We can definitely restart our conversation, Going Through Life. 😊

Tell me more and I’ll be back to you Thurs morning (Wed night here).

🌿 Anita

Perfectly said, Peter, all that you said.. to hold space for what’s unresolved.

Alessa, thank you for expressing just what you feel, honestly and directly.

I want you to feel comfortable, I want there to be no conflict.

Maybe we should all let go of conflicts of the past, and start anew..?

A New Beginning?

I care. I am willing. NC (No Conflict)- for Alessa’s sake, for everyone’s sake.

❤️ 🌿 Anita

You are very welcome, Tom. You are a good man. Remember this, it’s not just kind words on my part. It’s true.

If you would like to, when you get the chance, please tell me more in detail about that feeling of you being trapped..?

🌿 Anita

Dear Alessa:

I just checked the timing of your most recent post, it was submitted only 1 minute after mine. I am guessing you didn’t read my most recent reply to you (double posting).

Are you satisfied with my decision to not quote members anymore?

❤️ 🌿 Anita

Dear Jana:

If you change your mind, at any point, you are welcome to tell me here- for the first time- what you are referring to as a lot of controlling habits.

With all respect and compassion, back to you, Jana!

🌿 Anita

Hello Everyone!

“Seeing the adult in the child and child in the adult is like tending a garden…”- what if the participants in this thread, current and those who may join it, all adults, enter, or reenter this garden (this thread) as children, leaving the adults behind.. Making this a sort of Garden of Eden, before God (the adult) expelled Adam and Eve (the children) from the garden..?

Just a thought.

🌿 Anita

Dear Jana:

I read all of your recent posts. One thing that I have a problem with is that your communication has been consistently vague and indirect. In regard to your most recent post in your thread “Compassion and respect during times of conflict”- I think you were talking to Alessa when using “you”. At first I thought you were talking to me. How can I respond to you when I don’t know whom you are addressing?

In the post before that one, you wrote that you will no longer accept or tolerate (1) gaslighting, (2) blaming or guilt-tripping, (3) belittling members’ pain or feelings, or (4) monitoring others (copying their threads and using them later against them).

Are you accusing me of doing all of these things? Are you accusing others as well..?

If you are accusing me of gaslighting you, can you give me just one concrete example where you felt that I gaslighted you? If you are accusing me of blaming and guilt tripping you, can you give me just one concrete example? Etc.?

If you are direct with me, I assure you it will pay out for you. I will reply kindly and honestly.

What’s clear to me is that you’ve been feeling hurt and stressed and I am very sorry that you’ve been feeling this way. I will continue to take responsibility for what I’ve been guilty of, but not for what I haven’t.

But at this point, I need to know concretely, what you are accusing me, in simple language.,. so that I can understand.. Please?

I will do my best to promote safety in this thread and everywhere else.

🌿 Anita

I am preparing a response for you, Alessa, as well as directly addressing Jana and Brandy, all in separate posts.