February 6, 2019 at 8:17 am #278961
I know Anita he didn’t let me move on or heal even after he left he made it difficult me giving me the impression that he still loves me and telling my sister it was a lie. But from the other side he has been working on his relationship with the other girl too and their family bond looks very strong.
I met this therapist only once and she prescribed be medication from my first session itself coz she thinks I’m in a severe depression state. But I’m too scared to take the medication n i told her that I’m not comfortable with it but she adviced me to take it coz it would help me.February 6, 2019 at 8:33 am #278971
I wish you had the opportunity to see a good therapist for therapy once or twice a week for a few months at least. I wish you moved on from this past relationship that is so over, or should be so over for you. Time to see him for who he is, see the truth of the situation and accept it to be true.
If you saw him for who he is, you wouldn’t miss him at all.
anitaFebruary 6, 2019 at 11:10 am #279015MichelleParticipant
Hi Risha – please add “blocking” him on all social media and blocking his number from your phone. This is the next step in your recovery. You need to do it to move forward.February 6, 2019 at 7:51 pm #279087
Hi Anita & Michelle, I have blocked him on everything and now he has not tried to contact me for one month and I assume he would never reach me and that too hurts me a lot. I still cant believe what he did to me and he moved out so fast while im still struggling.
I feel so depressed and isolated even at work. After we broke up he has told all his friends that he had done a big mistake to me by dumping me and I feel bad to even face them. Coming to work is like a nightmare for me but I have no choice coz it’s kind of difficult for me to move to another place.
Im suffering with depression and what’s your opinion on taking anti depression medications? I want to come out of this mess fast coz it’s so painful and im still unable to make up my mind and im still hurt for what he did to me and how he treated me.
RishaFebruary 7, 2019 at 8:18 am #279191
You are stuck in the same emotional experience for months, still not believing what happened months after it happened (“I still can’t believe what he did to me”).
Sometimes anti depressants of the SSRI category do the job of getting people un-stuck, making it possible. These SSRI drugs operate in such a way that they disable obsessive thinking, and this may be exactly what you need.
anitaFebruary 10, 2019 at 8:40 pm #279625
Thanks Anita.. Will try doing that and I shall get back to you. Take care
RishaFebruary 11, 2019 at 11:00 am #279745
You are welcome and thank you for your good wish for me. I hope you feel better soon and will be looking forward to your next post.
anitaJune 30, 2020 at 6:57 am #360056NoorParticipant
I was nearly in tears reading through this entire forum. I recently experienced something similar where my boyfriend of one year chose his parents…..he kept calling me in tears saying he does not know what to do but eventually our relationship did end. I was very hurt…but I am slowly moving on. I can’t imagine the pain you felt, especially because it had been seven years.
Risha, I hope you are doing well and that you have found some version of peace. It can be difficult to survive such traumatic experiences but it is never impossible. I just want to send you good wishes and I truly hope you are in a better place now.