I’m going through the exact same situation as Mickey and Jaz. And if y’all are still there, I just wanted to know how everything turned out in your relationship. I don’t know if I am overthinking this unsure feeling or if it’s really telling me that maybe I’m not meant to be with my boyfriend. Any input would be really helpful.
I and my boyfriend are really going well now. It has been 4 months since I had that experience. I am so glad that I made it through without losing the man I really love. Although I still experience that uncertain feeling from time to time (the last one was in the first week of January), I communicate with my boyfriend every time I experience it. I communicate with him the thoughts I have and we resolve it together. Also, I've always decided to choose to love whatever emotions I have at the moment which become a lot of help in our relationship.
I hope my reply helps you. And please do not be too hard on yourself (because I did) and take your time to understand what you truly feel.
I still feel the uncertainty sometimes, but is not that intense anymore. I think I have learned how to detach myself from negative thoughts through accepting and acknowledging the thoughts/feelings and then detaching myself from it.
Also, I always bear in mind that we cannot fall out of love accidentally. I believe that the love we feel for someone will not go away without our consent.
This reply was modified 1 week, 3 days ago by Micky.
We're not in an official relationship but we both like eachother, we hug and cuddle a lot. Friday I'm going to see her and thats when I planned to ask her out. But suddenly last I was laying in bed and I thought, wait, no, why? I just randomly lost that passion i had felt for her for for months. Being with her was special, her face glowed more than anyone else's. But now suddenly it doesnt. But I have such a strong desire to love her, to feel that passion I felt. I thought we were perfect for eachother, but now I sit here and agonize over why I'm NOT loosing my mind just by looking at her.
If this thread is still alive please help. Im in one of the darkest states I've ever been in and am contimplating suicide.
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