Good Friday night, Confused 🙂
B.C, Blushing Confused.. 🥵 (not like that, ha-ha, it’s just this is the only blushing-like emoji available to me.)
About hyperfocusing in childhood: it can become a habit-of-the-mind that transfers into adulthood situations that don’t even look anything like the childhood situations. It’s a bit like PTSD where a person experiences a normal everyday situation as if it was war.
Hmmm..you were with friends and she texted you and that led you to have negative thoughts and feelings about her. You described something similar just the other day, you were texting with your gf and your sister started talking to you, “yapping” you called it, and you felt your skin crawling.
I think that you really, really don’t like multitasking (neither do I, by the way), preferring to deal with one person at a time, or one social situation at a time (friends OR gf), otherwise you get trigerred. Whether it’s something new or old, doesn’t matter, it just is, as simple as that.
If that’s the thing, the solution is easy: turn the phone off when otherwise occupied. Girlfriend will understand. (She knows how it feels when she gets trigerred, I remember, been a while ago).
Well, that thing you smoke still contains nicotine, better not make it a habit, Confused?
(Reading..) You’re the most empathetic unempathetic person I know then 🙂. I think you feel empathy, just that you suppress it, pushing it down.. but it’s definitely there and it shows.
The thoughts you described in the 8th paragraph of your post, these thoughts are trying to protect you from feeling hurt or sad or anxious. You cried in regard to the bear reel and right away— Thoughts 2 the Rescue (T2R), telling you: you are not really sad! You don’t love her!
In the 9th paragraph you described anxiety over the idea that she might reject you. Lots and lots of people worry about that. That’s what’s scary about loving someone.
Where’s that hat emoji.. Oh, no, I don’t have it on my phone, the closest I have is this 🧑🎄 and that 🤠.
My hat is off to you anyway, Confused, really, you are amazing. I mean it 100%, and I will not change my mind 🧠
🙂 Anita
