Hi jack,

We can love and take care of ourselves all we want. But the question is, what do we do when we wake up at 2 in the morning having an anxiety attack? Humans are the only creatures that think about the future and knows that it is thinking. Maybe getting back to the timeless state of the Now, with the other animals. Read about and do Buddhist meditations. I don’t know, but might be a good start.

Sylvia Browne, who was a famous psychic, said something very wise (no matter if she was scammy or not lol): “Things will turn out one way or another”. I take great comfort in that thought, for some reason.

To the Present!

Inky

Hi jack,

I kind of know what you mean. Who would take care of you if something bad happens, what would that look like and can they afford it?

But what if you’re alone? Freaks me the heck out!

This year, for whatever reason, friends, family, and acquaintances have been dying off. At least one a month if you average it out. (Usually three a month and then nothing ~ clusters). Older people look at me and say, “Well, you’re getting to that age…” It drives me nuts.

So off course now I’m thinking quite a bit on our own mortality.

Sometimes I lay awake at night in a panic. What if my DH dies before me? And what if he dies NOW? I’d be screwed. He’s the type of person who micro manages everything into HIS screwy system! Like he has 100 passwords on one crumpled sheet of paper written in smudged pencil. But then he has gorgeous spread sheets on the household budget. But then he has to dig around 1000 business cards to find the name of the new guy who handles our taxes. And yet has memorized the number of the snow plow guy. And that’s just the household stuff. What about the business??

If you take active steps to prepare for the inevitable, probable and possible, that’s all you can do.

Getting back to disabilities, now I know why people say, “S/he died in his/her sleep, it’s a blessing.” Not even being disabled, but being very old.

I want to be a spry 90 year old who will die in her sleep!! Living in a cottage with my DH! With a personal secretary/house manager to make sure we’re OK if one of us dies first!!

I don’t know if I answered your question/thought, but it did activate an anxiety in me!

Inky

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Hi Glenda,

This is what I would do rightly or wrongly ~ all’s fair in love and war, after all!…

You had some great times with the young pastor, and you would be the perfect pastor’s wife, honestly, BUT…

You are having fantasies about dumping your nice long term boyfriend…

AND the pastor VERY POSSIBLY may just think he’s had a nice dinner and a movie with a congregant. And that’s all.

What could be more alluring than a single handsome pastor? They wouldn’t have picked him for the church unless he was good with people. There were probably at least 10-12 other people applying for the job. Meaning, he may have charisma, but for all you know he is having dinner and a movie (discreetly of course) with several other people ~ casually (in his mind).

I’m saying don’t throw away a ten year relationship UNLESS you were going to do that anyway.

Of course, if the pastor asks if you want to date exclusively I would then say go for it!

And I don’t know about your church but it’s frowned upon where we are to date a congregant. Clergy usually go outside of their congregation to date.

Best,

Inky

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But saying “OK going to chill out” isn’t a lie. 🙂

You’ll be fine! 😀

It’s one thing for art to imitate life. But Glenda is like life imitating art. A caricature of a caricature. Even a director for a cheesy Christian movie would SEVERELY edit her posts!! She has a personality disorder if she is real, that’s for sure!

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Hi vidanova,

I would give them 15 minutes of my time. Polite conversation. Don’t get into anything personal. Don’t let them know your plans/goals. And if you have achieved anything, and someone mentions it, downplay it. Don’t give them any ammunition. Then say you have an errand/homework/Netflix marathon to get back to. It’s an art, really. Sometimes if you ask for their advice or help, their tune will change for the better. They are needed and looked up to!

To your own place and space someday!

Inky

Hi Again,
Oh, I’m so sorry for the sexual assault!! What you can do (what I have done) is take Krav Maga class. It is Israeli street fighting. Not only do you get in shape, but they work with your natural muscle movements and muscle memories. So that if someone tries something you will defend yourself in the easiest AND most effective (damaging) way against the assailant.

You get your anger out in classes (it is so intense for me, frankly, that I don’t have mental/emotional capacity left for anger/emotion) and you learn something practical.

If you can’t find a class, go on Amazon and order a book or look at instructional You Tube videos.

I know I said in another post that I was a Christian, HOWEVER, in this situation I would allow for a ritual (go online or make one up) involving candles/props (to make it more real) to release the incident and/or bring the guy the Karma/Justice he deserves!

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Oh Dear.

OK, Hi Anita! Good Morning Everyone!

OK, to me Atheist means you don’t believe in God and Agnostic means that you think something might be out there, but you don’t want to define it. Anita, I never lumped you into angry Atheists in my mind! One of my neighbors is Atheist, but she is not angry. She doesn’t think about religion at all!

And guess what? I don’t believe in hell (BOO!) LOL. In the OT the Hebrews named it SHEOL, meaning the literal place you go when you die (death/the earth). There are only a couple verses that might allude to fire and brimstone. But guess where that concept came from? The artists from Europe in the Middle Ages!!

I look to the Orthodox Jews, frankly, as my clue to what they meant by what’s in the OT. If they don’t believe in hell, then neither did the ancient Israelites in Jesus’ time, most likely!

Yes, I had a spiritual experience. I did not have a mental experience however, meaning I did not get a download of what all Christians (might) believe!

Glenda, yes, Jesus wanted his disciples to spread the good news, but dear, you are going about it ALL WRONG!! If anything, you are turning people AWAY from Christianity!!

Blessings.

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