My friend,
As someone who has and still is dealing with panic disorder and OCD I understand how crippling it can be in life. Few understand the pressure, stress, and disease it causes in daily life. You must understand that you were born this way and once you can see your anxiety as a blessing and use it to your advantage, you’ll begin to have more control over it.

I’ve found that the key to panic disorder is combination of acceptance and exposure therapy. Exposing yourself to what you’re afraid of in a comfortable atmosphere at first, then slowly expanding. If you’re going to control your anxiety, you must become the anxiety and let it seep into your being. Understand why you feel a certain way, why it can be beneficial, and what you can do to direct that energy in a positive way.

Once you can do this, you will realize that your anxiety gives you heightened senses, a powerful ability to focus, and an strategic way of analyzing situations. However, when anxiety isn’t directed, it falls into chaos. It runs through our bodies trying to find a way to release itself which makes everything so much worse. The trick is to direct the anxiety before it sets in.

Begin discipling yourself to experience your anxiety slowly at first. Remember to breathe and remind yourself that your anxiety may not even be rational. Face the anxiety and direct it towards positive action. Any positive action. The more you ignore, suppress or become frustrated, the worse it’s going to get.

I hope this helps. My personal blog is Thepathofaronin.blogspot.com and may offer further advice.

Good luck!

Miranam,
You seem like a wonderful person and a wonderful friend to have. I’m sorry that you’re facing this challenge right now but I’m sure you can turn it into something positive if you can learn from it. I believe you’re giving too much of yourself to these people and because they don’t return that generosity, you feel wronged in a way. I don’t think the lesson here is to get new friends but to control the amount of energy and time you invest in them. Instead, invest that time and energy into yourself. When you find the people worth making that effort for, you’ll know why they’re worth that on a deeper level because of this experience. Everything is an opportunity to grow and learn.

However, if these people are in need of your help, then being appreciated should be the furthest thing from your mind. “True compassion is not about giving or taking. True compassion is doing just what is needed.” We don’t show compassion because we have to, we show compassion because we want it to exist in our own lives. Without people like you, compassion wouldn’t exist in the lives of those around you. Find the strength to show compassion and appreciation as a way of life rather than a means to receive them. What you think is what becomes your reality.

Good luck my friend. Thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog and may offer further assistance.

Hey Pat,
The quote, “If you seek it, you will never find it.” comes to mind here. Happiness and peace aren’t destinations or goals to reach, they are a state of being. In that state you are overcome with appreciation, gratitude, joy, and acceptance. However, when you focus on what you don’t have, where you should be, or how things could’ve gone, you are incapable of being in a that happy state of being.

Appreciation for everything you have, gratitude for all life, find joy in simplicity, and acceptance for who you are, where you are, and what you have the ability to do in this moment.

It takes time, dedication, and discipline but once you begin on this path, happiness is found everywhere. Don’t believe what you think you know or understand. Surround yourself with appreciation, gratitude, joy, and acceptance in all that you do and happiness will engulf you.

Thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog and may offer more useful suggestions. Good luck my friend.

These feelings may just be a result of the meditation practice you’re performing. If you center your meditations around feelings of love and compassion I think you would be surprised by the results. “What we think, we shall become.” Keep that in mind and know that mixing things up is sometimes necessary to survive. Like seasons in the year, winter and summer need each other to exist.

Hope this helps.

Thepathofaronin.blogspot.com

Hey,

I think your problem lies in your perception of the issue. You say you try but trying is neither doing or failing. If you were to commit yourself to what you want instead trying to, you would have much more success. Your solution doesn’t lie within your mind but in your ability to act. Verbally tell yourself to let go of your expectations. Accept what is and what you can control. Physically push yourself to experience things that you can’t form expectations of.

Let life surprise you. You know you’re strong enough to handle life’s challenges, you know you’re capable of finding happiness within yourself, and love is always around you. So what harm can come from opening yourself up to life?

You know expectations diminish spontaneity and joy so stop depriving yourself of it!

Thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog and may offer further help. Good luck my friend!

Jey.

First, I agree with what you’re saying but allowing these things to effect you so greatly is taking away your ability to find happiness. The things that bother you to this degree are things that are the same things that are keeping you away from letting them go and accepting them for what they are. It would serve you well to reflect within yourself and figure out why these things truly bother you. If you’re truly happy within yourself, then what could possibly be worth getting angry at and losing your happiness?

People reflect on their past achievements to find strength and to empower themselves; others use their past failures to fuel their own fear of trying new things in order for them to see new opportunities as future failures then use that as a reason to stick with what they are comfortable with. These people limit their ability to live in the present moment which results in stress, anxiety, and fear. Accepting someone can only be achieved when you’re aware of the fact that everyone in the world is doing the best they can from their level of consciousness. Meaning, people are doing the best the can with the small amount of information they have. In order to respect their decisions and their life’s path, find respect for yours. What makes others happy doesn’t effect you so focus on what you need in order to be happy.

What is the purpose of different universes to us? Why does everything have to have a purpose? What would you do if you lost your memory completely and had no idea who you were? Would that stop you from feeling fulfilled and happy in life? You deserve happiness just as much as every living creature on this Earth and there’s nothing that should stop any of us from finding pure happiness.

If you need life to mean something, find meaning in expressing compassion to others, find purpose in kindness, and truth in love. By following customary or traditional beliefs, you limit your ability to understand what you honestly believe which effects the values you live by as well. Don’t point the finger at other’s mistakes, focus on what you need to do in order to be internally joyful, then share it with the world.

“Our only purpose in life is to find happiness in our lives, then selflessly share it with our everything around us.”

Good luck! I hope this helped in some way.

Thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog and may help if you need any advice.

Take care, friend.

Hello,
I have to say that I have struggled with the same issues before and though our experiences are different, we can still share how we were able to overcome the obstacles we faced in the hope that others will find success and comfort in the words.

In martial arts, we call these stages plateaus. Plateaus are points in our spiritual journey where we find ourselves in the middle of ending one path and beginning another one. When one reaches a plateau, that time is meant to be served as a period of inner reflection and preparation. Reflect on the person you were when you began your spiritual journey, reflect on what impacted you most, on what skills you’ve acquired and reflect on which direction you desire to grow. The preparation stage serves as an opportunity to empty your cup so that you can fully experience the beginning of the new path. Imagine a large river dividing into many separate rivers. This plateau is to be seen as the point of transition into one of the other rivers. When you commit yourself to who you want to be, you will become a part of a different flow and the plateau will have served its purpose.

As frustrating as this time may be, realize that it is necessary and recognize that this too is part of your path. No one can tell you how long it takes to overcome. Only by dedicating yourself to your journey and honing your ability to be patient and preserver can help you. Once you gain confidence in your path, it’ll be much easier to adjust. These lessons are meant to test you and push your limitations beyond what they used to be so expect it to be difficult. The beautiful part is that the things that require your sincere attention and push you to work hard typically reward us twice as much.

Be patient with yourself and your journey and be present in the moment. When you’re ready, the path will reveal itself. Just make sure you’re paying attention.

Thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog and may help as well. I wish you all the happiness along your journey, my friend.

Peace