“When you live on a round planet, there’s no choosing sides.” -Wayne Dyer
I’ve read a lot of articles about achieving your dreams and creating the life you want. There is a common message that always creates a disconnect in me: Many otherwise empowering articles lose me when the authors suggest we should “tune out our haters.”
This seems to imply that there are people out there who want us to fail–who purposely act hateful with the intention of pulling us down.… Read More
“If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.” -Maxwell Maltz
I’ve written a lot about letting other people in. As a recovering loner, this has been a huge issue in my life, but everything is about balance. As much as we need to nurture our relationships with other people, we need to nurture our relationships with ourselves.… Read More
“Aim above morality. Be not simply good, be good for something.” -Henry David Thoreau
An old friend of mine used to say she hated when people pushed their causes on her. She saw this as pestering and judgment–that she somehow wasn’t good enough because she ate meat, or didn’t help preserve endangered species, or didn’t send money to starving children in third-world countries.… Read More
“An honest answer is the sign of true friendship.” -Proverb
Have you ever had a lengthy conversation with someone without acknowledging a single thing you were really thinking or feeling?
Maybe someone asked, “How are you?” And, instinctively, you said, “Fine.” Or someone asked, “What’s new?” And your knee-jerk response was, “Not much.” Or someone asked your opinion, and you glossed over what you really think to avoid making waves.… Read More
“Patience is passion tamed.” -Lyman Abbott
Running a site about wisdom can be an exercise in massive irony when you don’t feel like applying what you’ve learned. For me, this is most relevant when it comes to patience.
For the past three months, I’ve been planning a new feature for this site, and I’ve devoted a lot of my time, energy, and resources to creating it.… Read More
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” -Charles Swindoll
“I can’t wait to leave LA. Seriously, we should consider moving within a year.”
I said this to my boyfriend as we were sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic a few streets away from our apartment, anticipating at least 10 more minutes of chaos.… Read More
“If you are never scared, embarrassed, or hurt, it means you never take chances.” -Julia Soul
If you think you may have made mistakes, you are probably on the right track. That means you’re doing things even though you’re not perfect at them, which is the only way to learn and grow.… Read More
“Begin, be bold, and venture to be wise.” -Horace
Have you ever heard the phrase “Feel the fear and do it anyway”? The first time I heard this, I immediately thought, “How?” How exactly do you push yourself to do something when everything in your body tells you not to do it?… Read More
“Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have.” -Doris Mortman
When I was a little girl, before I learned to question myself or my abilities, I decided that one day I would have it all.
I imagined I’d be a famous actress, I’d marry the man of my dreams, and we’d have and adopt lots of children that we’d take around the world, à la Brad and Angelina.… Read More
“When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” -Miguel Ruiz
Years back, in a group therapy circle, I met a man who provided an interesting definition for paranoia: It’s when you’re sitting in the bleachers at a football game, watching the players in a huddle, convinced they’re talking about you.… Read More
“Give whatever you are doing and whoever you are with the gift of your attention.” -Jim Rohn
We all get busy. We have responsibilities to meet. We have coworkers and superiors expecting things from us. We have ambitions and goals, things we want to improve in ourselves and our lives. I suspect that underneath it all, what we really want is to make a difference for other people.… Read More
A while back, when a friend of mine lost her best friend in a car accident, I found a site called Love Bomb that inspired and moved me.
Every week, the Love Bomb community comes together to leave uplifting comments on a blog post written by someone who’s going through a hard time.… Read More
“The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.” -Pema Chodron
Most people have areas where they’re willing to accept new information and others where they just won’t budge.
An overweight friend of mine used to believe she needed a relationship to be happy, but that no one could love someone her size.… Read More
“Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace.” -Joan Borysenko
The other day, as I approached the street I needed to cross to visit the Coffee Bean near my apartment, I noticed there were only 5 seconds left on the walk signal. Instinctively, I ran. With a laptop.… Read More
“Beware of the half truth. You may have gotten hold of the wrong half.” ~Unknown
The other day, a friend told me how his previous relationship fell apart. His girlfriend failed to disclose a major resentment based on a misconception, and instead initiated a series of arguments over little things until their relationship eventually collapsed under the weight of all that confrontation.… Read More
“The past has no power to stop you from being present now. Only your grievance about the past can do that.” -Eckhart Tolle
Today I read that Elizabeth Smart, who was kidnapped in 2002, is going to join ABC as a correspondent, covering missing persons.
In case you haven’t followed this case, Elizabeth was only 14 when Brian David Mitchell abducted her from her Salt Lake City home.… Read More
“Because of your smile, you make life more beautiful.” -Thich Nhat Hanh
The other day, I was looking through friends’ Facebook albums–and by friends, I mean teenage cousins, readers I’ve yet to meet, and acquaintances from high school.
It all started so innocently, clicking on a recently added photo on my wall, and before I knew it, I was knee-deep in the lives of people I rarely see, have never seen, or haven’t seen in years.… Read More
Some days, it’s easy to smile. You wake up to the sounds of birds chirping, with the warm glow of the morning sun cradling your face. You take several deep, cleansing breaths standing beneath a perfectly cascading shower, just before drawing a smiley face on the steamed-up glass with your index finger.… Read More
“Criticism is something you can easily avoid by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” -Aristotle
No matter what you’re trying to do, someone somewhere has a harsh opinion.
Maybe it’s a virtual stranger. Since the advent of the Internet, people can easily vent their judgments behind a cloak of anonymity.… Read More
“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” -Mary Engelbreit
In a recent response to my blog post about dealing with difficult people, an anonymous commenter mentioned that she has a negative team member, an irrational supervisor, and an ineffective HR manager.… Read More