Hi David ML

Thanks for your post.

There were some worrying patterns in your post and I am not sure what to make of them at this stage. Are you under the pump or feeling overwhelmed ? If yes, can you take a chill pill, pls and be kind to yourself.

Hey, you are only 20 and you still have 80 years in front of you. Where is the hurry to do anything ? If you are not able to enjoy the current moment for what it is then your future is just gonna be the same past repeating itself. Is that worth it ?

Your main aim currently should be to enjoy your youth with dignity as it aint coming back. There is ample of time to do other things when we have fulfilled our basic survival needs.

Please note, Medicine is a life long career, which involves life long learning. It is a very worthwhile profession for most but for some it is the worst profession to get into as it brings out the worst in their mental health. Hey, there is always an option of doing graduate medicine nowadays, which means you do a basic degree, work for a few years and then get into medicine if it still takes your fancy. Have you heard of such a program in your country ? If not, you can always come to Australia in the future.

You should utilise your energy for things that you enjoy and can focus 100 percent on at a given time. When you are able to do this then your creativity will be at max and unlimited success will be a lovely consequence. Do things half heartedly and you will be chasing the goodwill all your life.

Exercise, good nutrition, hanging out with friends, playing sports, helping out at charities, spending quality time with family , focussing on studies, making a career , developing good communication skills etc – all these will give you the roadmap for where you want to be in the future. Try and skip the steps and you know where life will take you.

I hope you will take the positives out of this post and use your precious energy for what needs to be done at hand. The following will aid you in your pursuits – accepting yourself for who you are with your flaws and strengths (and work on getting better each day if you wish); loving yourself unconditionally and forgiving yourself for the miseries that you put your mind /body through. Focus is inwards and not outwards in spirituality. I change and the world around me changes to reflect my changes. If you don’t like the life film being played in front of you, change your inner film 🙂

Best wishes,

Jasmine

Thanks everyone.

Hi Tracey

After reading your last comment about able to go to work everyday……., And reading other previous posts of yours, I felt a need to provide my perspective.

Tracey, you want love and you do not want to be lonely, yeah ? My logical question – what is stopping you ? Have you actually ever tried to understand the underlying reasons for why your long-term partner left you just before your IVf promises or your current partner is not able to give you want you want ? These are some serious questions that only you can answer.

It is very well and nice to hear all the positive reinforcement and get compassionate replies on this forum but if we are not able to take actions in our life to create a change, none of this will help you today or ever. Everyone’s replies may give the assurance for a few moments but you will be back in the same situation in a few weeks. Do you know why ? I will let you answer this for us as the answer lies within and not outside. You know what the issue is but for some reason, you are choosing to run away from reality. Why do that to self Tracey ? And for how long anyways ?

Are you expecting some angel to land from somewhere and give you what you need ? You know it is not going to happen so why keep going round and round in circles ?

Getting to the point – If you have the self control to go to work everyday, you will be surprised how much brain power you have. When you come home, you want to cry, have tea and hit bed – shows how much power you have but are wasting away as you choose to. Whats your secondary gain in all of this ? My life has taught me that no one chooses miseries consciously unless they have a secondary gain. You need to find out your gain and that may help you to find your inner power again.

You have it within you Tracey. Stop running away from your inner truth and pls embrace life for what it is worth. If you don’t, you will be repeating the same story for the next 20 years and blaming yourself for not taking an action earlier.

Stop judging yourself so hard and others. Let things be and smell some roses. Life events wont change unless you do and no one can change you unless you do something about it. WAKE UP !!! Stop wasting your precious energy.

Loads of positive energy coming your way and for everyone who has tried to help you out on TB so far,

Jasmine

Thanks Lone Wolf and Big Blue.

Hey Seth

I am sorry that you find yourself in this state but hey, all of us go through this in our early years. Fortunately, you are brave enough to look for solutions to this issue, while many others leave the world without coming to a resolve and the cycle continues.

I will provide my perspective in the hope that it will resonate with you at some point in life 🙂

You may feel that you are judging Dad and perhaps a little too harshly. But it is not really Dad that you are judging. You are telling us about your inner conflict and battle with your own emotions. Dad is just the projector for your emotions that you need to get past. Hey, can you please be kind to Seth ?

Dad is dad. Seth is Seth. You are 2 different individuals with different conditioning. He is living his life the way he has learnt to and there is nothing wrong with that. You are living your existence as you wish to. Where does the question of wrong or correct come into the picture ? How do you know that what he is doing or projecting is the wrong way and how do you know that your feelings are correct ?

The whole problem in our relationships start to occur when our beliefs start to clash with others. But no one can truly tell us that either of you are wrong or right, can they ? It is just a matter of perspective. No matter how thin a slice you cut, there are 2 sides to the slice. This principle applies to us also.

Can you try and see the positives in Dad instead of negatives ? Because if you are able to do that, your resentment will take a back seat. And most importantly, your relationship will improve and you will rise to a higher level of consciousness. It will be a win win in all directions.

We cant change Dad today or ever. We cant change anyone else today or ever. This is an universal law. Sooner, we start to appreciate it, the better it gets for US. The only person who can change and evolve is ME (Seth). You have a choice: You can spend your entire life trying to change this universal law or try to resist it but you will not win OR you can let go of your negativity towards self and Dad and march forward with love and respect. And I can guarantee this from my own experience that once we change for the better, the world around us transforms automatically. Hate and resentment converts to acceptance for self and every other thing or person on this beautiful planet.

So what do you need to do to embark on self journey ? Start with self-acceptance. You are awesome as you are and so is everyone else. Improve in areas that need work and let go of need to work / change others. Soon your lesson 2 will arrive 🙂

Loads of positive energy coming your way and may your relationship with self / dad improve.

Jasmine

Hello Amy @amykesta

Thanks for your query.

I will share what I do.

Everyone is on their own journey. We come alone and we go alone. Even our siblings or loved ones have their own paths to follow, which means, no one is same. We are all as unique as it gets. So where is the competition ?

Competition between people has been created by the society to bring about better performance, however, with time, we have lost the meaning of real competition and have become slaves to comparisons. We want to be better than the Smiths next door. But do we really ?

Real competition can only occur with self. I stretch myself every day to become better than what I was yesterday and guess what, I do get better. I am so much healthier, happier and more peaceful than I was 10 years ago. If I had followed my friends or classmates who were constantly climbing ladders of success while I was experimenting and failing, I would have become more rich but would not have found myself.

I am so glad that I did not follow anyone or came under the pressure to follow others. My life is my life to live and I am gonna live it my way whether it consists of failures or success. Who determines success ?

But I do believe in hard work, determination and learning from each experience. I learnt early on that in each failure, there is a hidden seed of success so I go looking for it nowadays but am not too hard on myself though as there is no hurry in life. I have my own gifts and others have their own. Why compare ? When nature doesn’t discriminate, why should we ? People who fail still get equal sunshine, rain, wind etc as someone who succeeds LOL.

We are all very special and unique. Let’s keep it that way. Don’t let yourself down with comparisons.

Hope this helps.

Jasmine

Thanks everyone.

Ha ha Big Blue, thanks for breaking my exile. I am officially an addict now.

1. When the sperm runs out of energy

2. When it can’t reach the egg thanks to a properly conducted vasectomy

3. When there is no egg to reach thanks to hysterectomy / oopherectomy.

LOL. Can’t wait for @inky ‘s , @theruminant , @astudentofcosmos and @ablankscript response on this question 🙂

Hi Sea Monkey

I am sorry that you find yourself in this state. You seem like a highly evolved soul and I know you will do what is best for you and you wont struggle too much with it.

If it was me in this situation, I would let him have the space he needs to grow but without any expectation for reunion. Your first priority is YOU and then comes everything else.

Use the time to grow yourself more, do things that you enjoy, get to know new people and try new territories. I feel that this break might be a huge blessing for you and anyways, nothing ever happens for no reason. Your higher self is doing you a huge favour that you cant appreciate currently 🙂 but will in a few months for sure.

Focus should be YOU. Be respectful towards your needs and desires. Dont develop passive aggressive traits. Treat him and his needs in an assertive manner with you being the first priority.

Hope this helps,

Cheers

Jasmine

He haw he haw Big blue 😉 so good to see that our lives are worth he hawing about lololol…will be on the floor soon he haw he hawwwwwwwwww

What a nice humble brag. I learn new words from u each time he he