Hi Sean,

Your GF has a terrible mood disorder.

Getting her to the doctor would be the first thing.

If you can stomach the process, you can go for full custody. You have the money and are the balanced one, after all. But it’s a terrible gamble as judges usually favor the mother and if you lose you won’t see him a lot.

Another option is to wait until your son is around the daughter’s age and get your own apartment. Trust me, it will be hard to keep a “disrespectful” teenage boy in her house, nor would she want to. Then he can stay with you.

Meanwhile, set up a House Account and tell her you are putting X amount in every month, and that’s it.

Good Luck,

Inky

Hi Felix,

No one would have taken that job. Why do you think they falsely advertised as work from home, great perks, good salary? Then when you accepted, they did the old bait and switch.

Another old saying is “If it sounds too good to be true it probably is”.

Go to your other interviews and stay grounded.

Blessings,

Inky

By dating one of his friends or one of her ex’s. It’s only fair. LOL

And women don’t generally go after their friends’ ex’s. Girl Code. Not a very good friend. Or one you could stomach being around if she actually accepts him. Are you sure his ego isn’t getting the best of him? As if he could pick any girl (your particular friend) off the rack? Or he’s not trying to make you upset/jealous/sad?

You could have him promise you to not rebound after your friend and have her make the same promise.

Asking yourself to become OK with this now is a little over the top unless it’s, say, ten years later.

Hi anyonfire,

Well, the fault was hers back in 2012! Think about it. You had to change the status of the relationship to “Just Friends” because she couldn’t behave. Listen, in your 20’s a woman (and her parents) naturally wants to get married and the man naturally wants to build his nest! You were trying to build your nest (studies/career).

I also don’t like how you finally confess very real feelings and the fiancé gets upset to that level. As if knowing someone for a month (??) trumps knowing someone for four years.

Well, what’s done is done.

It is possible to have a job during the day and retake the exam by studying at night (now that you’ve taken it once).

Good Luck,

Inky

Hi xenopustex,

My old friend Alan used to say, “It’s better than a kick in the azz!”

Meaning, bad stuff happens, and people might question him about why he could be happy and keep trying in the midst of failure/chaos… But his attitude was even though Good Thoughts weren’t “deserved”, it’s better than a kick in the azz.

I’d rather be in my own happy Universe. The blown tire means that something worse may have occurred literally down the road. The failed project means that I will use my hard won new skills, contacts and knowledge into something bigger and better. Why do you think there’s religion? Belief in a higher Being calms us the frack down. This isn’t denial. It’s just these thoughts are better than a kick in the azz.

Blessings,

Inky

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Hi decdog,

The parents wouldn’t have said “Come to (freaking) Indonesia” unless they assumed their son was serious about you.

I have a friend who now lives in Bali. I have yet to visit. To me traveling across the world is a big deal. But obviously that has more to do with fear of traveling on my part.

If YOU are uncomfortable visiting, you don’t have to! In fact, I would wait and then the BF can tell them that your parents are sending you later as a graduation present.

But if you’ve already bought the tickets (?) then I would grin, bear it, and go!

Best,

Inky