Hi Laleh,

I’m so sorry for my late reply, I was going through a lot the past couple of months and fell off the radar. How are you doing? How are you feeling? Are you back in NYC? Let me know how you are and how everything is going and if you need any advice I’m here. Take care

Hi Laleh,

Why NYC? What do you hope to accomplish there? What do you want to happen?

The blockage maybe coming from not being clear or having a focus, that maybe why it fell apart the first time. The reason the signs maybe be coming to you is because you are thinking about it so much. The reason it hasn’t happened yet because there is no foundation or direction.

Lets say for ex, I wanted a boyfriend. The universe may deliver me a “boyfriend” but he may not be what I thought I wanted. So in that case I don’t just want a boyfriend I want a partner to hang out with. So the universe will deliver me that, however I realize a boyfriend to hang out with is not enough. And why do I need another person to hang out with? What I’m getting at is that you need to refine your goal and figure out the root cause of wanting to go to NYC. Is it to get away from something that’s happening at home? To get a job? I feel that universe listens to our deepest desires. Without a strong foundation and path things will fall apart because there isn’t enough intention to keep it going.

Map out a path that will lead to New York, maybe there is more work to be done before you are ready to move. The easy and fast way never really works out. Once you create a map you will be able to pinpoint the blockage

Hope that helps and made some sense. I find goals we are passionate about take awhile to manifest.

Hi Ella,
Yes positive affirmations have helped pull me out of the hole I’ve been digging myself in! It’s strange because I am still working on myself but everything I’ve asked for/told myself has come true. I have low self esteem and low confidence. I have sticky notes in my bathroom on the mirror. I write affirmations/goals and I read it most days and it seeps into your subconscious. You can use present tense, future tense or just general statements. Just use whatever feels natural. When the negative self talk gets really bad i just tell myself “it will be okay”. I try to see myself from another angle and I try to think of things I would tell someone who felt as badly as I do about myself.
When a friend, for example, is heart broken about a break up, we say “it’s going to be okay”. Because we know it will be okay. This might sound really cheesy but its easier to be your own best friend while you’re being your own worst enemy. It gets easier and easier.

Negative Thinking affects me as well but through reading a lot on the subject of affirmations I now try to stop myself fom thinking bad thoughts. I think coming here and acknowledging it, is a great first step. You should write out everything that’s bothering you and then comment on each thing in third person.
Ex, ill say “everyone hates me i suck” and then ill comment on it and say something like “that’s so ridiculous, everyone does not hate you”
Sometimes writing it out makes you realize how ridiculous most of these thoughts are.
I also have mental issues and I take these exercises very seriously and wrk on myself everyday. It’s also helpful to say “stop!” In your head when you hear yourself going down that route. Hope that helps

What bob said was very helpful as well

Not sure if this is still active but am so happy i found it! I have been diagnosed with depression and mild form of bi polar disorder. When I was diagnosed i didn’t understand what it meant until years later I was complaining about my anti depressants. Through doctors and friends i realized it wast my meds per se it was my affliction. My anti depressants were putting me through cycles of depression and mania. I weaned myself off meds to be put on new meds but withdrawal was so terrible i realized I didn’t want to on anything in my body that made me feel like I was weaning off heroine! I’ve been med free for a few months and am happier but I do need coping techniques. I will check out your website. For now I try to keep a journal and remind myself most of what I feel has nothing to do with what’s actually happening around me.

Hi sheik,

A friend of mine just got a great government internship in HR. you can totally do it. She had no experience either and was stuck in a terrible boring job before. She did a certificate college program that was one year long. It also provided an internship. She applied on her own for the governent one she does now but the educators help you find your own internship. I am also changing careers and I know how you feel. My post “end of my rope” similar struggles. It will be okay you will get through it. Maybe try volunteering somewhere to gain insight, contacts and experience. Best of luck 🙂

I think most of us go through this at one point or another. We all wear masks it’s a coping mechanism. It sounds to me like you are a people person, you are very observant and a great networker. The talented mr ripley- a great movie. I am much like you where I realized how easy it is to make people like you and to connect with them. It’s something I do without realizing it. I adapt to what they need me to be that I feel like I am never myself. I have the opposite problem because I know who I am. Instead of discovering who you are, maybe figure out what kind of person you WANT to be (accidentally spelt wang there for a second was really funny). You can be whoever you want to be and if you don’t like who are then become someone else. Instead of emulating others emulate an idea, or principle. I don’t know if this makes sense but I feel like by asking this question you are on the right path. Based on the actions of what you wrote and reaching out on this forum I can tell who you are and it’s something worth holding on to.
Hope that helps.

Ps sorry if someone pretty much said this. It’s late and I was skimming over replies because I’m tired 🙂