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August 16, 2016 at 7:53 am in reply to: Dependent on S.O., how do I let go and stop ruining our relationship? #112480
Happiness is in you, not in your boy friend. If I were you I will go to a therapist!
Kangarootje your name sounds Dutch to me. If you want to talk I am here. I think you both need some time. And try to understand that he is suffering from Manic depression and speciousness is part of illness. Curiosity about others past, also part of it. Go behind your back and look for your history also part of it. What I can tell you, you both need some time for your selves. Heal from the past wounds. you don’t need to tell everything but being honest is a good thing. At some point my dear if some one cannot let your past to be your past I don’t see any healthy relationship there.
Try to enjoy friendships with out any expectations. That is how I enjoy my life. And try to build up friend ships in your age scale. 25 and 52 is quiet father daughter or father son type. Not every one enjoy that.December 18, 2013 at 5:43 am in reply to: Letting go of the past and looking toward the future #46945
Dear Sarah, I truly understand what you are going through. Take a deep breath. Let your self heal first. Try to enjoy your self think about your self. Love your self. And be your self don’t think about relationships or new men yet. Try to be your self who you were before that relationship. Completely put him out of your head. I know it is easy to say but what I did took long walks. Got in to a train and visited cities when to museums, musicals that gave me the strength to be my self who I was be fore my night mare marriage. I think that steps would help you too.
Dear Anony,, I am truly sorry for you. May be you loved her for seriously and may be she did for fun. Those things happen everywhere. But how old are you then 23? And how long you guys were together? If she said that there is no love for you and you guys don’t fit I think it is clear is not it? May be she is a party woman and you don’t? At some point you can text her and ask but that you should have done that at the beginning not after two months of breaking time. What is the specialty you see from her? And try to ask your own heart why I want her that much. may be you find your answer from your self 🙂December 13, 2013 at 9:18 pm in reply to: Keep hanging/working for with the ex-in-laws or not…. #46725
it is tough also it is hard but that makes you a stronger person. believe me.December 10, 2013 at 1:22 am in reply to: Keep hanging/working for with the ex-in-laws or not…. #46515
Dear M@ry I don’t think you should feel like loser at all. Being single is not loser at all. quick relationship will end up quickly and give only a pain. take your time. Enjoy your freedom don’t get in to a move on race with your ex partner. If he move on fast let him. Take your self in to a strong healthy relationship with a slow journey. i am divorced 4 years ago and I am still single I feel much better been alone than with being with some one who does not want to settle or grow old or have a family. I am sure you will find a very good partner during the Christmas. trust me.December 9, 2013 at 6:08 am in reply to: Keep hanging/working for with the ex-in-laws or not…. #46458
Now it is hard girl honestly. If I were you I will take the flight back to Europe and start from fresh don’t you think that would work for you may be? Working in a company what belongs to your ex partners sister is hard and that will remind you all the memories again and again. you can make two choices either you leave everything behind in Australia and move to EU and start from fresh or while you working with ex sis law find another job and move on.December 9, 2013 at 2:06 am in reply to: Friends for a decade, turned into a long distance relationship, and now… #46453
Just talk to him with patient mind don’t go to argue. Argue does not help anyone. If you know he is mad leave him alone dont try to show your expressions at the same tiime. But there is something in reality some guys are very good just to be friends but not for relationship. May be you have that sort.
Dear Maria,, From your information I have observed few things. you are always comparing your past to the present. No I don’t think you should do that. And also what is the interested thing in his past life cannot you let past go as a past. And focus on your relationship what you have right now. I think you are thinking too much about everything. As you said on your own if he cares for you deal with finances with you if he is not cheating on you if he is truthful about what he do I think you should not complain about sex or try to dig his past. I can say that you are over thinking about everything.
First of all take a deep breath and leave past behind….. don’t think about again and again or don’t compare that disturb the relationship.
Second ….. be happy that you have some one who cares and who still there with you.
third… do something turn on his sexual interest. Like wear some sexy dress use some romantic perfume,, make a day only for two of you if there any possibility. Like give your kids to a friend or grand parents and go a for a out and see if that works.December 5, 2013 at 11:03 am in reply to: Grieving the loss of my two 13 year old black labs.. #46264
Once upon a time a king went to lord Buddha and told him please lord Buddha “I want happiness”. then Lord Buddha told to king take the I away from your phrase it ego, and take WANT away from your phrase that is desire at the end you are end up with happiness,. As lord Buddha said my friend, some day we all are leaving this body this is just a temporary garage in this life circle, you have took care of them so long so be proud , you have been doing interested things walks and had pretty time memorize them,, leaving bodies are for every one not only for your loving dogs,, that is life, we lose our loved ones instead of grieving memorize the cherish moment you had with them.
send an email with exactly what you want to say may be that helps 🙂
Take a deep breath surahbi,, No one can put you down ,, go up or down on your own hands no with others,, No matter what think about your self first ,, make your self happy ,, you cannot please whole family, you dont need to have a blood relative to be care and be there for you it can be a total stranger. Every family has ups and downs, we need to learn to be strong, who ever try to put you down is because they are jealous of who you are,, let them see that you can do more,,,, if you need me I am always there for you… always love simplemind
Dear Jamie, Honest to say I feel the pain what you have right now. Yes ex husbands boy friends are born to hurt some one. But if he is your ex let him to be your ex let him go from your head yes I know it is much easy to say so but focus on your life instead of thinking who already left you. And take a lesson from what you have went through. And why you want to forgive your self ? It seems you blame your self for what happened also look like you have regrets , are you? If you have been with some one divorced already there is always a risk that due to their lings they will turn back to their ex es. But why you keep thinking why he did that way and why he treated you that way giving an stress to your self does not help. Think as a good thing happened to you. Some one who does not care about you left you,, as the way he left you he will leave another one that is how it is. But that is not what we wanted right? I have been married for 12 years. And my husband cheated me enough. I knew it but I let him run as far as he wanted because I knew he will end up in a big crap on his own. Instead of thinking what he do and why he do I use that time to enjoy my self. Go to a film with friends or with my little daughter walk through the city and breath the fresh air. It was pain full honestly it was not easy. My husband was aggressive, no respect , abusive words, when some one guilty they blow up it on the one who sit next to them. That is what I have seen. And most pains comes from the way we accept the issues. I never thought he do such things because of me I don’t make him happy I never took anything for my self. Try meditation that is very good for your phase. Sit down try not to think anything just focus on your breathing. I am sure you will stand up with positive energy. Big hug