of posts about compassion these past few years, challenging both myself and readers to be open-minded and see things from others’ points of view.
On almost every post, someone has commented that there are times when other people are, in fact, wrong–when the person who cut you off in traffic really is a jerk, not just having a bad day; when the friend who hurt you actually had cruel intentions, and didn’t just make an innocent mistake; or when the person who sees things differently is truly misinformed, as opposed to holding a varied, but different opinion.… Read More
“More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity.” -Francois Gautier
Last week, I wrote a post about making difficult decisions, which incorporated 30 ideas from the Tiny Buddha Facebook community. The experience of writing it and reading the comments reminded me how certainty can sometimes silence our strongest instincts–when, ironically, certainty is always an illusion.… Read More
“We must remember that an apology isn’t an apology unless it’s meaningful.” -Unknown
An old friend of mine used to apologize almost once during every sentence. If she interrupted me, she apologized. If I interrupted her, she apologized. If she asked me for the time, she apologized. If I tripped on her shoe, she apologized.… Read More
“The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.” ~Flora Whittemore
I have been running this website for almost two years. A few months back, I met a goal I set for myself: I eliminated most of my other freelance work, and focused my energy on Tiny Buddha.… Read More