Thanks The Ruminant @theruminant What an excellent insight 🙂 Love it

Thanks Purpose for your kindness.

Hey, just curious, how is your health ?

Hi Rewa

You are NOT stupid. Why are you going round and round in circles ? Who is telling you that you are stupid or wrong ? It is your mind, right ?

Tell your mind to bugger off. Give it some tasks so that it doesn’t continue to create havoc in your life. Go for walks; do some charity like make a meal for the homeless or an orphan; listen to nice music; care for your parents with deep devotion; have a hot shower; offer gratitude or thanks for everything that is going well in your life etc. You get the drift ?

You don’t have to go and say sorry to anyone. If you can offer apologies in your meditation with an open heart to everyone that you have wronged, you will feel better. Forgive yourself first as it will help in forgiving others who have wronged you.

Letting go will happen slowly. Start with giving yourself more love and respect. Stop pitying yourself. No one has the time to pity you so don’t waste your time doing that either.

I doubt we can attain self-realisation without attaining worldly goals of basic survival first. So go and create some magic in your life 🙂

This will be my last post to you. Help is within you and not outside. Loads of positivity coming your way.

Jasmine

My Dear Nun Friend Rewa

Hey, you may feel that you have done all the right things in the last 18 years but have you ? Ask yourself this question again and please answer it honestly. Answer it like how a child would.

If you are unhappy, you generate negativity and can you imagine how much negativity you have created over the last 18 years ? How can anyone be happy with 18 years worth of BS ? How can you truly say that you have followed everything properly ?

First principle of any religion is to generate love and positivity. Love for self. Love for others. Respect for self. Respect for others. Where is your love and respect for yourself ? You can only respect someone else when you offer respect to yourself first.

I am sorry but you may have lived your life as a nun but you have not understood the meaning of Dharma. Guru never judges and if you are beating yourself for the fact that what would your guru think if you leave the monastery, then you need to do more work on self lady !!! Living in a monastery, having a guru etc doesn’t equal happiness or self realisation in life. You need to feel it too.

YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON and NO SO-CALLED GURU IN THIS WORLD CAN DO ANYTHING WRONG TO YOU unless you let them do it. Our karmas are ours to do and others are theirs to do. Our fruits are ours to bear and others are theirs to bear. We do not share our karmas with anyone. Raise your consciousness and you will know this for yourself.

Life is meant to be a joy and you are sucking the joy out of your own life by going round and round in circles. WHY ? Who is asking you or driving you to do that ? Have some faith in your self and in your inner god. We are all Buddhas already but some of us have not realised it as yet.

Please be gentle with yourself; learn to smile; go and enjoy your life !!!!! You are worth it.

Jasmine

Thanks Little Buddha.

You are trying to alienate yourself subconsciously because you are running low on energy. Your higher self is trying to protect you and guide you ahead on how you can find your inner balance again.

Take a mobile phone as an example: we use it until the battery drains and then what happens ? We cant use it until we charge the battery, right ? Similarly, humans need charging. When our energy runs low, we do not want to be around anything that drains us further so we get into a mode of running away from everything in search for that peace or that inner bliss.

How does our battery drain ? By everything around us. At a basic level, we are atomic particles vibrating at various frequencies. Vibration creates energy so we are all energy at the end of the day. Energy flows from high to low. When we are surrounded by a certain energy, which is higher than ours, the flow starts to occur until an equilibrium reaches. You are probably surrounded with loads of negativity.

Energy can be depleted by anything and everything on this planet – from information to people to food etc. It is important for us to replenish our energy from time to time so we don’t reach a lowish state of havoc.

How do we increase our energy on a consistent basis ? By eating more fresh fruits and vegetables, we increase our energy. By exercising, we increase our energy. By praying or meditating, we increase our energy. By sharing and caring, we increase our energy. By smiling and accepting everything as is, we increase our energy. By going with the life’s flow, we increase our energy.

What brings our energy down ? By engaging in gossip; by putting someone down; by engaging with people who are vibrating at negative frequency; by competing with others to bring them down so that we can feel superior; by reading or listening to negative information; by putting dead food into the body; by not exercising the body; by being ungrateful; by going against the flow; by letting our mind create a havoc etc. You get the message, yeah ?

What are some super and quick ways of increasing energy: the ones that I had discussed in my previous posts.

What is your lesson ? I think it is to accept yourself for who you are with all your flaws and strengths. I feel you are running away from Little Buddha. Hey, why do that ? You have not done anything wrong. Even if you have, there is nothing in this world that cant be forgiven 🙂 Take a moment each day to forgive yourself and everyone else who has caused you grief. I promise that within a few days your positivity quotient will double then triple and finally become infinite !!!

You will hear the inner voice. Have patience. We all have it. Once you raise your positivity quotient, it will come roaring at you hahahahahaha.

Best wishes,

Jasmine

Thanks The Ruminant.

Hoi Hoi Inky…you are an introvert ? Your advices are always so practical, which makes me doubt that you are an introvert. Where do you get so much experience from ? Meditation alone cant do that, can it ?

Hi Amanda

Ditching the ego, eh ? What is ego ? Everyone will give you their own definition of what is ego depending on their level of consciousness. It is the most commonly used and abused term by us all, he he.

I will share my perspective.

Ego = false image of self. So how do you ditch the ego ? It is the same as ditching the false image of self. How do you find the real image of self ? By answering the question – WHO AM I ? Where have I come from and Why ? Do you have the answers to these questions ? Perhaps not as yet…you sound like a young soul. Frankly speaking, to find the answer to your WHO AM I question, you will need a spiritual teacher and I doubt there is anyone that evolved on this site to help you with that quest 🙂

Getting to the crux of the matter, which follows your title – what others think of me, what I look like and my success etc – the answer simply lies in understanding that your real competition is self and not others. No one in this world can compete with you even if they or you wanted them to. You may ask why ? Science confirms that each one of us is as unique as it gets. No finger prints are same. No 2 siblings have the same conditioning etc. When everyone is unique and special, who are you really competing with ?

Look, we all go through these comparisons and insecurities early on in our lives. It is part of growing up so that we can learn the valuable life lessons, grow from it and expand further. Please be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself. When the time is right, you will find all the right help for the right reasons.

Someone had asked a similar flavoured question on another thread few days back. If you wish you can look it up on: http://tinybuddha.com/topic/i-feel-like-i-always-fail/

Until then, enjoy and savour every moment for what it is worth. You are awesome as you are. So is Inky and so is The Ruminant.

Blessings,

Jasmine

Thanks Sammykins. Agree with what you have written 🙂

Hi Purpose

Thanks for challenging my mind with your short hand English. What is with the young souls nowadays and their short hands ? What has happened to English language in the technology advanced world ? lol I have so much still to learn from you guys !!!

Getting to the main point: this guy is confused and he is trying to involve you in his confusion. He doesn’t love you and nor can he ever love you in the future as a potential partner material. Please do not waste your previous positive energy and time on these feelings with this lovely friend of yours.

You have such a beautiful life in front of you. Please keep moving forward 🙂

Blessings,

Jasmine

Thanks Pooch and Murphy. Excellent sweet and short insights 🙂

Hi Little Buddha

I had to read your other posts to understand where you are coming from. I am sorry that you find yourself in this state. Have you sought medical attention as yet ? Sometimes, our bodies need that extra little support to raise us above the line.

You are in the habit of regretting every decision you make, yeah ? Hey, have you wondered why you do that ? Where is the root of this issue ?

Once, you realise that you are 100 % responsible for all that happens in your life (good or bad), perhaps you wont feel so guilty. What you need is the courage to accept the outcomes or consequences of your decisions. What is the worst that can happen with wrong decisions ? If you ask me, nothing major. It is not like any of your decisions are going to cause life harm to anyone unless you are doing it intentionally !!!

All our decisions (good or bad) lead to outcomes. Some outcomes are favourable and some not so favourable. Favourable results give us immense joy and peace, while not so favourable ones lead to grief, guilt and fear of failure in the future. But hey, have you ever tried to look for the silver lining for the unfavourable outcomes ? Nothing happens for no reason in this world. Look around in the nature for proof.

Every incident, relationship, event etc can teach us something valuable if we allow it to…..and then this new learning helps us move forward in life and expand even further. There is no stopping or graduation days in life school. Those people who refuse to learn the lessons get stuck in the rut of guilt, grief, denial, unhappiness, lack of clarity etc and the cycle continues day in and day out.

There are only very few things, which are actually in OUR control: our reactions, feelings, emotions and actions. Rest is all out of bounds for everyone’s well-being. Other people’s reactions, actions, emotions or what happens in their lives because of us or themselves is NOT our issue at a basic level. We cant take ownership for anyone else on this planet even if we wanted to. Life doesn’t work this way. We come alone and we go alone. Your decisions are yours to make and my decisions are mine to make. Your results are yours to bear and mine are mine to bear. We cant share or dissipate as we please 🙁

The major reason for all negativity in life is due to lack of awareness. Most of us are not aware of our own power. We have been conditioned to chase and chase and chase but no one knows what we are chasing. If you sit down quietly, you will hear your inner voice tell you what Little Buddha seeks. Once you tap into that inner voice, you will be on the right path and negativity will not cause destruction in life.

We all need negative emotions to keep us on our toes so that we are learning and moving forward. It is all about a balance – yin and yang, male and female; sun and moon, dark and light etc. Don’t be afraid of these emotions. Learn to deal with them head on. Only saints or those with very high consciousness can just sit and let these emotions pass through. For the rest of us, we need to take personal responsibility and learn the lesson and march ahead. The more we are able to do this, the more confident we become in our innate abilities. We don’t need to then depend on others for our sanity 🙂

These things work for me when I am feeling low:
– music – soul soothing music, loud music, dance music etc. Don’t listen to sad music please as it only worsens the current state of mind

– charity – making a meal for a homeless, orphaned kid, buying a cuppa for a lonely elderly in the mall etc. You cant imagine how much positive vibes are sent your way when you bring a smile on someone else’s face. If everyone’s basic needs could be fulfilled on this earth, we would have an illuminated planet.

– being close to nature – walks in the park, playing with pets, sitting around a lake or an ocean watching a sunrise or set etc; we get a lot of positive energy from sun so even sitting out for 10 mins a day, you will feel the difference in your outlook.

– meditation : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b05pGueHux8

The above meditation will balance out your chakra if you believe in energy. Try it for 10 mins a day for a few days and see the difference. Love will flow easily through you for self and others.

– praying for other’s well being – again, I cant tell you how much blessings you get in return when you are able to offer prayers for loved ones or other earthlings. I am not sure what you think about this concept as a bloke but try it before you buy it.

Two principles which help me stay sane and keep moving forward and it has been good so far:

1. We are 100 % responsible for whatever happens in our lives and if we do not like the life film being played in front of us then have the courage to change the inner film (ie, inner state of my mind).

2. We get what we give out. Give more love and receive more love. Give more negativity and receive more, lol

Sending you loads of positive energy and hope this post will bring a smile on your face 🙂

Jasmine