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November 13, 2014 at 12:44 pm in reply to: Feeling guilty and trying to forgive myself #67779
I hope you are feeling a little bit better? I know my post came across a bit harsh so I wanted to let you know that I do think you do deserve forgiveness and that this is not deserving of you physically harming yourself. What did you decide to do if you don’t mind me asking?November 13, 2014 at 12:31 pm in reply to: Mindful man confused! (Decision making/presence) #67776
Somehow I followed every bit of that!!! I guess I do the same thing. LOL But looking at your thinking from this perspective is eye opening! I think we just have to learn to live in the moment whether we think it’s productive or not. And accept what ever it is we are doing as the best path.November 13, 2014 at 12:22 pm in reply to: Why do we always want what we can't have #67774
Hi again Steve!
Thank you! I am a good person if I say so myself 🙂 As are you it seems. So why are we good people getting shafted? lol Actually, recently my love interest has been showing interest again but I’m still confused because he seems to be taking it extremely sloooooooooow. 🙂 Any more luck on your end?November 5, 2014 at 6:04 am in reply to: Why do we always want what we can't have #67362
Hi Steve and Tir!! You both gave me great advice! I guess the operative word, Steve, is that he “was” interested and now appears to be playing hard to get. haha Do guys do that?? I’m not one to chase and I have trouble being that direct in my love interests. So I guess I’ll have to wait it out. We are still friends but don’t see each other often as we are in different cities. (We both travel a lot) I want a relationship like Tir has. I want a relationship to come easy and stay easy.October 31, 2014 at 10:44 am in reply to: Why do we always want what we can't have #67097
Thank you for your candor. Maybe you’re right. Perhaps she was just afraid to get involved too soon. Can you help me out? I have a situation where a guy that I’m not even dating yet has been a friend for years (nonsexual) has started showing interest (flirting) in me but unintentionally I was pushing him away a few months ago because I was just not ready to deal with the whole “dating” scene. Now I am ready, so I started to show interest in him back recently by flirting with him. However, he seems to be playing it really cool. Do you think there is a chance with him now? Or did I miss that boat already in your opinion? And it’s Jeena, not Jenna by the way 🙂October 30, 2014 at 12:04 pm in reply to: Why do we always want what we can't have #67038
Is it fair to say that you kind of did what the woman you didn’t want did to you? What if the woman you did want showed the same interest? Do you think you would have still had the same level of interest? I guess what I’m trying to get at is if it’s really a case of wanting what you can’t have or just that feelings did not match up with the other person. Have you considered the fact that she may be playing the game of love and knows that in order to get your attention, she has too pull away and let you “chase”?October 29, 2014 at 12:29 pm in reply to: Why do we always want what we can't have #66996
Wow! After one meeting? Yes, that’s understandable that you pulled away from her. Thank you for answering me back. One more question if you don’t mind. How long did it take you to realize you were falling for the woman you were in interested in? Or was it not until she pulled away that you realized your feelings for her?October 29, 2014 at 12:24 pm in reply to: what am i scared of losing.. how can i claim it #66995
A man in love is a beautiful thing and gives me hope that one day I will have someone feel that way about me. Maybe she will fall in love with you too. Hang in there! Sometimes persistence is the key.October 27, 2014 at 1:54 pm in reply to: Why do we always want what we can't have #66885
WHat kind of things was she saying that indicated she was moving fast, Steve? If you don’t mind me asking?October 27, 2014 at 1:50 pm in reply to: Shut Me Out Without Communication #66884
Count your blessings that he ended now and not later when you were in deeper. Like you said, maybe he doesn’t know how to deal with his emotions for you especially if the relationship was intense and moving too fast. Or maybe he has feelings for someone else and was using you for sex. In either case, do you really want a guy like that? I’m sorry for your pain.October 21, 2014 at 10:02 am in reply to: Why do we always want what we can't have #66580
Are you sure that it’s because that woman is “easy” and nice toward you, is really a case of that or are you just not attracted to her? It is hard to imagine that a guy is simply turned off by the fact that she knows who she wants and goes for it. This is probably the reason why women play that stupid “playing hard to get game”. I think it’s ridculous. Or am I just missing something entirely??October 20, 2014 at 12:54 pm in reply to: Am I being unreasonable? #66521
I can see both sides. I see that it is not fair to you that he is leaving the burden of everything home family related. He is not being as reponsible as you. BUT, this is temporary right? Once he finishes, he can begin to take over the reponsibility I would imagine. Has he said anything like that to you? Getting a PhD is not easy and he should be encouraged and not burdened on that path. It demands respect and patience. If you knew he wanted to get a PhD, why wouldn’t you realize it was a sarafice for a given time? And adding a baby to the mix is poorly timed and irresponsible on both of your parts. Also, it seems you may have post-partum depression. See a doctor asap! Your husband cannot help you with that!October 20, 2014 at 12:37 pm in reply to: My life blew up, and now…. #66519
You’re welcome and thank you too, Michael. And yes, I’m doing quite well. I’m taking things day by day as I’m sure you are too. It is all we can do.
October 20, 2014 at 12:13 pm in reply to: Feeling guilty and trying to forgive myself #66518
- This reply was modified 8 years, 5 months ago by jeena.
THe best way is to vow to never drink again as you are not responsible enough to handle it. If you can do that, then there is no need to tell her what you did. But if you can’t avoid alcohol, then it is best you tell her. She has a right know who you really are. And just like Inky said, it’s more concerning that you cut yourself than kissing someone. I realize you feel guilt but that is not a good way to deal with problems.October 9, 2014 at 11:30 am in reply to: trying to find the silver lining after being dropped twice in two weeks #66157
I’m so sorry that you were cheated on. That has got to make it tough dating for you now! And yes, that feeling of someone being under your skin is a perfect description of someone that you kind of fall for quickly. This is exactly how I’m feeling about someone I recently started dating. I’m also getting mixed and unclear signals. But I ended it for that reason. Now I’m back out “looking” again too. It’s refreshing to see that a guy actually has these types of feelings too because I was attributing it to something only females go through in the beginning stage.