It depends on what you want. I must say you’re kinda lucky to be in this position…to have 2 guys to choose from: your ex with whom you had a stable relationship and a new guy who shows you affection and is honest.

I know what is like to be an insecure person and it’s really hard.

It seems like you want to fix some issues and prove to him some things, to see if he has changed for the better or at least that he really tries for real… You’re not sure what to choose because neither of them offers you a certainty. It’s kinda early for the new guy to think of a future with you… I think you’re more sure of your ex cause you have some history together…

But your ex didn’t tell you he really wants to get back together.. he wants to see you and see if you could be together again… You can talk to both of them at the same time for a short period of time considering that neither of them is really committed to you and I think that’s how you can decide…

Hi… I m really confused and dont know whom to talk to..I hope you can help me out till some extent. I have been dating a guy for past 7 years. He was already married when i 1st met him and has a 2 year old kid. We have 10 years of age difference. His marrige was not working out and he was already planning to get divorced and also he and his wife were not staying together but his wife used to come once in a while to his place along wit the kid. His name is Raj. So the thing is, intially everythng was fine between us but as time passed by, I started feeling insecure becoz he started lying to me about his whereabouts , reason was he was nt yet divorced and i used to get very upset when evr his wife used to come n visit him. We used fight over it and I used to say things to him to hurt him so that he will feel the pain   which I was going through.
I knew that he loved me and there was nothing left between him and his wife yet i jus coulnt stand it. Years went by and we broke up many times in tat period. After a while he left for dubai and we hardly spoke, nt like we completely stopped talkng but ya it ised to b a causal friends talk. The thing is Raj knows me better than any1 else. With him i dnt have to think before i speak. I can say any damn thing and i know that he wont judge me.

Then I met one guy last year in December. He is a very nice person. It started with friendship and one fine day he prososed me n I said Yes. I was feeling sad and i think i rushed. Now our families are also involved.

Now for past couple of months i am finding it very difficult to cope up wit this whole thing. Raj is still there in me and i know that i wont b able to love anyone ever the way i love Raj but I dont want to hurt this other guy as well. I dont know what to do or how to say No or whom to say no to. On the other hand Raj wants a second chance. I dnt know what to do. Please suggest.

Hi.  I was in relationship with this amazing guy that cared a lot about me and truly loved me.  While we dated I was best friends with a guy, that I understand now, who was flirting me.  After 4 months into the relationship my boyfriend decided to broke up with me.  He said summer was coming and he wouldn’t have wifi and plus we argued lately.  I just let him go cause we would always talk about how we would break up after some time cause this year is gonna be the last year we live in the place where we at.  We are both moving next summer and we wanted to have fun..bein single.  I really missed him so I tried to do everything to get him back. Right now he is in his country so I couldn’t do a lot.  After a few weeks he started testing me and yesterday he told me still has feelings for me and would do anything to get him back.  I was so happy bc thats what I always wanted but the problem is that while we had broken up (1 month ) this guy and me started texting A LOT.  He really understands me and he cares about me.  He told me he seriously likes me because I make him happy.  Before knowing my ex would come back I was flirting with him and I started to develop feelings.  Yesterday I explain him the situation with my ex and he didn’t take it good.  He got kinda mad and told me that my ex hurt me and that while he was single he did a lot of things with other girls….which I already knew.  I told him to give me a day to decide what to do.  The thing is that my ex told me 2 weeks ago that he is moving NOW..like in one month. I still don’t think he will though even though he says he 100% will.  Who should I choose? The guy that hurt me but regrets everything and still loves me, while he had really good past together but is most likely moving in a month, or the new guy that makes me happy and cares about me and is staying as long as I am for sure?

Please someone answer quietly because I don’t have any time left.

I was in a relationship with a guy since last 8 years. but I am in touch with him till today. Two years back another guy came in my life, I started liking him bt I was dating first guy also. Then I broke up wih first guy and started dating second guy. First guy is like i want to be with u..come back.. Both of them love me alot. The only difference which I foud between them is with first guy, watever was our issues he used to sort out wd me nd second guy he abuse me infront of his frnd. Just help me in choosing between two

I need help 😔 My ex cheated on me but he was drunk and we went thru a rough breakup but he just texted me recently to apologize. I still have feelings for him but im talking to someone new. I don’t know if I like this new guy or if I’m just clinging on to the comfort but I wanna choose my ex because I believe that he means what he says when he apologized but in the back of my head im scared .I also don’t wanna break the new guys heart 🥺. I really don’t know whats the right choice here. Oh I dated my ex for a year and a half and the new guy gave me a couple red flags already.

What you have done now? I am in same situation as urs..