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  • in reply to: My notion of truth #394075
    Tommy
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    Dear Anita,

    When the stone moves, it hurts. When there is no pressure on it, there is little to no pain. It is still there. 3mm is quite large. Doctor told me that a stone the size of 5mm can still pass naturally. Given meds to open passageway and pain meds. Going to use pain meds for sleep only. Doctor’s advice was to drink more water to help flush out the stone. And drinking more water in general helps to prevent stone formation.

    Tommy

    in reply to: My notion of truth #393950
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    Last night, a got a pain in my lower right back. Not new to back pain, I tried to ignore it. 8 hours later, took my daughter to school. Came home and that is when the pain really kicked in. Nothing helped. Finally decided to go to the ER. Surprisingly, waiting there, the pain slowly went away. After 6 and a half hours of waiting and tests, turns out to be a kidney stone. 3mm. My notion of truth was pain and suffering are a great motivator. I realize I do not have a lot of time on this earth. And if there was anything to bring meaning to this life, I hope it would be to become more open minded, more mindful, help others, and be good to my family and friends. Buddha said something like this all that one is .. is a result of everything one has thought. Time to see the truth.

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    in reply to: Scared my family won’t like my new boyfriend #393948
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    The only judgement that counts is yours. Family can say whatever they want. It is your happiness that matters most.

    But, be certain this is what you want.

    Tommy
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    This society we live in .. is very body conscious. But, this doesn’t mean you need to go thru surgery to look nice. One does the best they can and hope for the best they can. Accepting oneself is the first step to finding the right person. When one is comfortable in one own skin then other will sense that and be comfortable hanging. Be open to love and hopefully love will come. Of course do not be shy. Present oneself and ones feelings. Good luck.

    Whether anyone will find the right person for them is a battle of odds. Sometimes one gets lucky and sometimes one doesn’t. But, one should always try. Someone said, it is better to love and lost than to never have love at all.

    in reply to: My notion of truth #393782
    Tommy
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    Dear Anita,

    You are so smart. And, you have helped many people here!! Sometimes, one needs to step back in order to see the whole picture. I see such oppositions as small steps to get past what there is in me that might have done the same. It is a way to work on myself. Believe me when I say that there is no arguing. One can not convince a person of something they wish not to listen to or not to believe in. I know that I can only change myself. Hopefully for the better. Thanks for your words of encouragement.

    Tommy

    in reply to: What is Positive to you? #393779
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    Lost in one’s thoughts and setting up rules, as others who will not become to be called friends. No wisdom and no compassion. But acts as one who knows. This is the monkey mind tending to its own needs and protecting it realm. Buddha asked if one has seen the infirmed, sick and old. And does one realize that one will become as such. That there is presently no escape from getting old and dying. Life is suffering. It happens again and again. The cause of suffering is the clinging, attachment to this material state. There is a path to liberation.

    So what does a person want when they ask the question of what is positive to you? And does not listen to the answers? Then, states that he does not like when people act fake? Sounds like a person trying to polish a roof tile into a mirror. It is not possible to make something with what one has. But, this is my own opinion.

    As being positive, to me, means that one proceeds in doing right or proceeds in acting in good faith regardless of what one believes the outcome to be. Now having an attitude of good cheer or depression or sadness … that is more of how one feels about one’s life and its predicaments.

     

    Note: Being rude or being honest??

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    in reply to: What is Positive to you? #393523
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    Brian,

    What obligation do I have to you? Meaningless because you care not about the truth of the situation. You want the real stuff? You want people to be honest? Being disrespectful doesn’t just come in words you say but also what you do. Saying it was great talking to you is just being pleasant. But, you want honest? Stuff like “Get the hell away from me because I don’t like you”. “Don’t reply to me, I don’t like your honesty.” Or people to just walk away from you while you’re talking. Poor baby, no one is treating you the way you want. Well, here is walking away from you.

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    in reply to: What’s my purpose who am I #393511
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    A person wants stuff. When he doesn’t get it, he suffers. If he gets it then the satisfaction doesn’t last long. It becomes what is the next thing that will make him happy. This is the pattern. And, when a person has these thoughts for years, it build momentum. It develops deep roots and seems to take over. The first noble truth, life is suffering. What is the truth about suffering? And can one escape or become free from suffering? What is the path to liberation?

    in reply to: What is Positive to you? #393509
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    Brian,

    The reason people are polite is because society is built upon respect for one another, human beings. Being rude and disrespectful just because you do not truly care about another person is not acceptable. And, it will often elicit unwanted reactions. Call it fake if you want to. But, being nice to one another is what gets us thru the day.

    Helcat,

    Courage is about doing something in the face of danger (or being harmed). Morality is about right or wrong in the context of society. Being positive is doing the things you believe is right regardless of what you believe the outcome of your actions will be. Example would be to get up and go looking for a job even though you believe you won’t find a job that day. That isn’t about morality or courage. Another example would be to buy a lottery ticket even though one knows the odds are so heavily stacked against winning. That is being positive.

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    in reply to: What is Positive to you? #393352
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    Being polite and being genuine are not opposites. And being positive is not thinking everything will go the way you want it to. Being positive is doing what you think is right regardless of what you believe the outcome will be. Being positive is doing. Not thinking or believing or wishing. Stop judging people and accept there are all different kinds of people in the world. That was my two cents. Sorry that it does not mesh with your views.

    in reply to: How to let go of the love of your life #393351
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    So, the question is how to let go of the love of your life?? Putting the question that way means you thought he was the love of your life. However, all the cracks in the relationship was enough to push you away from him. So would think he was just a love that cut deep. If you spend any time thinking of him then it will in grain in your memories and present thoughts. That will bring up feelings. The more you do that then the more difficult it becomes to let go. One must spend less time thinking of the past. Spend more time in the present. Maybe think about your future. Only if you can spend less and less time thinking of him will the feelings pass and let you move forward. I wish you happiness.

    in reply to: AM I BEING PLAYED? #393092
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    Zen monks who travelled the land would often stop at Zen Buddhist temples looking for a place for the night. At times, there would be a sort of Zen Dual. If the travelling monk could defeat the temple representative in a silent battle of Buddhist thoughts or understanding then they would be allowed to stay. One day, there was a travelling monk looking for a place to stay for the night.  The Abbot, who was very busy at the time, assign his pupil to go greet the monk. His pupil was a rather large fellow who only had one eye after losing the other eye in a childhood accident. So, he goes to the entry way and greets the travelling monk. The Monk bows and then puts up one finger. The abbot’s pupil bows and puts up two fingers. The travelling monk then bows and walks away. The Abbot sees the travelling monk and asked him what had happened. The monk said that he put up one finger to show the we are one with the world. Then the abbot’s student put up two fingers to show the duality that we all live under. Therefore, after having loss, the travelling monk was leaving. A little later, the Abbot saw his student and asked him what had happened. The student replied that the monk was very rude. He held up one finger to show me that I had only one eye. So, I held up two fingers to congratulate him on having two eyes. Then he turns and runs away. If I find him I will beat him up. The Abbot just smiles.

    It is easy to misunderstand people cause we are into what we believe is going on. The truth is sometimes a little harder to see. I wish you happiness in your journey.

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    in reply to: AM I BEING PLAYED? #392892
    Tommy
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    Asking this question, you already know the answer. Being treated less than what you feel is right?

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    in reply to: Actually lots of problems after sudden awakening #392782
    Tommy
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    Dear Anita,

    I apologize because you do so much here to try to help people. And, I can not even answer your post correctly.

    Tommy

    in reply to: Is this rude? #392781
    Tommy
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    Wow, going from a question of “Is this rude?” to looking at options of legal separation?? Thoughts about how this marriage is not how it was meant to be. Then, more about not being able to work or to go out to find a job? Self-esteem? As an outsider, not knowing the details, it seems to me that this person needs to see themselves thru the eyes of others to determine their worth to themselves. So, not being mentioned in a postcard becomes a traumatic turning point in one’s life?? It is always the last straw that breaks the camel’s back.

    I wish you happiness. Good luck.

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