September 9, 2020 at 11:31 am #366439BrittanyParticipantSeptember 9, 2020 at 11:32 am #366441BrittanyParticipant
@layla i messaged you I’m going through somewhat of the same thing. I’d like to talk and see if it’s the same exact thing. I’m so stuck and confused, and sad.August 24, 2021 at 1:28 pm #385228
Dear Anita.Can I know how long it does take you to recover from this.Im suffering in this around 5 weeks.I love my fiance alot but I can’t feel any love towards him and also my loved once.I feel very guilty , because he is perfect,caring and we planned to get married soon.I talked to him about this and he is supporting me on this..We are in ldr.He is in military,so it’s hard for us to meet each other.Why suddenly I lost feelings .I’m so confused.Pls help me..Will be very helpful for me.August 24, 2021 at 1:41 pm #385256
It is important that you stop being afraid of the situation (of not feeling love for him). It’s okay to stop feeling love. I wish you can stop feeling fear and guilt about not feeling love for him anymore!
The reason why you stopped feeling love for him may be because you got scared of getting married: it’s a big change for you to go from a LDR to living with him as a married woman, and changes are scary. By not feeling love for you, your brain is preparing you to not do the scary thing: getting married and living with him.
Do you think this might be the reason?
anitaAugust 25, 2021 at 7:22 am #385281
Hi Anita thanks for your reply.I don’t think so I’m having that fear.Im just worrying because I cant feel the love for him and most of the time I’m unsure of my feelings.Is there any other ways to help me .I haven’t meet him in a person yet.August 25, 2021 at 7:23 am #385282
Can you please tell me how long it took for you to recover from thisAugust 25, 2021 at 7:48 am #385283
“Can you please tell me how long it took for you to recover from this“?-
– no, I am sorry: I can’t tell you that. There is no way for me to know if or when you recover from not feeling love for him anymore. I don’t even know if you should recover from not feeling love for him.
One big problem that I see is that you got engaged to a man whom you never met in-person (“I haven’t meet him in a person yet“). It doesn’t make sense to me, to get engaged before having the opportunity to hold his hand, to look into his eyes in real-life, etc.: how can you know if you will like how he smells or how it feels to be close to him when you.. never met him yet?
anitaNovember 19, 2021 at 9:53 am #388826AlmaParticipant
Ms.Anita , i noticed your replies and it seems like you have the type of understandings that I need for my relationship. Could you please email me here -email@example.com-. Im having the same problems with the guy I’ve been seeing for 3 months now. He’s my first guy and I’ve had way too much trauma in the past from boys and family and I’m falling for him but my killer anxiety and doubts seem to be taking away what I feel for him most days.November 19, 2021 at 10:28 am #388858
I would very much want to communicate with you. I have in the past exchanged emails with a few members. Currently, I am in an email communication with only one member (a woman with whom I communicated here the longest before exchanging emails). I recently made a decision to no longer exchange emails with any member, and keep the communication within these forums only. If you want to communicate with me, you can post again on this thread, or on your own thread (go to Forums at the top of the page and take it from there). You are welcome to not include real names of people and places, real dates and any private information that you don’t feel comfortable sharing on a public forum such as this.