Hi Rahel

You are not recalling your past. You are letting go of the past events one by one. When you burn something, it doesn’t come back, does it ? Same with past events.

How many times you have to forgive yourself to let go all depends on you. If you have truly forgiven yourself, you will be able to forgive others and feel love for them.

You will be able to live your life and move forward. So the question to ask is: Am I moving forward in life with my head held high up ? If your answer is no, you have work to do. If your answer is yes, good for you 🙂

Yes, mingle with others. We are all one and same. Everyone is Jesus – you, me, parents, friends etc. So go and enjoy your life. Let go of the past pain.

Good night

J

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He He Rahel. You use big words like adamant but feel that your English is not good 🙂

Forget about forgiving anyone else or saying sorry to anyone else. Can you say sorry to Rahel for all the pain, tears, sorrows, unhappiness, lack of love, mistakes etc ? Can you forgive Rahel ? Rahel didn’t know any better. She is asking for your forgiveness. Can you sincerely accept her apologies and just become good friends with her ?

Until you do this, you will not understand the meaning of love or self-acceptance. If need be, go and ask someone in your village what forgiveness is. Ask some elder or a mother of a new born.

Best wishes,

J

Hi Caring Guy @gg0319

I am not able to understand your response. Perhaps, you didn’t complete your last sentence.

You may think that the lady love of yours is giving you an opportunity to find yourself but she is not doing that knowingly. She is taking a break for herself and not you as per se. She is calling the shots for herself and not for the relationship. The sooner you understand this, easier it will become for you to start the journey of finding yourself and then your brain wont take you in an opposite direction.

There are 2 ways of finding yourself. I am going to share only one method here as the other one wont make sense in your current circumstances.

Do you accept Gary the way he is ? With his flaws and strengths ? Do you accept that Gary is the most important being in this world ? Your kids, ex wife, your current partner and her kids all come after YOU. If you are not there physically in this world, these people will have no meaning in your life, yeah ?

So who is tending to Gary’s needs ? Real needs of being loved and accepted ? Everyone but Gary !!! Why do I say that ? I say this because others have the huge capacity to create a havoc in your world with their decisions, reactions, wants and desires. Look at your past life with your wife, kids and look at your current life with new lady love. What has really changed ? Not much. You were still craving for love and acceptance then and you are still doing that today, aren’t you ?

So how do you find yourself ? First accept yourself for who you are. You are awesome as you are and you do not need someone else to make you feel that way. You are loved by YOU. You do not need other people’s permission or validation to exist in this world. You exist in this world as you have a huge role to play. Your role is to bring love, peace and balance into your life. Your role is not to let others dictate your state of being. You are a master of your own destiny and emotions.

When you are able to do above, you will have found GARY, the real Gary 🙂

Best wishes,

Jasmine

Thanks Everyone

Thanks Andy @baldylocks What an amazing insight 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

Hi Jay

You may be 23 but you seem very evolved for your age. It is so heart warming to see that you want to create positive changes in your life and move forward.

Hey, everything that has happened in our lives is only preparing us for the moment, which is yet to come. Take the positives from each experience and keep flowing with life. There are 2 broad types of people in this world: one who keep flowing and marching forward and life rewards them with everything they want and secondly, people who get stuck in the rut and keep complaining, why this, why that etc.

I think you belong to the first category 🙂

Keep marching forward whether you have the motivation or not. Just create an intention that life is gonna be awesome each day and it cant be anything otherwise. That intention will help you create actions and once you put these actions into place, life takes a momentum, which cant be stopped.

An attitude of gratitude is a priceless treasure that we all have and can utilise every time we get kicked in the bum by situations, people or circumstances.

Keep moving forward my friend. Beautiful life and people await you and Andy.

Cheers

Jasmine

Thanks everyone

Hi Rahel

You have received excellent advice to date. I would like to offer my perspective in the hope that you will keep going forward with your inward journey.

How do you show love to yourself or others ? By forgiving yourself. You hold a lot of anger towards yourself. No amount of meditation or prayers are going to help you keep moving forward until you forgive yourself for all that has happened in your last 29 years. Forgive every incident and every person who has made your life less than desirable.

Forgive yourself for being so harsh on yourself. Then imagine yourself putting a fire to each of those incidents and all the tears one by one. These incidents are never going to return in your life as you let go of them in the fire. Fire, which has the capacity to burn everything for good. This will help with the process of let go. Once you are able to let go, you will soon learn the meaning of self-acceptance and feel the love that you have been missing out on.

The questions that you have raised in your last post will answer themselves once you forgive yourself and let go. You can let go during meditation or you can just sit down with yourself in a quiet space to let go. Don’t hold anything negative in your heart anymore. Fill it with forgiveness and loads of it.

A beautiful life awaits you.

Sending you heaps of positive energy,

Jasmine

Thanks Little Buddha @therock

I am so pleased with your response. You have already turned a corner with your words. Loads and loads of best wishes to you on your forward journey. Make yourself proud.

Jasmine

Thanks Everyone.

Hey @steve-o

WOWOW. Teaching English to Japanese Adult Students. I am floored. My respect has risen thousand fold for you and your efforts.

Loads of positivity coming your way. You are AWESOMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

Jasmine