I Got Fired for Struggling with Depression, and It’s Not Okay
“About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all.” ~Rita Mae …
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How to Let Go of the Stress and Pressure That Weigh You Down
“Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens, and response is something we can choose.” ~Maureen Killoran
I don’t know about you, but I often find advice to release stress and pressure to be great …
How Spending Time Alone Helped Me Overcome My Loneliness
“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.” ~Jean-Paul Sartre
I have spent most of my life surrounded by people, which is probably why I never realized I was lonely. For the majority of my adult life, …
39 Supportive Things to Say to a Male Survivor of Sexual Assault
“One in six men will be sexually assaulted at some point in their life. It doesn’t make us weak or less masculine—nor should it. Rather, we, as men, should encourage other men to speak up, to be courageous, share …
The First Thing You Need to Do If You Want to Change Your Life
“Awareness is the greatest agent for change.” ~Eckhart Tolle
There are two ways to live life.
One is a more reactive approach, where you fight back when you encounter challenges in your personal or professional life. The other is a …
If You’re in a Painful Relationship and Considering Estrangement…
“I understand the life around me better, not from love, which everyone acknowledges to be a great teacher, but from estrangement, to which nobody has attributed the power of reinforcing insight.” ~Nirad C. Chaudhuri
I was brought up to …
How to Let Go of the Need to Control People and Life
“Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.” ~Jackson Kiddard
Fellow perfectionists, I’m guessing you know what it’s like: the constant need to control life and other people to ensure everything goes smoothly and everyone’s okay.
It’s …
What Happened When I Stopped Drinking Alcohol Every Night
“First you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you.” ~F. Scott Fitzgerald
I love Sophia Loren. There’s a picture of her in my home looking eternally youthful and refreshed. From what I’ve been …
Why Judging People Is Really About You (Not Them)
“It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.” ~Doe Zantamata
“Why doesn’t he say …
If You’re Insecure and Afraid of Rejection Like Me…
“How brave the moon shines in her skin; outnumbered by the stars.” ~Angie Welland-Crosby
I have this reoccurring dream where I am about to teach a yoga class. I stand to teach, and no one is paying any attention to …
The Joy of Not Getting What We Want
“Remember that not getting what you want Is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.” ~Dalai Lama
Let me tell you a story. I first read it in a book on Taoism, but I’ve seen it in at least a dozen …
How to Let Go of the Need for Approval: What to Do and Not to Do
“Confidence isn’t ‘they will like me.’ Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.” ~Christina Grimmie
No one likes rejection. Some people have gotten comfortable with it, perhaps have even reframed it as something positive, but most of us prefer …
How to Make Everything Easier by Accepting the Present Moment
“The power of now can only be realized now. It requires no time and effort. Effort means you’re trying hard to get somewhere and so you are not present, welcoming this moment as it is.” ~Eckhart Tolle
Eight years ago, …
8 Ways to Stop Worrying About What Other People Think of You
“You can’t force anyone to value, respect, understand, or support you, but you can choose to spend your time around people who do.” ~Lori Deschene
It can be paralyzing.
The worry about what other people think about you, I mean. …
What If There’s Beauty on the Other Side of Your Pain?
“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” ~Albert Einstein
“I don’t want to live anymore. I don’t want to be here. I can’t do this. It hurts too much. It’s too hard.”…
4 Things to Let Go if You Want to Enjoy Life More This Year
As we start a new year, many of us focus on the physical things we want to gain—a new job, new house, more money, or six-pack abs, for example. We think about everything that might enhance our lives and create …
Why I Ignored Morgan Freeman’s Advice on How to Live My Best Life
“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” ~Roy T. Bennett
When I was a college senior, God, or the voice of God (aka Morgan Freeman) came to my campus …
44 Things to Never Say to a Rape Survivor
“It was not your fault, even if you were drunk, even if you were wearing a low-cut mini-dress, even if you were out walking alone at night, even if you were on a date with the rapist and kind of …
Healing from the Conflicting Loss of a Difficult Parent
“Deep grief sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But …
If You Expect a Lot and You’re Tired of Being Disappointed
“Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything—anger, anxiety, or possessions—we cannot be free.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Almost universally, many of the problems we face in …
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