Dear cherryblossom,

Firstly just to let you know even I am currently in a jobless situation after working for a company for 6.5 years. Also this is the third time there is a gap in between my employment. It is not new about all what you have explained about your company’s situation. @Inky has aptly summarized it as – “it is that tough out there!!”

So then what to do during this situation…
1) You can be sad about your situation, but don’t be unhappy.
Try to keep yourself happy and cheerful by doing things that make you happy, by doing all the nice things that you like. There could be many of them and starting by making a list of those will itself keep your mind off of your concerns and then following that list will further elevate your contentment leading you to inner states of peacefulness, joyousness and merriment.

At the same time, keep applying to jobs. Do not stop them. But the idea is to keep your state of mind in a happy, peaceful and joyful state irrespective of whatever happens, such that all good things start to be coming to you in the form of a job or it may well be anything else.

2) Please go through the link as well as the video on this post
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/i-got-fired-today/#post-113468)
I have intentionally pointed the link to the follow-up post so that you read that too.

3) Switchwords
In his book ‘The Secret of Perfect Living’, James T. Mangan created a psychological system, in which one could engage their subconscious minds and achieve certain specific mental states by focusing their attention on one-word affirmations called Switchwords.

These Switchwords are powerful words that connect directly to our subconscious mind, helping clear blocks to success and activating our ability to manifest love, money, creativity, self-healing and success.

What are Switchwords? – Above is a short summary. If you want to know more about them then read on or else go to the ‘How to use Switchwords?’ section below.

The power of the mind in creating our experiences is amazing. Switchwords when uttered frequently either silently or loudly or mentally, our subconscious mind listens to it and makes adjustments towards the reality of that statement. The subconscious mind does not filter or judge our thoughts. To it, the feelings or emotions are neither pleasant nor unpleasant, it cannot differentiate between actual reality and mental suggestions; it simply acts on our statement.
Switchwords bypass the conscious mind and activate the subconscious switches. They can change your energy system to allow the Universe to fetch out your wishes, your desires and your needs to materialize them.

They are used to help find abundance, bring love, find lost articles, enhance relationships, center attention on you, become a good orator (speaker/presenter), enhance your learning skills, connect to your creativity, get transportation when in need like a bus, or a taxi, and so forth.

They will help us attract opportunities, people, circumstances, events, possessions, wealth, or a life style with the power of our minds to create love, money, health, miracles, new ideas, solutions to problems, beauty, peace, wisdom, protection, youthfulness, attractiveness, togetherness, and much more.
In other words, using Switchwords puts one on a path to finding happiness and eliminating life’s obstacles and frustrations.

The more a Switchword is repeated, the more it affects your energetic system. The more it affects your energy, the more you attract the experience, condition or response the Switchword represents to you.

How to use Switchwords?
All you need to do is simply say, declare, chant, sing, proclaim, or even just think the Switchword.

But you have to make sure to let go of the need, to let go of the attachment towards the end result and allow the experience to come to you.

This analogy can be best explained as the quote on the following image –

https://s10.postimg.org/tkqnjg7p5/Butterfly_Quote.jpg

You can Google up for the ‘Universal List of Switchwords’ by James Mangan and other articles on this topic where people have explored and created their own Switchwords. Similarly you too create your own Switchword or Switchphrase (Switchphrase is a nothing but a combination of Switchwords) which resonates with you the best.
But to assist you in your situation I have formed the below Switchphrase suitable to your situation.

FIND DIVINE JOB COUNT NOW DONE

FIND – find a job
DIVINE – find it miraculously; find it through Divine intervention
JOB – what is that you are looking for
COUNT – geting a job is going to give you money
NOW – find it now; find it at the soonest possible
DONE – as if its already done for you

Just repeat the above Switchwords (mentioned in bold) as many number of times and as and when possible. Repeating the Switchword (or anything else) is also called as chanting. As an analogy it is said to “Repeat the Switchwords, till the time you become them”. Meaning – until you get it all over you, all over your body’s internal energetic system. That will happen by repeatedly chanting which will raise your energetic vibrations.

How will you know that?
You need to do it till you get what you want or you stop when you come out of your present state of mind of “wanting”, “needing” of a job or when you find internal peace towards your situation which is a state like “It’s fine if I get a job. Even if I don’t get it, that’s fine too!”.

Best of Luck my friend!

VJ

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Hi Dipti,

Not sure if it was someone related to you who posted a similar question at the below link. At least it doesn’t look like from both of your last names 🙂

What are the best buddhist names for a new born baby?

I have posted a reply on this link at Quote #113469 and #113545

Also you can go through other responses and it also contains a link for Buddhist baby names.

Do post back as to what name your princess was given.

VJ.

Dear Sue,

“in life event celebrations (and deaths) there are times we all must get together.
There are some happy events coming up in the family
I should just put up my wall to protect my heart and head when I’m going to be around her
…If only it were that easy…”

“to completely avoid her would also mean not seeing my nieces, nephews, their children, etc”
What have these people done to you……especially the kids? And how many more such people are going to be avoided? You are blocking the flow of energy in the Universe that are coming from people (other than your sister) which may be coming to you in the form of love, peace happiness, joy, caring and sharing. You may now not need to restrict this flow and open up yourself to the love, beauty and grace of the Divine at least that may be coming to you from these “other than your sister” people.

Here is a simple and practical energy healing technique based on your title of the post “negative energy” and if you understand ‘Energy is all there is’…

When you are feeling vulnerable, the central meridian, one of the two energy pathways that govern your central nervous system, can be like a radio receiver that channels other people’s negative thoughts and energies into you. If the central meridian is off, you are open and exposed. The central meridian runs like a zipper from your pubic bone up to your bottom lip. You can use the energies of your hands to “zip it up”. Pulling your hands up the central meridian draws energy along the meridian line.

If you feel like you need more protection from a toxic environment or toxic people, Donna Eden’s Zip Up Technique is for you!
The Zip Up technique will help you to:
– feel more confident and positive about yourself
– think more clearly
– protect yourself from negative energies that may be around you (energy vampires)

You will begin to feel more centered, in control and in your own power. Zipping up helps you to be present with another person in a conflictual situation with lowest chances of other’s negative attitude dragging down your energies. This process has enabled people to speak up with their boss, a difficult parent, an angry child, or an ex-lover and stay centered in their own truth and self-validation.

Here is a visual image and a textual list of steps on how to do it. (Please go through the entire text)
http://www.tapintoheaven.com/2stuff/stufprotec.shtml

Here is a video straight from Donna Eden explaining about the process.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zefjc9kYPRE
(What Donna did before and after the Zip up technique was the energy testing of the candidate. You can skip that part and just do only the actual technique portion)

Here are other links if you want to have more clarity on how to do the actual process. I recommend you to go through these.
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5-it0QZr79U)
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lq1Dfh-qgrA)

Do the technique along with the breathing and affirmation explained in the above textual link.
Do as many times as you want and as and when you want. You can start doing it from today itself and especially you may want to do it when your event is coming up and on that day too. Starting this now and doing the technique well before the event is itself going to help a lot. Also when you feel you want to do this in a social situation and cannot do it in front of others you can simply visualize doing the actual procedure of the technique or casually look using your eyes from the pubic bone to the lip along with the affirmation mentally.

Take good care of yourself.

VJ.

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Dear Tracey,

“trying very hard to overcome a lot of negative programming and manipulation from my past and also overcome a lot of tragic events that no woman wants to go through”

“eyes have stopped lubricating and my nose is permanently blocked”

Also there are lots of suppressed emotions from what you have mentioned.

While you carry on with your conversations on this thread with members of the site, for all the above mentioned issues I may want to suggest you to take a look at something called as ‘The Healing Codes’.

The Healing Codes is a simple self-healing system that is used to activate something which is already in-built in our body – our immune system – whose job when activated is to heal whatever is wrong in the body. Since you have multiple health conditions I think it would help you by your immune system doing its job without you having to worry about each and every disease in the body. Moreover, it also works on the memories and programming that you mentioned as coming from the past.

I have purchased it from here and everything that is required is explained in the below book-
https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Code-Minutes-Success-Relationship/dp/B004MWT4B8
Also do take a look at the number of positive reviews.

The official site for it is at -> www(dot)thehealingcodes(dot)com
The book has everything you need but of course if you do not want to wait till you finish the book and have the required financial capabilities then you can also consider Personal Coaching on this process, which is done by a Certified Healing Codes Practitioner. You will get all of that information from their official website.

Oh well! I just see your name and recollected that Dr. Alex Loyd (author of this book and the one who) developed this technique after his wife Tracey Loyd had severe depression for several years and couldn’t find anything to cure it. 🙂
https://youtu(DOT)be/JFL6I3WlmWs – remove (DOT) from this text to watch the video.

Take care,
VJ

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Dear Nan,

“..it is bearing down on me hard. I feel like I have the whole world of pressure on me and me only
My mind is racing with the “What If’s” and trying hard to slow it down, as well as focus at work at the same time
My life is one big stress factory these days!”

For quickly overcoming those overwhelming feelings, feeling stressed out, racing thoughts in the head and to gain better clarity to make a suitable decision I suggest you to take a few minutes to do the below Breathing exercises. “Those few minutes are going to give you a lot many hours”.

Relationship End

Quote #113816
Search for 113816 on the page.

Do post back how things went with you after you cross the situation.

VJ.

Hi inspirationneeded,

While you continue your conversation on this thread, you may want to give a try at Bach flower remedies for things you described below.

“I’ve always found it hard to open up to people, probably originating from my childhood and having to “hide” the real me and fearing criticism or judgement.”

“But the darkness of depression, lack of self esteem, lack of confidence and loneliness still hangs on.”
“Any alternative strategies?”

From your post it looks like you are ‘Agrimony’ and ‘Larch’ type of personalities. Nothing wrong in you but they are just referred as personality types.
Agrimony
Helps you communicate your true feelings rather than hide them behind a cheerful face

Larch
Instills a greater sense of self-esteem when you feel inferior, fear failure or lack confidence

If any of these ring any bells and relate to you then you may want to identify more from the below link as only you are the best judge of yourself.

http://www.bachflower.com/bach-flower-remedy-questionnaire/

Once you have identified your personality type write them down, and then I strongly recommend you to go to their detailed descriptions in the below links, especially Agrimony and Larch (or any additional ones that you may have identified)
Agrimony
http://www.bachflower.org/agrimony.htm
http://mudraguide.com/bach-flower-remedies-agrimony-a-smile-plastered.html

Larch
http://www.bachflower.org/larch.htm
http://mudraguide.com/bach-flower-remedies-larch-and-an-inferiority-complex.html

Of course you are going to find out more but as a side note, if you are feeling shy and timid then you may also want to check the two detailed description links mentioned above for Mimulus as well (Brings courage and calm to face things that frighten or worry you, also aids the shy and timid, scared to speak in public)

Surely 100% of what is written on any particular personality type may not match with you but you can pick the closest possible.

Please take the time and patience to fully read the above links/pages. Don’t make any decision on them yet and if you are keen on those then please feel free to write back with your findings if you think they relate to you. In the mean time you can also find out more about ‘Bach flower remedies’ on the web to see if they suit your interests.

Regards,
VJ

Hi ivy,

You mentioned that you are trying to meditate and having difficulty doing that. Right now, with all your challenges and uncertainties, your state of mind is such that it won’t be able to relax when you try to force it to do something.

The relaxation should happen naturally by itself. At least you can breathe to achieve that naturally…

“Any advice about how to deal with the symptoms of anxiety, especially the physically overwhelming panic feelings, would be so welcome”

Please do either one or both of these simple yet effective breathing techniques-
Both the below breathing techniques can be used if you are not able to sleep, feeling stressed, struggling with panic attacks, having difficulty concentrating or focusing, feeling agitated or anxious or frustrated, fear of something, suffering from already existing anxiety, want to take your mind off of your immediate concerns. These enhance rest and relaxation, encourage a calmer emotional state, center the mind, restore imbalances in the brain, boost your thinking, pacify your nervous system and have several other mental-emotional benefits.

Along with deep relaxation from your overwhelming feelings, you will be able to have clarity of mind and be able to make a decision about the situation you are going through.

1) The 7-11 breathing technique:

http://blog.humangivens.com/2012/10/how-does-deep-breathing-make-you-feel.html?m=1

Please go through the article at first and then read below…
If you find it inconvenient to count to 11 or 7, then reduce the count to breathe for 3 and 5, or any other number that suits exactly as per your comfort level. Just make sure that the out-breath is longer than the in-breath by a few numbers. In my case, for this to work, I had to increase the count to 11 and 15 because I tend to take long deep breaths.

2) Alternate Nostril Breathing:

Alternate Nostril Breathing also known as Nadi Shodhana, is a powerful breathing practice with extensive reaching benefits. Nadi is a Sanskrit word meaning ‘channel’ or ‘flow’ which is the subtle energy channel and Shodhana means ‘purification.’ This simple yet powerful technique settles the mind, body, and emotions. You can use it to quiet your mind and it is particularly helpful to slow down racing thoughts if you are experiencing anxiety, stress, or having trouble falling asleep. It’s a wonderful breathing technique that helps keep the mind calm, enables to be happy, peaceful and cheerful by practicing it just for a few minutes. It also helps release accumulated stress, tension and fatigue.

Steps:

Step 1: Use right thumb to close right nostril

Step 2: Inhale slowly through left nostril

Step 3: Pause at the top of the inhale for a second or two as per your comfort level

Step 4: Now close left nostril with ring finger. Release the thumb off the right nostril

Step 5: Exhale through your right nostril

Step 6: Now, inhale through right nostril

Step 7: Pause at the top of the inhale for a second or two as per your comfort level

Step 8: Use thumb to close of right nostril

Step 9: Breathe out through left nostril

Steps 1 to 9 make one round. Continue with the steps for 3 to 5 minutes. You can do this lying down on your bed too.
Make sure to not force the breathing and do not breathe through the mouth. You can skip the pausing of breath if you have blood pressure issues. Close your eyes and allow the relaxation to happen quietly for a few moments after you have finished.

Happy Relaxing!
VJ

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Dear breakinupbad,

How about a change in perception to view it?

“A few months back, he had e-gifted me a spa voucher worth around $100”

He gifted you the expensive voucher out of love and that was a few months back. Was it a time when he gave it to you out of true love (not sure how things were between you guys but assuming that you guys were loving to each other)? Was it a time when he gifted it to you out of genuine feelings?

It is you who waited till today and did not use the voucher given a few months back. If you too get that feeling then you may as well make use of it.

VJ.