Dear Tee:

I’m not sure if you’ll read this, but in case you do, I want to express my heartfelt appreciation for your incredibly attentive, thorough, intelligent, educated, and empathetic contributions to the forums. From your first post on February 18, 2021, in the thread Stuck in Letting Go and Worries, to your last post in this thread on August 10, 2024, your dedication to supporting members over such a long period is truly remarkable. Your posts, spanning over 129 pages, reflect a level of commitment that is deeply admirable. I hope you’re doing well, and if it feels right for you, I sincerely hope you’ll consider returning to the forums.

roved and polished version of your message:

Dear SereneWolf,

Your first post in the forums was on September 22, 2022, and your original post in this thread was on October 2, 2022. In that post, you shared:

“I feel like time is passing too fast and I’m not able to keep up the pace with it—not being productive enough or not achieving the things expected for my age. Is this fear of missing out or something else? I just feel so overwhelmed with things sometimes that I have to achieve, and maybe doubts about when I’ll achieve them.”

The last time you posted, on August 10, 2024, you ended your brief update with: “I’m doing alright. At my hometown.”

How are you doing today, SereneWolf?

As I reread my communication with you on this thread, I became deeply aware of times when I was confrontational, harsh, and rude with you. This realization has filled me with regret and shame. I want to take this moment to sincerely apologize to you, SereneWolf—I am truly sorry.

In my most recent post on the forums, I reflected on the concept of hate: “Hatred often mirrors unresolved parts of ourselves—fragments of our psyche that we reject or suppress. For instance, if we dislike a trait in someone else, it could be a sign we haven’t fully accepted that same trait within ourselves… the parts of ourselves we deny or hide.”

Looking back, I now understand that in my confrontational communication with you, the anger I felt was rooted in seeing you as overly positive. I believed this positivity stemmed from suppressing or denying the hurt and scared parts of yourself. What I now see is that it was my own suppressed and denied hurt, scared parts projecting themselves onto you in the form of anger.

By denying these parts of myself, I lacked empathy—not only for myself but for you as well. In other words, I was not my own friend. For so long, and as a result, SereneWolf, I was not the friend to you that you deserved. For that, I am deeply sorry.

anita