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April 15, 2013 at 8:57 pm in reply to: How do you deal when you feel overwhelmed? #33867
Thanks Tom. This helps a lot. Recently I’ve told myself that if I do my best and things don’t get done, then things will simply need to take more time–which sounds like a simple conclusion, but it’s something I easily forget when I get busy.
I want to start outsourcing. I find myself doing a lot of repetitive tasks that anyone could do if I showed them how. I know that once I get those off my plate, I’ll have a lot more breathing room!April 15, 2013 at 8:52 pm in reply to: Accepting the boyfriend #33866
Hi Caitlin-Joyce. Like Tom, I’m not a parent, but I thought I’d chime in as well. I can see why they’d be worried for you and protective of you, and I get how it’s tough for him to redeem himself in their eyes because of the distance. Perhaps it might help to tell your parents you can see things from their side–that you can understand why they’d be concerned, and that you appreciate that they’re looking out for you. Then you can let them know that you’re aware that the future could repeat itself, but if that happens, you’ll deal with it then and learn from the experience.
The other day, I actually read an old journal of mine from around the time when I was 22. I wrote about how my parents were unhappy with my dating choices (I was doing a lot of online dating) and how I wished they’d let me make my own mistakes, if they turned out to be mistakes. I bet if you let your parents know that you’re not going into this blind, but rather taking a chance with awareness of the potential consequences, they’d be more open-minded and supportive. They’d be know you’re a mature adult making an aware decision.
Of course, I hope history doesn’t repeat itself and that there are no more tears to wipe away!April 8, 2013 at 8:38 pm in reply to: Where’s the love for Copywriting? #32028
Hi Danielle! I actually decided to remove the subcategories in the web section for now, since there aren’t a ton of conversations here. Now anyone can post anything related to the web under the web category instead of it all being separate. Have a great night!April 5, 2013 at 7:24 pm in reply to: What time of day do you like to write? When are you most productive? #31273
I enjoy writing in my journal first thing in the morning, right near a window, when it’s quiet and I’ve yet to get into the day. As for blogging or writing something that I know will be published, it really depends on when I’ll be able to focus best. As long as I’m in a space where I feel comfortable and free from distractions, I’m good to go!April 3, 2013 at 8:44 pm in reply to: Making Small Lifestyle Changes vs. Crash Diets #30434
I have a mini success story! I haven’t been overweight since I was younger, but for a while, I was completely untoned. In my early twenties, I went to the gym for two hours at a time, and after I stopped that, I got very all-or-nothing about it (which, at various periods of my life, has meant nothing).
About six months ago, I decided to start doing a few simple exercises every day: 3 sets of squats, 3 sets of lunges, and at a minimum, 100 crunches. It never takes more than 15 minutes, but I’ve done it almost every day since.
I know I need to incorporate more cardio into my routine, and I’ve yet to make that a habit, but I’m thrilled that I’ve started strengthening my legs and stomach. On a vacation to Hawaii this December I not only felt more comfortable in a bikini than I have in a long time–I also did much better on a three-hour hike than I would have otherwise!
April 3, 2013 at 8:37 pm in reply to: Nobody’s Perfect #30429
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I know what you mean Amy. It can be really disheartening to see the things people say and write, particularly when the anonymity of the web provides an easy outlet for bitterness.
I read somewhere once that “hurt people, hurt people,” and I think there’s truth to that. I have to imagine that someone who sits around writing horrible things about other people has to be in a very low place. It doesn’t condone it, but it provides some type of explanation for where that type of maliciousness comes from.
I love what you wrote at the end. It’s true! There will always be people out there who devote more energy to being hurtful than helpful; but on the flip side, there will always be others who care and show it–as you’re doing right now.
I’m glad we’re connected, and I’m sending good thoughts your way. 🙂
April 3, 2013 at 4:00 pm in reply to: What are you GRATEFUL for today? #30374
- This reply was modified 9 years, 11 months ago by Lori Deschene.
Great question! Today I’m grateful for:
1. My family, who I’m visiting (and my awesome extended family of aunts. uncles, and cousins who I’ve seen a few times since I’ve been home).
2. All the amazing site contributors who’ve shared themselves so genuinely and generously, both in their blog posts and now here (you included!).
3. My boyfriend, who I miss since he is on the other side of the country, and can’t wait to talk to later tonight.April 3, 2013 at 2:07 pm in reply to: What makes work feel purposeful? #30329
Great question! For me, I’ve found that work feels more purposeful when it’s aligned with my personal values and priorities. When I worked in mobile marketing, I had a lot fun on the job, since travel was a big part of it and I was frequently in new environments, but it didn’t connect with anything that mattered to me on a personal level. I don’t travel for work now, but it’s much more personally fulfilling because I’m immersed in a world where people share their feelings, lessons, and insights. Growth and authentic connection are huge priorities for me, so this type of work naturally feels more meaningful.April 3, 2013 at 1:51 pm in reply to: Do this if you’re sad #30325
Flowers always pick me up too! For a long time I thought of them as an unnecessary expense, but then I realized how much joy it brought me to have a bouquet of colorful gerbera daisies on my kitchen table. It never occurred to me to arrange my own bouquet, but what a great idea!April 3, 2013 at 1:46 pm in reply to: Do you believe in life after death? #30324
I don’t know what I believe there. I want to believe we are more than our bodies, but I’m someone who needs proof to believe anything, and the only thing I know for certain is that I do not know. Is there anything particular that makes you believe we are more than our physical bodies?April 3, 2013 at 1:44 pm in reply to: What’s Important? #30323
My boyfriend and I were just talking about this recently! I definitely lean toward relaxing vacations–lounging poolside or on a beach, getting a massage, eating at a buffet, and then seeing a show. Occasionally I’ll throw something like a hike or tubing into the mix. Then I also enjoy traveling–so going to a new destination with the intention of exploring, immersing myself in a new culture, and being a little more engaged in my surroundings. What about you?April 3, 2013 at 1:40 pm in reply to: Do regrets lead to evolution? #30322
I think it’s a double-edged sword. On the one hand, I don’t want to sit around stewing in regrets, as in, “I should have done that. If only I’d done that.” I don’t want to obsess about other choices I could have or should have made. But I also want to learn from things I could have done differently.
So for me personally, there are two different regrets. The one I want to avoid is the one that binds me to the past and paralyzes me in the present. The one I embrace is the kind whereby I accept I made a poor choice, and empower myself to learn from that to make better choices going forward.
Great question!April 3, 2013 at 1:32 pm in reply to: Long-Term Long-Term Travel #30320
That sounds awesome Hannah! My boyfriend and I are about to do something similar. We’re going to spend one month in Rome, Paris, and Greece. I’ve told him before that I’d love to spend the next few years living short-term in different places. For the US, I’d want to do New Orleans and NYC–the second because I’d like to experience Manhattan again now I’m in a much healthier place mentally. (I lived there in my mid-twenties.) Since we haven’t started our adventures yet, I don’t have much else to share. Just thought I’d chime in and wish you lots of fun on your adventures!April 3, 2013 at 12:34 pm in reply to: having patience. #30303
Hi Jeanine! It sounds like you really approached your break-up in a healthy way, taking time for yourself and then slowly opening up to the idea of a new relationship. After a break-up in college, I refused to do the first part. We’d been together for three years, and I felt this need to replace the relationship to avoid feeling the massive void.
I “searched” for a long time and never truly embraced being single. As a result, I stayed single for almost a decade. I dated a lot, but it was never right, because I wasn’t in the right headspace. As soon I fully embraced that it was better to be single than to be in a relationship for the sake of it, I started meeting people who seemed more compatible.
In other words, as soon as I stopped looking, I started finding. It’s crazy how a shift in mindset can do that.
I think if you feel you’re ready, and you put yourself out there from that healthy place of security with yourself (not the place of lack I operated from), you’ll start meeting compatible people in no time!
I love this post of yours Angela! My values are: family, adventure, independence, creativity, and authentic connection, and I’ve been working toward a life that honors them equally. Running this site is a big part of it, since it allows me to be creative, connect with people, and live an independent lifestyle. It’s also allowed me to be more adventurous, since I can work from anywhere.
And then this year, I’m working on the family goal. My boyfriend and I have aspired to be bi-coastal, since my family is in MA and his in CA. For 2013, I’ll likely spend 3-4 months with my family, but I think by the start of 2014, we’ll be able to do it 50/50, as we’ve planned.
Clarifying my values was huge for me! Before I never understood why I felt so unsatisfied. That’s not to say I’m 100% satisfied 24/7 now, but I know I’m living life in accordance with my priorities. It really makes a huge difference!