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September 28, 2015 at 9:16 am in reply to: Once a Victim- Always a Victim? #84288
No. I am a survivor, not a victim. Good topic!August 31, 2015 at 8:46 am in reply to: How to accept rejection and move forward? #82627
Sorry, let me reword that… May I ask why it took so long to want to move from a casual non-exclusive relationship to a more serious relationship. Perhaps she moved on because things weren’t moving along sooner? You say you eventually asked her for a relationship?August 31, 2015 at 8:45 am in reply to: How to accept rejection and move forward? #82626
I’m sorry you’re hurting. May I ask why it took so long to move from a casual non-exclusive relationship to a more serious relationship?August 31, 2015 at 8:42 am in reply to: Think I am giving up on my dream and feeling lost and like a failure #82625
You’re welcome and thank you too.August 31, 2015 at 8:25 am in reply to: Wanting compassion from the person I love #82622
Leave him for the simple fact that he said this to you “how I feel is ridiculous”. Your feelings matter. If they don’t matter to him, then he shouldn’t matter to you.August 27, 2015 at 11:12 am in reply to: Think I am giving up on my dream and feeling lost and like a failure #82500
Anita, I was talking about my own sidetracked comments. Not yours. I felt I sidetracked and I didn’t offer the poster help and I was taking responsibility for myself only.August 27, 2015 at 6:31 am in reply to: Think I am giving up on my dream and feeling lost and like a failure #82484
Blah is right! Aerody11, I’m sorry for the sidetracked comments and not offering any help. I don’t really know what advice I can give you other than, have you thought about maybe starting your own company? Or designing your own game, app? With your skills, I’m sure you could do it. Sometimes we have to “reinvent the wheel” when our current landscape is not conducive to our happiness.August 26, 2015 at 4:38 pm in reply to: Think I am giving up on my dream and feeling lost and like a failure #82453
I’m glad to help Anita! haha Thank you for sharing that.August 26, 2015 at 7:02 am in reply to: Think I am giving up on my dream and feeling lost and like a failure #82425
Anita, what was/is your dream? I’m curious.August 26, 2015 at 6:56 am in reply to: How to seek a relationship when I've got diagnoses #82424
You’re welcome, Brian! And good for you! That’s a step in the right direction. I deleted mine. haha Thanks for your help on my post too. 🙂August 26, 2015 at 6:42 am in reply to: How to accept rejection and move forward? #82423
f them! know your worth. they obviously have bad taste if they didn’t pick you. 🙂August 24, 2015 at 12:31 pm in reply to: How to seek a relationship when I've got diagnoses #82268
We all have to take a risks in love. Others have mentioned already that we all have “issues”. What is needed is courage. Courage to risk losing. Courage to win. And to know that whether you win or lose in love, you will come out with more experience and knowledge of yourself and what you want. So in essence, you never lose. I don’t want to minimize that fact that you have probably more than your fair share of “issues” but there will always be somebody that can love you regardless. I think men tend to think more like this than women do. And I can tell you have a good personality. That is good to dwell on that! It’s your strength. And it’s good you know that. Good for you! You will be fine. Just keep trying.August 20, 2015 at 9:17 am in reply to: Guys are more confusing online than in person #82103
Hi Brian Thank you again for your response. I think you should write that post. And to answer your question- yes, we are long distance. We correspond online. The distance is a part of the hesitation with me he says. But I’m with Annie on this one. If you want something in life, distance cannot stop that. So I think there is something more to it. He seems to be comfortable with me. Although on voice chat, he does seem somewhat nervous. I could be wrong though. It’s hard to tell because 1/2 of the communication is missing when you just communicate like that. I’m not sure how he would react if I said I need to break things off. I wasn’t even going to tell him and just end things. I feel I have given him enough time to make a move. I don’t want to sound like I’m giving an ultimatum. I want him to want to Skype with me on his own volition. Do you really think I should say something? Will it even matter to him at this point?
Annie, thank you for your kindness. I really could use a hug 🙂 I have decided to end the relationship but I’m here to determine if I’m being unreasonable about it all. I do believe also, if he was in love with me, he would do something to meet me half way. I feel I’ve made all the efforts and now I’m just done.August 17, 2015 at 9:18 am in reply to: Guys are more confusing online than in person #81919
Annie, thank you so much. You have given me a lot to examine. I am going through a tough time. I think it’s coming to a point where I need to end the online “relationship”. Even though I have these strong feelings, it’s not real to me if I can’t meet him in person. He once said he was in love me. We have shared pictures and do voice chat often. But never video. He did tell me that just Skyping with me even once would be all it takes to make things complicated for us. Meaning, the distance between us. As if he was doing it for my benefit?? To save me the pain and suffering from a long distance relationship. Isn’t he jumping the gun a bit? He seems so sure that we are a match even not meeting in person?? I’m just trying to meet him. Why is he making this complicated?
Brian, I think he is hiding something. Thank you for sharing that information. Was there anything she could have said or done that would have made you feel more comfortable being yourself around her?
Moongal, thank you for sharing that. Validates the feelings I have that it could potentially turn into a relationship. But not if he’s unwilling to.
Inky, he is very attractive to me according to the pictures he shared with me. He says they are his real pictures. He is actually younger than I am by a few years. Of course, he could be lying but I don’t get the sense that he is lying about stuff like that. I do feel he is hiding something though.May 7, 2015 at 1:45 pm in reply to: Cross the world for love…or stay home for stability #76382
You’re welcome! And no shame in taking the opportunity as a stepping stone for what you really want to do in life 🙂