“Whenever something negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed within it.” ~Eckhart Tolle
Two years ago, reading this quote, I would smirk and think, “What a cliché.”
In the last two years, I would read this quote and be in utter disbelief that anything can be learned when one is in the depths of hell.
Today, I read this quote and resonate confidently, that yes, even though I tried to end my life, even though I had to quit a high paying job, even though I still suffer from major depression, good has come out of my …
“Life is a process of becoming. A combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.” ~Anais Nin
Normally my girlfriend and I have a routine for Saturday mornings:
She goes to yoga at eleven AM and then heads into Central London to do a small amount of shopping, and perhaps visit a museum. I might get up, do some writing in the morning, tidy the flat, and then take a dance class at 1PM. These are routines we enjoy, …
“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.” ~Marianne Williamson
Are you a dog lover? I know I am.
Animals of all kinds can bring us so much joy, not only when things are going well, but also when we feel pain and are suffering.
“Man’s best friend” can be our true and faithful companions through thick and thin. We look to our pets when we are ready to play and laugh, and they instinctively know when we need their support.
I’ve had a dog most of my life. From purebreds …
“Let yourself be open and life will be easier. A spoon of salt in a glass of water makes the water undrinkable. A spoon of salt in a lake is almost unnoticed.” ~ Buddha
I am a very emotional person. I suspect I feel things about ten times more intensely than the average person.
When I’m sad, I’m really sad. When I’m stressed, I’m really stressed. When I’m nervous, I’m really nervous.
Some people would call it being dramatic. I simply call it a genuine aspect of my personality.
I’ve noticed that I have this awful habit of masking …
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
With the New Year approaching, resolutions are on everyone’s mind.
I’ve never liked the word “resolution.” As defined in the dictionary, resolution means “a firm decision to do or not do something,” and anyone who’s ever done, well, anything knows that life rarely works like that.
I prefer to think of my January decisions as New Year’s solutions. Defined in the dictionary as “a means of solving a problem or dealing with a difficult situation,” solutions are …
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Happy almost 2012!
It’s been an exciting year for Tiny Buddha. For one thing, the community has grown, but what I find most exciting is that the number of people sharing their stories and engaging with other people has increased exponentially.
During the first year, I published two posts from the community per week. In January of …
“Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace.” ~Joan Borysenko
I had a terrible morning. I needed to make a short YouTube video to promote my therapy practice, and I thought it would take twenty minutes at the most.
The technology was more complicated than I thought. I struggled on, wanting to do it by myself. Half an hour later, I surrendered and asked my husband Kaspa for help.
Two hours later, we were still trying to make it work.
I started thinking about all the other things I was meant to be doing that morning. …
“Each time you stay present with fear and uncertainty, you’re letting go of a habitual way of finding security and comfort.” ~ Pema Chodron
Being the thought-out planner with a neatly plotted road map—and a compass tightly gripped in one hand, pointing due north—I cringe a bit (okay, a lot actually) at the thought of changing direction, being adventurous, and going off the beaten path.
I’ve purposefully designed my external life for security—the cushy job, maximizing the 401K, additional streams of income to insulate the extra-super-comfy-security, a large home for a future family, long-time childhood friends, and a solid marriage.…
“To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.” ~Unknown
After four years, four months and seven days of a long distance relationship with a mountain guide (between my NYC apartment and Maine, northern New Hampshire, Jackson Hole, WY, and various other parts of mountainous America), I was at the end of my rope, so to speak.
Being slightly older than him, and much less capable of handling the gaps of two to five weeks between seeing each other, I suddenly felt a strong urge to move on. I was craving the next part of …
“Every new day is another chance to change your life” ~Unknown
Take a moment to imagine it: your ideal day. At work or at play. Big events or routine tasks.
Imagine how you’d feel as you yawn, stretch, and step out of bed. What your first action would be. Your second.
What you’d eat, what you’d do, and how you’d spend your time. The lightness of happiness as you ease (or not, if that’s your pleasure) from one activity to the next. Your ideal day, start to finish.
Picturing your ideal day is a common exercise that I …
“What other people think of me is none of my business.” ~Wayne Dyer
We sometimes make excuses as to why we don’t deserve the best.
We say that our relationship with our partner is good enough and that other people have much worse relationships. We don’t reach for our dreams because doing so would make us feel too selfish.
Isn’t it time you stopped letting fear run your life? That you stopped making excuses for why things aren’t better in your life?
Fear is an ugly word. It keeps us from true happiness because it prevents us from taking risks. …
“The future is completely open, and we are writing it moment to moment.” ~Pema Chodron
This quote reminds me of the song “Into the Great Wide Open” by Tom Petty. I play that song in my yoga class a lot these days. I love the freedom in it, the expansiveness, the hope.
My future is completely open and I am writing it moment by moment.
Phew! This feels good!
For a long time, I thought my future was pre-ordained.
My dad died at 38 when I was 8. What was I supposed to think besides this is when we …
“Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” ~Arthur Rubinstein
I used to be a big fan of working hard, really hard. I still work hard, but I do it from a place of inspiration and peace, instead of fear and must.
In the past few years, something has shifted within me. It is both confusing and wonderful. I cannot put my finger on exactly what is going on, but it seems to be happening in just the right way.
Like Arthur Rubinstein says in the quote above, there …
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I read a lot of books about mindfulness; this was by far one of my favorites. In his book Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, Rick Hanson offers practical, daily practices, backed by the latest in brain research, to help us avoid stress, improve our mood, enjoy life more fully, and develop emotional resilience.
This is not merely a book …
“How we remember, what we remember and why we remember form the most personal map of our individuality.” ~Christina Baldwin
I tend to be a forgetful person. To try to remedy this, my dad and I put in a four foot by eight foot whiteboard just inside the front door to my house. Yet somehow I managed to ignore a three foot tall note reminding me to email my professor for the better part of a week. I guess I still have some work to do on heeding my reminders, or maybe I just need to write bigger.
In any …
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As you may have noticed from the various ads, tweets, and Facebook updates, I’ve been running a promotional campaign over the past month leading up to today—the official on-sale date for my first book Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions.
Thank you for being part of this journey with me! It’s my first book, and there have been lots of lessons and surprises along the way. For example…
Originally I understood that …
“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.” ~Marianne Williamson
I got my masters in Clinical Social Work and became a therapist in 1997.
A year later, I got my PHD in Fear.
After a decade as a talent agent predominantly for super models, I was burned out. I realized it was time for a career change when I cared more about getting models into rehab, therapy, and eating disorder clinics than a lucrative Pantene contract.
When I landed in the modeling-agent world, I was convinced I would change an exploitive system. I did not, …
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“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
If you had met me at a party a decade or so ago, I’m sure you would have walked away with the impression I was a bit of a miserable and pessimistic person. I would have happily pointed out to you how much my well-paid job sucked, how stressed I was, …
If I lived in a massive house and owned numerous private jets, I would personally fly all of you out to Los Angeles for a party to celebrate the launch of my first book, Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions.
But since I only have a $10, a fortune from a cookie, and a button in my wallet, I hope you’ll join me for a Twitter party instead!
What Is the Tiny Buddha Twitter Party?
This Thursday, December 8th at 9:00 PM EST/6:00 PST, my friend Karl of Party Biz Connect will host a one-hour teleseminar …
“Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these, you can handle anything.” ~Jack Kornfield
I sometimes find myself smiling for no reason—a good mood, perhaps, or maybe a thought about friends and loved ones. What I notice is that every time I contemplate my own smile, it comes back to the thought of being here, now, and feeling for those around me with understanding instead of judgment and love in place of anger.
It is in the here and now that I find happiness.
Contemplate a tree: In the blazing heat of the summer, does it cry and …