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August 28, 2026 at 9:18 pm #460692
anitaParticipantGood Friday night Confused 🙂
“I said inside my head ‘U must not lose this woman moron'”-
Who is calling the lovable, honest Confused I know, a moron..? 🤬 (how I feel about it)
“Copilot sounds about right, but how does (anxiety) go away?”-
By confronting the part of you saying you’re a “moron”.. somehow.
Empathy for yourself, being on your side, referring to yourself kindly, the way you deserve.
🌿🌿🌿 Anita
August 29, 2026 at 9:09 pm #460715
ConfusedParticipantHey anita
Thank you 🙂 I think it’s my consciousness? I am not sure but nothing else comes to mind.. Maybe its the logical part?
I can’t do that, i feel like a fraud 🙁
August 29, 2026 at 9:15 pm #460716anitaParticipantI was just thinking about you, Confused, thought of asking how you’re doing but wanted to give you space 🙂
Wait, having empathy for yourself feels like you being a fraud 🤔?
August 30, 2026 at 6:37 pm #460730ConfusedParticipantHey anita, i was thinking of taking space from forums/google/etc again too. Weird we thought the same thing haha.
Hmm, kinda but not exactly that, like i am faking myself or something? Idk how to explain it its weird.
August 30, 2026 at 7:52 pm #460731anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused 🙂
“I don’t know how to explain it, it’s weird”-
You used the adjective “weird” so many times since Dec.
So, you’re thinking about taking space from the forums here, and from other spaces- of course, Confused..
I don’t think it’s weird at all that you need space 🙂
I’m here for whatever is right for you. I respect your need for space.
🌿 Anita
August 31, 2026 at 8:47 pm #460758ConfusedParticipantHey anita
I use it because all this is new to me, even now.. this word fits perfectly.
Yes i was thinking of trying to end the analyzing/rumination of my relationship and everything, because i realize that i am in a bad spot in every area of my life, but for some reason my mind latches on to my relationship. This is the only forum i browse, ive stopped visiting reddit for like 20 days or something.. thank you 🙂
Today we didn’t text all day and i felt weird. I was thinking about her all the time and i thought “why didn’t she text me anything at all?” Maybe i missed her? I dont know it missing her feels like that. I feel so bad tho about everything, nothing gives me pleasure or motivation.. 🙁
August 31, 2026 at 8:50 pm #460759ConfusedParticipantBtw, yesterday she asked me if i am waiting for her to finish her exam so i can tell her something important because she “had a feeling”. I told her im just waiting for ur exam to finish so u can breathe again and be calmer. She said “are u sure? u can tell me now”, i told her “haha u drama queen, stop waiting for the other shoe to drop, was this bothering u for long?” she said for at least 4-5 days. That would explain her being hot/cold at moments. Today i was thinking of us doing videocall and was like 10-20% excited for that, then i would think of us meeting IRL and i get this strange feeling like i don’t know “what to do” with her IRL, i guess that’s because we are mainly online.
August 31, 2026 at 9:17 pm #460761anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused 🙂
I am glad to read from you this Monday night, but sorry to read that you are in a bad spot in every area of your life 😔
“I was thinking of trying to end the analyzing/ rumination of my relationship and everything”-
Okay, no more analysis from me.
“Today… I felt weird”- here’s the word again, w.e.i.r.d- not analyzing it. I hope that soon, you will feel Well, not Weird.
“I get this strange feeling like I don’t know ‘what to do’ with her IRL, I guess that’s because we’re mainly online.”-
I don’t think you ever explained things as clearly and as simply as you did right above.
3 days IRL vs.. how long online?
🤔 Anita
September 4, 2026 at 3:25 pm #460809ConfusedParticipantHey anita, took some time off forums and such, hope u doing well 🙂
Yeah, i feel like i dont care about anything, not my health, my body, my finances, nothing.. It will probably swing back on its own tho.
Haha it’s 3 days vs 18 months online. I know its logical to feel this way but still, i wasn’t like this before, thats why it annoys me!
September 4, 2026 at 3:42 pm #460810anitaParticipantHey 🙂 Confused:
Happy to read from you! I’ll reply further in the evening, but for now, questions, if I may: the last time you cared about your health, body, etc., was back in Nov? As you look back at your life before her, how common has this feeling of not caring been in your life and when did it start?
🤔 Anita
September 4, 2026 at 8:07 pm #460814anitaParticipantGood Friday evening (here), Confused 🙂
I just looked at your very first post in this thread, Dec 19, 2025- a bit more than 8.5 months ago.
3 days vs 18 months. What is the % of irl vs LD?
(Will have Gemini calculate it for me- on the phone I have Gemini, Copilot on the computer)..
September 4, 2026 at 8:25 pm #460815anitaParticipantContinued: 0.55%
But emotionally, for you, she meant between 100% (laughing, teasing, and having so much fun during hundreds of hours of video calls) and 0% (shutdowns in-between video calls).
“I wasn’t like this before”- in very simple language, if you can, making it real easy for me to understand: how were you before vs now?
🤔 Anita
September 5, 2026 at 7:00 pm #460827anitaParticipantI have to tell you, Confused- I had a social outing this afternoon where the Greek guy I told you about was part of.
You asked me what part of Greece he’s from. Well, he was born in the U.S, so I asked him this evening (inspired by your question), what part of Greece his family is from.
I didn’t have a pen and paper to write down his answer, but he did say his mother was from Athens, his father from Sparta, and listed other places I can’t recall, mentioning Crete (and WW2) and Cyprus, so a whole conversation between 2-3 people was inspired by Confused’s question, ‘Where in Greece is he from’? 🙂
Anita
September 5, 2026 at 8:20 pm #460828ConfusedParticipantHey anita
Haha, 0.55% is so little, but ive had worse relationships which were 100% physical or 95% physical 5% distance so it doesn’t matter for me.
Hmm, the feeling of not caring i would say has been in my life since i woke up like this in november, on this magnitude. I was never that careless about myself, i would usually try to eat somewhat healthy/sleep/exercise and work often. Now it’s just nothing motivates me, everything feels dull.
To put it simply, i was more active in my life and i was enjoying things more. Rides with the motorcycle, sleep, work (i would get motivated by money, not anymore and im not rich), going for coffee with friends, hitting the gym has been a motivator for me in the past 10 years at least, love, romance, sharing moments (even online with her), planning and dreaming about things.. but everything lost its meaning, idk what this is, lack of chemicals in my brain?
September 5, 2026 at 8:41 pm #460829anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused:
It looks like you didn’t read my most recent post an hour and a half ago, about the conversation this evening with the Greek guy.
Yes, I understand: 99.44% long- distance can feel very meaningful.
Whatever it is, you gave her too much power over your mind and life. It’s like you sacrificed your own motivations.. for what?
🤔 Anita
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