Posts tagged with “wisdom”
The Messiness of Being Human and Why We Shouldn’t Judge Each Other
“Those who understand will never judge, and those who judge will never understand.” ~Wilson Kanadi
I’m waiting for my mother’s nurse to pick up. The hospital recording has been on a loop for twenty minutes: “Our hospital is committed to integrity, to the destitute, the sick. Our physicians and nurses have trained at some of the most prestigious colleges in the country. Our patients’ health and comfort is our #1 priority.”
The woman on the recording sounds so clear and passionate. I can picture her in the recording studio. Maybe she had to audition for the part. Maybe she got …
Why Fibromyalgia Is the Greatest Gift of My Life
“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” ~Rumi
TRIGGER WARNING: This article contains discussions of difficult topics, including suicidal depression and a fatal car accident.
I’ve always been an active, athletic person. In my twenties I was huge in tennis, squash, and swimming, and I began every morning with an intense workout that cleared my head and let me confront the day’s challenges with a relaxed, positive attitude. So, when I started experiencing mysterious pains and fatigue that didn’t go away no matter how much sleep I got, my life was turned upside down.
After two years …
Disordered Eating: What We Need to Understand and How to Heal
“Food can distract you from your pain but food cannot take away your pain.” ~Karen Salmansohn
Long before I was watching The Biggest Loser (a popular weight loss reality TV series) and trying to look like a swimsuit model, I was hiding in my closet eating candy, fiercely addicted to sugar.
I remember feeling completely out of control over my cravings for all things sweet, and I didn’t know how to stop myself from eating until I felt sick. Food played a bigger role in my life than simply to support the processes in my body that lead to optimal …
3 Reasons Why It’s Hard to Set Boundaries and What to Do About It
“Care what other people think, and you will forever be their prisoner.” ~Lao Tzu
I love this quote because it is such truth. But I also recognize the difficulty and the uncomfortable feelings that arise when working toward living this quote.
There’s a reason why it feels so hard to set healthy boundaries, and that is what this article is going to show you.
Discovery #1: Understanding our hard wiring
Our minds were not created to care about healthy boundaries. Say what? Let me explain.
From the beginning of time, we humans were hard wired for connection. We are …
How Boys Learn to Repress Their Feelings and How We Can Do Better as Men
“Shoutout to all the men going through a lot, with no one to turn to, because this world wrongly taught our males to mask their emotions and that strong means silent.” ~Alex Myles
He is close to tears. He is not physically hurt. No ankle has been twisted, no knee has been scraped, nobody needs their asthma inhaler.
The other boys are making fun of his size.
Most of the time he pretends it doesn’t bother him. But I’m the coach, and it’s pretty hard to miss.
I have watched him smile and try to shake it off. Sometimes he …
My New Approach to Setting Goals and Why It Works Better for Me
“The journey is long, but the goal is in each step.” ~Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
I have a daughter, she is nine.
A few months ago, I started to feel like we weren’t as close as we used to. I felt like we weren’t spending enough time together, and honestly, when we were I almost didn’t know what to do with her. It felt like our emotional connection was falling apart, like we didn’t have enough topics to discuss or enough games to play.
Moreover, I was getting stressed and annoyed with her easily, and it definitely wasn’t helping. I …
6 Emotions That Can Cloud Our Judgment and How to Make Better Decisions
“Don’t let your emotions outweigh your intelligence.” ~Unknown
I jump to ridiculous conclusions when I’m emotional, and I’m like anyone else in that sometimes they get the best of me. And it’s pretty damn embarrassing in those moments, especially if I’ve been stupid enough to make any kind of decision.
Having the awareness to recognize your judgment is clouded by emotion is next to impossible at times. Many of us don’t know how to read the signals. Hence why we get swept away by our caveman instincts and find ourselves saying, “All I see is red when I’m angry.”…
How I Stopped Procrastinating and Started Creating the Life of My Dreams
“Better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly.” ~Robert H. Schuller
Here’s a confession: I’ve wanted to be a writer since I was thirteen years old when I first discovered the magic of words.
Here’s another: It was only at the ripe old age of twenty-six that I could truthfully call myself a writer.
Why did it take me so long?
I often think about that. Even today, when people ask me about my writing, I struggle to say that I am a writer. I am both proud and horrified, and I constantly wonder, what will I …
From Bombs to Bliss: Peeling Off the Layers of Childhood Trauma
TRIGGER WARNING: This post mentions bombs and executions and may be triggering to some people.
“Into your darkest corner, you are safe in my love, you are protected. I am the openness you seek, I am your doorway. Come sit in the circular temple of my heart, and let yourself be calm.” ~Agapi Stassinopoulos
I was six years old. My mother and I entered the bus to head home from downtown. Suddenly the sirens went off.
I felt a knot in my stomach. People started running around. A cloud of dust formed in the air. I could taste the panic. …
When a Mother Fails to Love: What’s Helped Me Move On
“You keep meeting the same person in different bodies until you learn the lesson.” ~Brandon Tarot
Like most girls in junior high school, I tried out for all the cheerleading squads every time tryouts came around—basketball, football, even wrestling. And like 95% of the girls, I never made the squad.
My kicks weren’t high enough, my splits weren’t split enough, my arms weren’t board-straight enough, I couldn’t jump high enough—and, let’s be real here: I wasn’t pretty enough and I wasn’t popular enough. After all, we are talking about junior high school.
But eventually, the one tryout came around that …
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