So glad I could help Zoey and yes the most important thing a person can do is fall in love with themselves! When it comes to confidence I myself have been on the journey to becoming the person I would love to be (which is the funnest thing to do) and it has taken me years and years of practice I am not 100% there yet, but I can see a huge change in myself and in the people around me and the way they treat me. You need to start slow with yourself start with deciding what your most important values are in life and what you find to be most important such as respect or loyalty or fun or inner peace , whatever it may be you need to decide that in order to start sticking to it. In order to have confidence and love yourself you must mirror what you admire and you must stick to what you believe and that is why I think starting with your most important values should be first. After doing that you could sit and think what you don’t like about yourself or what you think your weakness is and start focusing on that for a while it might touch some sensitive places in your heart , but in order to grow you must really get “naked” with yourself:p. Then you could start from there and decide whether its a part of you you would like to accept or a part you would prefer to change. I myself have an entire folder on my laptop of my journey, if you would like I could send you more information about what I did , but I was a bit obsessed and still am with personal growth haha:) but it really has paid off:)
When it comes to him I am not sure exactly what is in your heart and prefer not to judge , but I do think that it is probably more of a crush than true love , for me I believe TRUE love comes only once in a lifetime and it is mutual, if someone doesn’t like you back than that wasn’t your true love and it was probably just some attraction you had for each other. Once you fall in love with yourself you will not want him anymore trust me ! You wont want to have anything to do with someone who doesn’t want to be with you , be that a friend or a lover 😉
Good luck on your journey 🙂
Alpal

Hello there Zoey:)
First of all I would like to say that you are going through something that is VERY natural to go through when relationships dont work out so stop being so hard on yourself and saying that you are acting like a kid or obsessing over a guy. It is only natural to worry that there is something wrong with you and that is why he doesnt want you , and trust me when you gave up on him he probably felt the same way and wonders why you dont want him anymore. Sometimes relationships just don’t work out and some people just aren’t meant to be with eachother , imagine if some amazing man who was made for you is waiting out there somewhere in the world for you while you are just “settling” for someone else, you would loose your chance on something beautiful thats why some relationships work out and others don’t , its the ones that were meant to last that do! There is NOTHING at all “wrong” with you , and you probably did nothing to upset him or turn him off , but maybe he could be going through something and not want a relationship anymore, maybe he has issues with himself and doesn’t want to start anything until he fixes himself, or maybe he decided it wouldn’t work out if he was far away from you,there are endless possibilities which are more likely true other than something being wrong with you. As for thinking about him , slowly but surely you will start to forget him and Eventually he will be nothing but some funny memory you have of some guy you used to know, just try to keep your mind busy with people that DO make the time in their day to spend time with you and try to keep your confidence high and fall in love with yourself. Remember that before you can love or start a healthy relationship with anyone you must first love yourself and when somebody asks you out you should feel as though it was only natural for someone to want to hang out with someone as amazing and fun as you are;) And if something doesn’t work out always remember that there are beautiful things and people waiting in the world for you to meet.
Hope I could help in someway 🙂
Alapal

Hello Bronwyn:)
First of all I would like to mention that the world DOES need you otherwise you would not even be in it. I am 100% sure that you have skills and interests you just haven’t found them yet. Have you tried to try new skills and hobbies? Here is a list of some http://www.notsoboringlife.com/list-of-hobbies/ . There is no such thing as someone who has nothing to offer, even the slightest blow of wind has a purpose in life but sometimes it takes time to find it , this hard time you are going through is going to make you understand yourself more and look for your true life’s purpose which is why we all need to go through this time in our life where we want to figure out who we are and why we are in this world. When it comes to the way you say that people are getting bored of you and that you are not interesting , this is something that you are saying to yourself , people could be thinking of something else or that might just be their facial expression DONT assume something on your own about what someone else is thinking because you can never ever be sure of it . We are our toughest critics and I’m sure no one thinks of you as low as you think of yourself! When it comes to the confidence it is a journey it is something you must develop , read books on self confidence (I can recommend many) read websites and start that new life journey that is SO fun btw !, decide today that you are going to start a new and improved you, the person you would be proud to be ! Here on tiny buddha you have everything you need to start on becoming the amazing person you were born to be! Don’t ever give up on life because you would not be here if you were not strong enough and beautiful enough to live!
Hope I helped! Let me know if you need to know anything when it comes to starting a new life and becoming the person you always wanted to be:)
Good luck on your new life:)!
Alpal