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March 16, 2022 at 3:32 am in reply to: Preparing Optimistically & Positively for a Changing World #395322
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantThanks so much Helacat. We had a very wet summer so no fires. Such a relief but severe flooding in other states.
A third person at work has now been tested as positive to COVUD – a 91 year old client. I’m testing myself everyday and so far, so good. I’m wearing my mask when I go to the shops, and glad as told as y was announcement of substantial increase in Omnicrom.
I’ve been really busy today giving my kitchen añd walk-in pantry a really good clean. I certainly have a lot of tinned food. I think I should give most of it away.
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantI hope you are okay Angel. I know it took me such a long time to completely extricate myself from him but it was the best thing I could have done for myself. It’s like there was a chain of attachment that kept me bound to him. It takes a while to BREAK THE ATTACHMENT.
March 15, 2022 at 5:31 am in reply to: Preparing Optimistically & Positively for a Changing World #395207HoneyBlossom
ParticipantSomething else too which I think is important – having strong volunteering organisations who can provide support with natural disasters. We haven’t been affected in this state by the recent devastating floods, but our towns volunteers have recently travelled interstate to the flood areas to help. Fortunately, the army is now also involved.
Because of our irresponsible govt who had cut funding to fire services, without support from volunteer firefighters, the fires would have been even worse. We have a great CFA in this town, but with forests surrounding us, if we can, we need to get out early when fires come close.
March 15, 2022 at 5:12 am in reply to: Preparing Optimistically & Positively for a Changing World #395206HoneyBlossom
ParticipantHelucat, so sad about people struggling with food. I have only had to go to a food bank once. That was at the beginning of the pandemic when I lost the pathetic job I had through COVID, but fortunately, I got a much better job a few months later.
I was thinking also about how COVID has changed our lives so much. We had a lot of lockdowns here though it’s open now. Even though we still have COVID, so mn any people are against lickdowns because of the financial stresses.
It bothers me that there is COVID in my workplace. I have felt very angry about that these last few days as I blame the worker who brought it here (though I keep that to myself), and this is having an impact on the lives of clients and workers. I’m angry because I believe she has lied about a couple of issues- saying her husband is on his deathbed with emphysema so she has received exemptions from working sleepovers, and I have had to pick some of hers up. When she was found to have COVID, she admitted to travelling with her adult daughter around 2,000kms so was a couple nights away and claimed it was to attend a funeral. I think she is lying – and the point for me is that we can’t know how responsible others will be. For me, it stresses the importance of hand washing, masks and social-distancing. The scientists are saying that there will be other illnesses to come which will require similar measures.
As well as the financial strains many people have experienced, it’s place an overwhelming stress on the m rental health system and people’s emotional well-being. For me personally, I have coped better than most despite living on my own without family close by. I couldn’t see my only song For 7 months because of the pandemic.
I think we are going to have to a adapt our lifestyles and expectations to develop resilience and be happy.
March 15, 2022 at 4:38 am in reply to: Preparing Optimistically & Positively for a Changing World #395203HoneyBlossom
ParticipantThanks Helucat. Yes the skin cancer has always been a problem where I live. Summers can be brutal. I’m in the south but not in a coastal region. There is snow in winter sometimes half an hour from where I live but we are in a valley so don’t generally get snow but heavy frosts through winter. Autumn and spring are nice though.
Interesting that you say that about foraging. As I don’t know a lot about credible wild plants here, will hold off but I know there is a native fruit in the far north called Kakadu Plum which has the highest concentration of Vitamin C than any other fruit in the world. You can buy it in capsule form, but it’s expensive. Surely we must have edible natives here. The quince grows so well as do roses and yet NO rose farms.
Its really easy and cheap to buy free range eggs here as so many people keep poultry. I have an elderly neighbour who dies deliveries on his electric trike!
March 15, 2022 at 2:31 am in reply to: Preparing Optimistically & Positively for a Changing World #395198HoneyBlossom
ParticipantThe fruit is called Quince. You can make jams and spreads from it. Giws perfectly here.
March 15, 2022 at 2:28 am in reply to: Preparing Optimistically & Positively for a Changing World #395197HoneyBlossom
ParticipantI think growing vegetables is a good idea. I would like to plant just a couple more trees but need to select carefully as I do have a couple planted way before I was here which are too large.
I’m thinking about some more Crepe Myrtle trees on the sunny side of the house as they lose all foliage in winter buy provide shade in summer. They seem to grow well here. There is also a type of fruit – I’m trying to think of its name that grows well here. Yyou have to cook it for it to be edible. Looks a little like a cross between an apple and pear. Beautiful with vanilla ice cream.
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantThey rarely come back when you are sitting around crying. Usually when you have gotten on with your life
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantI hope so.
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantI know it’s probably little consolation, but you are by far not the only one. Haven’t you ever wondered about all of the beautiful women who have had so much going for them, and they are either cheated in or treated very badly by men. Lady Dianna, Liz Hurley, Elle MacPherson, Christy Brinkley are just a few.
Their problem is that men don’t live in the same way a lot of women do. They cdont want to commit because of the fear that there might just be someone better out there- especially when their most recent girlfriend bolstered their egos – their cobfidencegies through the roof.
I’m pretty similar to you- just around 15 years older.
Fortune as re My for me, I have cone to see that love takes many forms. It’s not just about poor baby men who are always looking out for themselves.
I genuinely wish you well, and I truly hope that you can see that this guy isn’t worth your tears and sadness. Hugs
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantI worked 2 sleepovers in a row. It was a public holiday here, but on the way home, I found some stores open. I wanted to buy some things to help stay safe from this outbreak of Japanese Mosquito Virus and Encephalitis. I found some fun things – sandalwood and citronella mosquito coils and some sandalwood and lavender incense.
I wasn’t home long when I got a call to say that somebody at work has tested positive to COVID. The first c all was to ask if I was prepared to go to the isolation unit to care for this man. I said yes but they can’t get enough staff prepared to work there so for now at least they are keeping him where he is. A staff member has decided to take immedi are leave as her young child has just recovered from measles.
I’ve picked up another 12 hour shift, but got another 4 phone calls from them asking if I can work more.
I found myself feeling a lot of anger and resentment at the person who brought the most recent bout of COVID to our workplace. Not really worth going into, but basically se e nd that she went to A CIVID hotspot interstate. She has messed up things for a lot of people, and put our safety at risk.
My friend was angry that I picked up some work, but I will manage with just the one 12 hour shift.
Tomorrow I’m going to do more gardening and tidying up of the Palace. The weather was perfect today.
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantHi Johanna,
You have been in a committed relationship for 2 years with a person you have never met? That seems unusual. Why didn’t you meet?
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantWell mine came back when it didn’t work out with the other women or They were bored and wanted to cheat on them with me.
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantHi Ariel, you posted last week that it was only 44 days you had been together. People advised you that wasn’t even ling enough to know a person. I thiñk it was on that thread that people posted about anxious attachment. That is something I have experienced too.
You said that you are 48 and he is 30, and that he lives with his mother who he has a troubled relationship with. He had told you from the outset that he liked you but is still looking around to meet other women. I gathered that when he began withdrawing from you, you contacted him telling him how much you live him.
I think you should stay away from him and commit yourself to getting help with your anxious attachment.
You still have time to get emotionally and meet somebody who would be suitable for you who you could have genuine happiness with. If you don’t make that commitment to yourself, it is likely that you will continue the letter of over-investing yourself emotionally with the same result.
I hope you will look at this honestly and do the right thing by yourself, and that dies not include this relationship.
HoneyBlossom
ParticipantHi Brian,
Regarding job application as, for me at least, that’s something I have learned to our a lot if preparation into before the interview – the job requirements and the organisation, especially through asking others who have worked for that organisation or in that type if position. As I have worked in the same field many years, th asts not too difficult.
I’m very happy in my current job, largely because I like the people and I feel I fit in. However, I have had jobs which caused me a lot of unhappiness and where people who just plain nasty. I have had a couple jobs now in the same o organisation- one I only stayed in for 3 months. The staff treated some of the , clients badly, and they soon knew I wouldn’t follow suit. I reported them to management. It turned out they didn’t like these people either and they had wanted to get rid of some if them for years, but it’s not always easy.
Regarding outside of the workplace, like you, I’ve got just a few good friends, one in particular, and I’m comfortable with that. I really don’t need lots of people in my life, just a few good ones.
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