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Waking Up to Live Fully and Passionately

“It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Have you ever hit the snooze button? I’m guessing you have at least once. And when you hit it— if you were awake enough to even think about it—you were probably happy knowing that you’d be getting a few more minutes of sleep, right?

You may have been dreaming a really great dream or were super comfortable in your bed, and you just weren’t ready to wake up. Maybe you had a hard time getting to sleep the night before or you just didn’t get enough sleep.

In any case, waking up would be painful, right? So it makes perfect sense that you wanted to put off feeling that pain.

But what if this were a metaphor for your life? What if each time you hit the snooze button and chose to stay asleep, you pushed away precious opportunities to wake up? And what if each time you pushed the button, you were actually postponing your life? Would you still push it?

I did. For many years. For most of my life, actually. I had gotten into the habit of hearing the wake-up call and hitting the snooze button. It wasn’t a convenient time, or I was too scared to do anything about it, or I just wanted to ignore it.

I continually hit the snooze button when I said no to opportunities to stretch out of my comfort zone and soar into a new life: an acceptance into a great college, a scholarship to study in France, and an invitation to speak at my college graduation.

I hit the snooze button because I was too afraid. I wasn’t ready to wake up and start living fully.

Ignoring the wake-up calls became such a habit that I eventually didn’t want to leave my bed at all. I wanted to continue sleeping. It was safe, warm, and comfortable there. I could pull the covers over my head and pretend that the real world didn’t exist.

I could pretend that it was perfectly okay that I was sleeping my life away.

But I could only ignore the alarms and my inner voice urging me to wake up for so long. Because two years ago, I received a wake-up call that didn’t come with a snooze button: I learned that my first love had killed himself.

In one moment, my entire world changed. I felt so much pain and so much sadness, and I couldn’t push it away. I couldn’t pretend that this wasn’t happening. I tried to go to bed and pull the covers up, but the grief went with me. I couldn’t escape it.

While we hadn’t spoken in many years, memories of our time together came rushing back. I remembered us when we were younger—full of life and promise and joy and vibrancy. I hadn’t felt any of those things for so long.

I had been too busy ignoring the wake-up calls and hitting the snooze button—trying not to feel or stretch myself.

But in this moment of extreme grief came extreme clarity: I knew that I needed to make a drastic change. My life wasn’t over yet, and it was time that I stopped acting like it was.

In that moment, I chose to throw away the snooze button. I chose to start saying yes to each opportunity that came my way: a writing career, radio interviews, and new friendships—things that I most likely would have shied away from and said no to in the past, I began to embrace. And it’s been wonderful (for the most part).

Because here’s the thing that we don’t always hear about when we read these uplifting stories from people who have overcome hardship: Waking up can be painful. It can be hard. It is definitely easier to stay asleep and continue sleepwalking through life.

Living consciously is not all roses and chocolate and anything else that we all love. There is a reason why many of us choose to remain asleep. Waking up means that we feel everything—the good and the bad.

Waking up means that we are aware of the many horrific things that are happening in the world, but we’re also aware of all of the beautiful things. Waking up means that we have to take responsibility for our lives and start moving toward our purpose. And all of this can be scary and exhausting. It’s perfectly understandable that we hit the snooze button.

But what I experienced with this wake-up call and this period of grieving is that going through the pain is a necessary part of moving into the joy.

Life is filled with good and bad and everything in between. And it’s only by choosing to wake up that we can really experience it fully.

I received a jolting wake-up call when my first love died. But I had been receiving smaller wake-up calls for years before this. We all have. And most of us choose to hit the snooze button because we aren’t ready to wake up.

The last two years have been some of the hardest moments that I have ever experienced, but they have also been the most beautiful moments.

For the first time in my life, I am wide awake—I feel everything. I am consciously creating my life, and I am truly living. I am no longer okay with postponing my life, and I have thrown away my snooze button.

If you are hearing the wake-up calls now, please don’t ignore them. You don’t have to wait until your wake-up call becomes a full-blown alarm. You don’t have to hit the snooze button any longer.

It’s true that waking up can be painful, but it’s also such a beautiful way to live. And it sure beats sleeping your life away.


Lori’s Note: Jodi’s launching a powerful new eCourse on 10/1 called Coming Back to Life. It’s a 6-week course that will help you feel more passionate and alive, with a 150-page workbook, 35 contributors, (including me), 9 guided meditations, over 30 videos, weekly chat sessions, and more.

She’s generously offered to give away 2 free courses to Tiny Buddha readers. Comment on the post for a chance to win! You can enter until midnight PST on Sunday, September 16th. If you’d like to purchase the course now, and receive $175 in bonus gifts, you can get $20 off using the code “backtolife.” (Full disclosure: I am a huge fan of Jodi’s work, and I am an affiliate for her course). 

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Jodi Chapman is the author of the inspirational blog, Soul Speak and the bestselling Soulful Journals series, co-authored with her husband, Dan Teck. If you’re ready to bring your dream to life, click here to learn more about her Soul Shakers’ Mastermind Group. Enter “tinybuddha” at checkout & receive a free Dream-Planning session ($147 value)!

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  • Angie

    Thanks so much for waking me up! I’ve been hearing the wake-up call for far too long,too! And far too often I had finally managed to get up… Just to return to “bed” a few minutes later because i didn’t have the courage to face the fear! This has to stop! Thank you for reminding me!

  • Debbie

    This sounds like a great course. Please enter me in the drawing.

  • Gretchen

    Meeting challenges head-on is always rewarding! I would love to join in on the course…

  • Snoozer

    Jodi, thanks a lot for this post, the snooze button is a great metaphor for our fear and discourage in all day life. To learn more about the wake up call, I’d love to win one of the courses :)

  • Alexis

    What a great post! Enter me in your drawing please!

  • CRM

    I’m about to take a drastic new path in life. After a year of digging, tilling, and watering I’m about to take a plunge. I would love to win the drawing and be a part of the class.

  • GoodThoughts

    I’d love to enter the drawing. I quit ‘hitting the snooze button on life’ recently and am experiencing the good and bad that comes with it. Sometimes I want to hide under the covers because at times it feels so hard but I keep pushing on, knowing it’s the only way to live life. Definitely feels like it’s getting easier at times but sometimes the progress made equals a step back. I’d like to keep positive and have the faith that all will be well. A course would be great! Thanks for the great article.

  • Strelka

    Dear Lori,
    I have already dived into my personal course of living fully and I would greatly welcome any source of inspiration. This course sounds like is a great tune for waking up to!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Elle-Sommer/100002909360878 Elle Sommer

    Love Jodi, she always writes so beautifully from her heart. She is one of the shining starts of the blogosphere. Thanks for this Lori.
    Love Elle
    xoxo

  • http://www.facebook.com/BarryCBMartin Barry Martin

    A perfect metaphor to encourage me to wake up without the alarm each day…grateful for my life, my friends and my loving partner.

  • Anna

    Dear Lori, I would love to be entered in the drawing. I am on a downward spiral in life it seems and this course seems to be a source or ticket upwards. Thank you and Namaste!

  • TB at BlueCollarWorkman.com

    Hey enter me into that drawing.
    For me I was sleeping through life with crime. When I was younger, I got expelled from 2 highschools, I was in a gang, and I was always in some kind of legal trouble or other. I just fell into it and it was so easy. I could just pass off everyone who were rule followers as lame, and then just do whatever the gang leader said. It was an easy way to not think and just float through life half asleep.When I got a girl pregnant and my first daughter was born — that was the great awakening. Suddnely everything just changed in my head and I turned everything around. It was very painful, both mentally and physically (when you leave a gang they either kill you or beat you out — I fell into the latter category, but that still put me in the hospital for awhile), but I had woken up and I no longer wanted to be this half-asleep, floating thorugh life, criminal dude. I had a daughter now. It’s been over 10 years now and I have a job, 2 daughters, I’m married, I own a house, all the looks of a normal, well adjusted dude, lol, but it was a tough road that started with waking the heck up!! Great post.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000638362807 Julie Lombardo

    Like stretching the muscles… i’m stretching mine a little at a time and it’s articles like this that encourage me to keep on stretching till the pain subsides.

  • Melissa

    I’m hoping to win! I’ve never won anything in my life.

  • Merrie

    Thanks for the reminder to stop putting life on hold! Fear and resistance delay me, I believe, but I know I have the power to open up to it fully and with an open heart.

  • sos

    I am trying not to hit the snooze button…

  • vivakitsch

    I would love to be entered — I need something to wake me up and give me a kick in the pants! Fear constantly gets in the way for me. I love Tiny Buddha – it really makes me think! And I know I could benefit greatly from this course!

  • Rashmi

    love the post…very inspirational..and it is like a perfect timing..i think this article is my wake up call to embrace life…each day is an opportunity… please enter me for the free giveaway also :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/shaec.cooper Shaec Cooper

    This really spoke to me; I have been in a very similar place the last two years, and even though it has been incredibly wonderful, it’s also been incredibly scary.

  • Diana

    That course sounds like an amazing gift! Thank you for the post. Even though life is moving fast and a lot is getting accomplished, it does not mean that I am living fully.

  • a_distorted_reality

    Inspirational and so true! I ‘woke up’ about a year ago, having spent my whole life hitting the snooze button. Yes, it would’ve been safe and comfortable to stay where I was in my little rut, but when I think of everything I would’ve missed out on (and that’s only in a year – who know’s what’s yet to come!) I wouldn’t change a moment of it. DO IT everyone! :)

  • JLB

    Fantastic and inspiring post – thank you!!

  • Jeff

    i just started reading this blog a couple weeks ago, but my curiosity has been fulfilled. i am loving these posts, and i feel like someone is just following me around and writing about my life haha.

  • JJ

    Please enter me to win the new eCourse called Coming Back to Life.
    I’m new to Tina Buddha, I stumbled on to it by accident. I feel like it’s been God sent, and it has me waking up to the possibilities of life. Thank you for your article, it adds to all the new stuff I’m already learning. It’s quite powerful and most of us are asleep until something happens in our life to wake us up. I’m trying to be wide awake and I just want to say have a wonderful day to anyone who reads my post. Love ya

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=569270093 Kim Leary Smith

    This post definitely is about me. I never saw avoidance of opportunity as “hitting the snooze button” but I can see the metaphor a bit. I have spent my life so far avoiding things that are outside of my comfort zone.

  • Nicole Arias

    Thank you for this post. It’s amazing when you finally realize that you’ve been snoozing through life and have to ‘wake up’, when you enter that state of acceptance, then things just seem to fall into place; each day can surprise us with a new gift. For too long I let myself get held back by fear, sank into the comfort of contentment and spiraled into frustration mainly because I have not achieved my goals. I always imagined how my life would be AFTER I achieved those goals and failed to realize that life is NOW, it’s everything that’s happening while I work hard in order to pursue the things I want. I am now gaining a new perspective but each day is still hard. I’ve opened up to my family and asked for continuous support and that has been very helpful (amazing what a few encouraging words in the morning can do for the rest of your day), and I’m frequenlty reading articles like this one (I used to be 100% against self-help media thinking I could do everything by myself…mistake), and just taking it one day at a time, focusing mainly on my goals and trying to be faithful to my dreams instead of my fears. So, again, thank you for this post, it’s little gifts like these that help me go on. Good luck to everyone else!

  • tatieno

    Thank you for your great post, it is true, I do too have to embrace my opportunities and hope for the best and be ready to feel the good and the bad…but ultimately, feel something.

  • Susan

    I am grateful for opening my email this morning. Isn’t it funny how just what we need to hear is so often right in front of us. I really needed to read this post! I’ve been hiding and fearful for too long! Thank you for this thought provoking piece!

  • http://twitter.com/BigC_MKE Big C MKE

    Thank you for this article. I found myself sleeping through a large portion of my life – the vast majority of my 20s when people should be living life and finding out who they really are – and it was extremely difficult to stop hitting that snooze button. At times it seemed pointless. Life had passed me by, why worry about trying to get it back now? I have grown more in the last 6 years than I think I had in the first 30. It is amazing how much more vibrant life is. Sure, it is painful at times, and difficult, and at times I do want to crawl under the covers and go back to sleep. But once you see the light, it is not possible to do so.

    Thank you for putting this into words in such a beautiful way. This helps me not only remember where I came from and will never go back to – it also helps me realize how far I’ve come and allows me to be proud of that.

    Thank you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/mary.schweikl Mary Schweikl

    I would also like to be entered to win the new Ecourse. I have felt for too long that I have been living in the sailor’s equivalent of the doldrums where the winds of change are constantly shifting and not allowing me to fill my life’s sails and move in a new direction. I feel this course could be that much needed wind. Mary

  • Leigh

    Would love to win the course. Please enter me in the drawing.

  • Henri

    I so need this…and though everyday I fight the hand that reaches for the snooze I can’t seem to win…..I know that there is a mastery to this, but I can’t seem to unlock it! Please!

  • NLake

    Thank you….it took this article to make me realize what I have been going through…kind of waiting for the next thing to happen or to just leave this existence all together. “I have become comfortably numb….”

  • Casey

    Thank you for this great post. It hit a little too close to home for me – many times in recent months, I have literally hit the snooze button, unwilling to get out of bed and take advantage of new opportunities or live my life fully because I was overwhelmed or scared and couldn’t find the energy to deal with that. I’m working toward changing my mindset now and reading about your experience and your words of encouragement has been quite reassuring.

  • Mindfulness

    Wow, I feel this post was written for me. I am struggling to wake up and find my way. Thanks for this inspiring post

  • http://www.facebook.com/coreyday89 Corey Roberts McGrath

    I can full heartedly agree with your message here. It can be hard to be awake and taking it ALL in but it so unbelievably worth it. We’ll also be in a position to help others who also have opened their eyes. We aren’t alone in the journey.

  • Dawn M-W

    Although I enjoy all blogs on here, this one really resonated with me. My dad was diagnosed with cancer 3 years ago, and during his treatments, I found myself waking up… having those conversations that needed to be had – not just with him, but others, also trying to figure out my priorities (stopping the inertia of my hard-partying lifestyle), saying goodbye to friends that no longer fit in with my re-discovered values, trying to understand what fulfills me, etc.

    Since my dad died a few months ago, I feel myself resorting back to my old ways. Even though I remember the lessons and the cues he provided to me, specifically in his words, ‘If you’re not happy, you have to change the way you live’, I’m not carrying on with what I started. I don’t want his lessons and what I forced myself to do to fade away. It’s funny, I acknowledge this is happening, but I still don’t do anything about it, except hit the snooze button – again.

    I would really value this 6 week course, as would everyone that comments. Please consider me for what I think would be a reawakening and a kick in the butt that I need to move on, up, forward…..

    And, thank you for sharing your story.

  • Melanie

    I appreciate having received this today. My snooze button is perpetually pushed, and I know this need to change to allow me to truly live. Thanks for the reminder.

  • knkerner

    Thanks! I need to get rid of my snooze button too!

  • Beth

    This post really resonates with me. I’ve been feeling lately like I haven’t been fulling living my life, and instead I’m just going through a series of motions that I repeat everyday. I don’t want to spend (waste) my time like this anymore. Thanks for the opportunity to win a spot in this course!

  • http://twitter.com/laneyelaine laney elaine

    “It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.” I am guilty of this.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jen.barnes.568 Jen Barnes

    I came across this at a perfect time, when I am working towards waking up – and staying awake! Thank you

  • http://twitter.com/Tsunamidelta Matthew Walker

    My awakening, though I’m struggling with it. Started back in february when I lost and left a relationship that was very important to me. The road hasn’t been easy, I struggle to let go everyday. But I’m working on reopening my heart and become vunerable to pain and happiness. I’ve been trying to let go of old prejudices and open myself to new and amazing experiences that I would’ve scoffed at before. I’m also re-exploring parts of me that have laid dormant. A lot of my life, I’ve been on Autopilot. Just going with a flow, but closing my heart and soul off. Letting other people with their desires define my life. That tendency is still very strong in me, but I’m working on changing that.

  • Sahil

    Hi Jodi,

    I completely agree with the message of this post, as I too went through a rough time for the past two years dealing with a significant break up, and then being diagnosed with an illness. I appreciate how vulnerable you have been to share this story, and send you love in return. I think your words and story have given many of us, including me, to continuously embrace our pain, experience life fully, and make choices towards our own happiness. Thank you.

    Sahil

  • Ruby

    I can’t believe how much this article is so spot on to what I have been doing in my life. It’s sort of painful to admit it which also seems to make it easier to keep thinking tomorrow….will be different. But, it’s been pretty painful avoiding too…really painful actually. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • Christina

    Thank you do much!! Thid post has opened my eyes so much. Ive been hitting the snooze button for the past four years of my life. Its time to change and go forward!!!! Thanks again for the inspiration and courage

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=565595533 Andrea Lewis

    Jodi, this is truly an inspirational post. Thanks so much for sharing. It truly resonated with me and it’s exactly what I needed to read today.

  • Amanda

    Sometimes timing is everything, and this post was just the thing I needed to hear this morning.

  • Samara

    Amazing – as usual, this is exactly what I needed today! There is construction going on next door, making it impossible to sleep past 8, and yet I still thought it would be a good idea to reset my clock for 9 instead of waking up and doing something I had planned and been looking forward to – all because it was more comfortable to just stay in bed. I regretted it as soon as I got out of bed; should have listened to my inner voice. Thank you for reminding me!

  • sinirlisinek

    It is a relief to hear that waking up can be painful…knowing that makes it easier to deal with.

  • Cara

    Ready to wake up!

  • Reinita

    Thank you for this. I also needed to read this today. I have been paralyzed with my fears and all I wanted is stay in bed and not deal with the goods things and bad. I wanted to stay in my confort zone…but that confort zone is not my purpose ….thanks again for this good reading.

  • Craig Ruvere

    What a profound post Jodi. So much of our lives we spend living in the dark – afraid to allow the light in to see the realities of our very existence. I know myself I always tried to convince myself that my parents always did right for me – putting them on the proverbial pedestal and defending their actions or behaviors whenever possible. Regardless of what occurred, it always seemed to be my fault and thus an “I’m sorry” was all the was needed to ease any tension. But as we grow and mature we start to understand that we no longer have to continue living in the dark. That our lives deserve more than what we burden ourselves with. We all need to define our own lives and sometimes that does require waiting for that internal alarm to sound indicating that it’s time for a change in life. Thank you again for your wonderful post and all the best to you. Craig

  • LoveBeingAMom

    The idea of “letting go” of a painful past and breaking free of heavy chains is so exciting to me, but I often wonder how possible or real this idea is. I want to get to a point where I can say, and mean, that my past doesn’t have to define my future. Just when I think I’ve found my way on the right path, I get discouraged and end up right back at square one. I don’t want to give up, but some days it’s so overwhelming. Seriously considering your course, I haven’t given up hope just yet! Thank you for your inspiration.

  • Rachel

    What an amazing and timely post, which resonated with me more than I could have imagined. I was clearly meant to read this, right now.

    I had a traumatic, but necessary awakening of my own at the start of this year, when I was forced to recognise that sleepwalking through life was no longer an option, and that the only person who could change things, was me.

    Months down the line, huge lows and highs later, I know and gratefully accept that what I fought so hard to resist will be the making of me. There have been some very dark times, I’ve made huge mistakes in the process, but boy, have I learned some valuable and unforgettable lessons.

    So know I feel that I am on the cusp of an incredible journey to a better, alive, feeling, experiencing way of living. I would love to be considered for this course. I am ready. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/matecerk79 Mat Veni

    When you stop snoozing button you can smell coffee, go on the terrase and watch sunrise early in the morning when the town still sleep. It’s a Reward you feel in that moment. Try to practise this..

  • http://www.facebook.com/matecerk79 Mat Veni

    Jp, with sharing such stories we are helping each other and remind others and ourselves. Jodi did a great work.

  • CQ

    I sent this to my husband, whom I love more than anything in the world, because i realize we both have been hitting the snooze button, for far too long. i’m hoping we can start this journey together as I know it’s what we have been working towards for awhile.

  • http://www.facebook.com/matecerk79 Mat Veni

    Nice comment :) I also didn’t use to read self help articles… and now I know this works for my mind as a warm-up for the athletes.

  • upwardlightmovement

    I am waking up…or I am trying so hard to wake up, sometimes I can’t tell. Right now I am in such a painful place and this post was both encouraging and frustrating to me. I am trying so hard, yet am terrified. There is a major relationship of mine that “appears” to be a significant obstacle to my wake-up and wellbeing. But I struggle mightily with the belief that I am supposed to be able to transform the relationship with love, compassion, giving what I want to get, intention, and all the other things involved in the law of attraction, right? Yet after three years of this effort, and effort on his part too, the relationship remains a source agony. At times it is better than that, but even then, it always feels like struggle is close by, waiting to return. I am terrified to end it, and I also worry that if I did, it would mean I’m running away from a problem that would simply find another way to manifest if I don’t learn the lesson. I am struggling so deeply. I want to wake up and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I know I have so much to contribute but am paralyzed. I want to wake up, I am trying to wake up, but I am afraid and it’s like something is sitting on me and I can’t get out of the bed! I realize that am waiting to start living.
    Thank you so much for your post. Your course looks amazing. Blessings to you!

  • Elyse

    Thank you Jodi. This is just what I needed today. Beautiful.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=120000480 Carol Moulton

    Every day I think about being more aware, more awake than the day before. Many things hold me back, many fears keep me from moving forward, and honestly, it’s wearing on me as a person. That’s not me. That’s now how I got to where I am now. This post came at a much needed time, where I need to stop snoozing, and just wake up!!! There are opportunities out there that I’m missing by sleeping. Time to grab them and live!

  • Tracey

    I feel like this was written for me. I’ve been fighting depression for a long time and lately I have gone back to spending a lot of time sleeping, then I don’t have to deal with what is happening around me. Life is literally passing me by. I’m trying to change that and at least I’m more aware now, that is a step in the right direction.

  • http://twitter.com/fox_sara Sara Fox

    I view staying asleep as not living in the present moment. I am incredibly guilty of this. I got laid off from my job several months ago. I know this is a huge blessing because the job was making me physically ill due to all the stress of it. Now I have new stressors, the fear of when I will find a new job and if I will hate it or not. I honestly have no idea where I want to go with my life. I am thankful I get to spend more time with my family and I know that is part of my purpose. I have all this freedom and yet I feel paralyzed. Some days I cant even manage to get out of bed and I feel like I am wasting my life. I dont feel overly passionate about anything. I know Ill find my way eventually, but it is a rough ride right now. So I’d say I’m half asleep.

  • http://www.facebook.com/diana.griffin.37 Diana Griffin

    This is perfect for me today, thank you!

  • http://everlutional.com/ David Hamilton | Everlution

    My absolute favorite line” Living consciously is not all roses and chocolate and anything else that we all love.” I often feel that in our space there is too much “be positive” and ignore the negative and it drives me bananas. If you don’t feel it all fully, then like you’ve said you lose out on being awake and experiencing even more joy through the ‘negative’.

    When I stop the flow of my life into mediocrity and become numb, it’s often when I’m ignoring what I deeply feel – deep down at the core of my soul, whether positive or negative.

    Great to see you expressing yourself over here at TinyBuddha – Jodi. I feel big things happening for you, and can’t wait to see how it all unfolds with the Coming Back to Life Course and more that’s in store that already being created. :)

  • Lori

    I’ve been hearing that wake up call for a long, long time but I’m afraid to answer it. I want to wake up.

  • Stephen

    Outstanding piece of writing and such a timely message…I spent 16 years in an abusive, loveless marriage full of disrespect, contempt, disloyalty and infedelity because I was afraid to confront any of it. When I finally did a year ago, and asked her to commit to being in the marriage and doing the work we both needed to do to have the relationship we both deserved, instead of answering, she fled while I was out of town visiting family. I was torn wide open emotionally and painfully forced to face the truth that I’d suppressed and hidden from myself for years. today I feel blessed by her flight…it tore the door from the sealed vault of my ancient emotional pain and forced me to experience a lifetime of loss and self inflicted degradation….I was also forced to acknowledge that no one had done any of these disrespectful and abusive acts toward me without my full consent…I had willingly engaged in the self deception needed to keep the abuse going. Her flight actually set me free from the nightmare I’d willingly been living.

  • Susan Miller

    I so needed to read this today! I feel “blunted” and so need to heed this advice!

  • zgirl404

    I could have written these same words. Except that unfortunately I have been struggling to wake-up from my relationship for nearly twenty years. And recognizing that I cannot want something for someone who doesn’t want it for themselves has been so hard. And the lesson for me has been that it is far worse to feel alone with someone than to be alone with yourself. I wish you the best.

  • http://www.facebook.com/alixandrea Alixandrea Corvyn

    Your post could have been written by me Jodi, as I too lost an ex recently, someone I hadn’t connected with for far too long, someone I had once loved very deeply. His death also helped to shock me into wakefulness and I am now trying to work out exactly what I want to do with my life after too many years of sleepwalking.

    Jennifer Boykin of Life After Tampons said it best in her latest blog post:

    We live our own Best Life in tribute to those who left too soon.

    I have every intention of trying to be the woman my ex once told me – in a song he wrote for my birthday the year we met – that he believed I could be.

  • http://abundancehighway.com SuzieCheel

    Wow Jodi you have touched so many hearts and souls, I love it. It has touched my heart and there are so many parts that could be me writing this and probably has birthed a new post for me. The universe has handed me many wake up calls recently and just this morning i knew i had a step I will take to stop snoozing and truly wake up! My angels and my guides gave me a big nudge this morning and then i saw the link to you empowering post. Synchronicity. Thank you Jodi and Lori.

  • http://abundancehighway.com SuzieCheel

    Lori that is wonderful and I relate to that thank you

  • Trish

    Thanks for your article and message it deeply resonated with me – I think I have periods of sleepwalking and waking up and then sleepwalking. I think I have lacked the courage to really wake up … I really don’t know why. I have had some amazing opportunities that have slipped past me and I really have no idea why I let them go and then I spend time lambasting myself. Onwards and upwards … Trish

  • ashwini

    Wow..that was fantastic :) I’ve been postponing things and living in the shadows for long now. This article made me think and realize that the right time to start responding and waking up completely to the moment is NOW. The article beautifully shows us how life sometimes, gets void of a second chance. Live for the present, you never know what will happen tomorrow. Thanks a lot for the article :)

  • Iky

    I’ve slept for over 10yrs in haziness. Not really knowing why. I now realise that i was scared of life. My life. The one that i was/had created. I’m waking up lately. I would love to win a place on this course as you would be giving me another opportunity to learn and embrace life more fully.

  • Pamela Anderson

    I really enjoyed the article. I feel as if my life is “on hold” now and has been for some time. I definitely need to embrace change.

  • Johanna_Galt

    This is exactly where I am in my life right now — no longer content with hitting the snooze button and eager to throw off the covers and jump out of bed. I’ve been asleep long enough. Thank you for such a beautiful and inspiring post. You are the epitome of turning struggle into strength.

  • zgirl404

    I read this article yesterday and commented about how hard I struggled with this. I always wake up way before my alarm. I always go back to sleep or lay in the bed lamenting why I wake up so early. This morning when I woke up early, I did lay in bed and think for a while. I wake up early for a reason, but instead of doing my negative cycle of thoughts about why I don’t want to get up, why I don’t want to go to work and initiating my whole daily routine of bad habits, I thought about this article and the things I wanted to accomplish today (and with my life, in general).

    I also recognize that I can’t do everything that immediately came to mind, which will prevent me from jumping into my whole self-flagellation routine for not being perfect. I’m choosing two things to do today with the extra time I have gotten by waking up. I think I needed to read this more than anything else I’ve read on Tinybuddha. This morning I didn’t want to be asleep anymore. I don’t care if it’s a good day or a bad day. I’m glad I’m awake. THANK YOU!

  • http://profiles.google.com/semayawi.toadcottage Beth Gallagher

    As usual, this post is so very appropriate for me! I have just this week decided to live fully awake, and it’s hard to leave the shadowy comfort of dreamland. There is so much life to be lived though, and I know that wakefulness is the only way to really see what beauty awaits! My m.o. has been hiding from stress & torment, but it finds us anyway when we’re awake OR asleep. Might as well face it head on and let beauty and wonder blur the hard edges of the dark. Thanks for this! Hoping that I can win such an interesting course. :)

  • http://twitter.com/Dianalogue Diana

    Thank you for this gem. I will carry the intention of ‘waking up’ with me today. I have been nudged many times lately and like many others am working to truly heed the call. Waking up is the first step, it’s taking the action of the second step that articles such as yours help us find the courage to take the next one. Saying ‘yes’ is a wonderful way to embrace life. Thank you.

  • Nicole Foster

    This was a beautiful article. I’m very sorry you have been grieving, but it is amazing how positively you have viewed your loss.

  • Mamalama

    Oh my. How did you know this is exactly what I need?

  • kristin

    This post really hit home for me. I know i need to wake up but am having a hard time doing so. This program might be just what i need to finally wake up.

  • laokc

    So glad you said it! I’ve been hitting the snooze button for a while now ~ Thanks for the revelation!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Wow! I am just blown away by all of your heartfelt comments – thank you! I’m truly grateful that we’re all waking up together.

  • Hope

    This waking up feels so right. i am hearing all the signals God is giving me to live here now in today and forget yesterday’s pains and tommorows challenges. I see God by my side.Letting go of the past and moving on by living each moment fully feels good finally.

  • Marissam33

    I’m feeling tired.

  • New Day

    I’ve never commented on any of the wonderful articles I’ve read on Tiny Buddha before. I read your article now and was touched by the fact that just this morning as I was walking into work for some reason I was thinking about my own first love’s suicide about four years ago, a month after my sons birth. Just like you I hadn’t spoken to him in years. In all the chaos of having a newborn it was a blip in my day and I never really mourned or dealt with it. I’ve been continuously pressing snooze and want so much to wake up but fear the pain of doing so. Thank you for this.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so sorry for your loss, and I can completely relate to not wanting to wake up because it may be painful. I can just say that I’ve found the pain to be a small part of the entire awakening process. Yes, it is there. I’m definitely not denying that. But in being willing to feel the pain, you open up to being able to feel every emotion – including all of the wonderful feelings that you may not have felt in a really long time. Sending you a hug.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I love that you’re so aware – this is such a beautiful way to walk through life. Even if we don’t know the answers, knowing that we don’t know them is so powerful. It sounds like you’re in a period of rebirth in many ways, and I love that you’re choosing to open up and explore new parts of yourself. That’s truly wonderful.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so sorry about your dad’s passing, Dawn. Like I said to Matthew, you are aware – you hear those whispers inside, and it sounds like you’re ready to do what your dad said so beautifully – change the way you are living to find your happiness. It sounds so simple, but our default setting is pretty powerful, right? I truly believe that you’re well on your way to lasting change. I would recommend tender, loving baby steps – just a little bit at a time. And I bet that after awhile you’ll be amazed at how far you’ve gone.

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re absolutely right that once we have seen the light, it’s truly impossible to go into a deep sleep again. I think we can take little naps here and there, but we always come back – we’re pulled to that vibrancy of life. And you should be proud of yourself – it sounds like you’ve come very far!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I can definitely relate to focusing on the goals rather than the present moment. And what I realized during my own process of waking up is that life only happens in this moment right here – right now. That’s not to say that we can’t have dreams and goals for the future, but if we aren’t enjoying this moment, what’s the point? I’m so glad you brought this up because it’s such a powerful way to live.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad you’re listening and are open to waking up and living each moment fully!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you so much. ♥

  • Jodi Chapman

    I truly think that saying yes to life opens up our entire world, and I’m so glad you’re doing exactly that!

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re absolutely right that life will find us eventually – so we may as well wake up now and move through it and find the joy in it and face our fears rather than sleeping our life away.

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank YOU for sharing. This is why we, as writers, write – with the hopes of helping each other see the world a little differently. And I’m so grateful that it inspired you to wake up and start focusing on the positive things in your life!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you! I’m glad we’re both throwing away our snooze buttons. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Your story sounds very similar to how I was living my own life. I’m so glad you’re waking up, too!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad you’re ready to wake up now! Why sleep our life away?

  • Jodi Chapman

    You really make a great point – that we wake up for a little while and then go back to sleep for awhile. I think once we make a conscious choice to awaken, we never really sleep that deeply again though. We know what it’s like to really LIVE, and that feeling never goes away. Whatever the reasons for your saying no to past opportunities, you can choose to say yes from now on. And I love that we all get that chance!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks, Suzie! I love synchronicities like that, and I can’t wait to see what comes from it for you! ♥

  • Allison

    I could use a wake-up call. I have no idea where I’m headed.

  • Linda

    Jodi-great article. For the first time in my life I am able to face life with open heart and open mind. Me, the victim, has hit the snooze button for years because I was so afraid of taking the steps to open up and take care of me …see, I let others control my emotions, thoughts and probably my physical being. Painfully, during the past two years, think of it and I am 68 years old, with the help of Alanon and a wonderful supportive sponsor I told the truth and began the painful process of waking up to life. I am so thankful for all the help that has come to me thru Tiny Buddha, support systems and other humans who know about “hitting the snooze button”…thank you so much for this article, I am proud to say I relate an proud that I took the steps necessary to brighten my heart and soul and live “my life”…blessings.

  • http://www.facebook.com/amanda.mae.d Amanda Dohrwardt

    This is one article I should really listen to! The course sounds wonderful!! ;D

  • Jana

    I love the metaphor of the snooze button, so many of us are in waking sleep all the time, our whole lives. Thank you for this — I am totally on board with what you say, and have recently decided to throw away my own snooze button. Awesome pic too.

  • Margaret Wright

    I too have never commented on any of the articles but have often felt them so in tune with how I was feeling that very day. Your post was spot on. I have been thinking about the many opportunities I have had, the things I have felt needed to be different in the world and in me and when people believed in me and offered me the chance to act I backed away. My Mum is 93 this weekend and she keeps asking me to live my life and enjoy it fully as that is its gift. Fear and procrastination are there in bucket loads. Can see the repeating patterns!

  • jck211

    It’s so true…and an extension of this is that while we’re snug in the bed, sometimes we have to admit to ourselves we’re really just lying there thinking, rather than doing (whether anxiously or in a spirit of acceptance, it’s still just being stuck in our head)…and even when we’re so exhausted (upset, anxious, fearful), it’s only by getting up and at ‘em that we have the chance to really ‘wake up’ to how good life really is.

  • doug potter

    Thank you for your words. It reaches a point where the snooze button becomes ones only solace and finding a way out of the darkness becomes the road less travelled.

  • Christina

    I would love to win an ecourse that would help me recognise and respond to ‘wakeup calls’ sooner and with confidence.

  • Sonya

    I loved this article too; it spoke to me in such a personal way. I am aware that I need to wake up and start connfronting my reality but I am still so afraid…the idea of pulling the covers up over my head just seems easier, but then I’ll keep getting more of the same, wouldn’t I?

  • Aminah

    Awesome!

  • Amy Lou

    I stopped hitting snooze a year ago when a loved one committed suicide. As you described, waking up allows you to fully experience what is beautiful, which has been amazing for me. But opening up to that which is not so beautiful has made me question why I started the process of change. Your article captures the feeling and provides motivation to accept the good with the bad and keep moving forward. Thank you for sharing, the timing couldn’t have been better.

  • Lorelei

    I found Tiny Buddha during a very difficult period that I am working through. This beautiful post inspired me that it’s time to wake up and end what life offers. Live it & don’t miss a thing!

  • Michelle Arsenault

    I really related to this article. Like the author, I know that I’ve been hitting the ‘snooze’ button for a long time – both metaphorically and literally! I have been doing so much emotional and spiritual growth this year and yet, the weakest point of the day is first thing in the morning. I often don’t even want to get out of bed. The thought of even starting the day is full of dread and all the progress I’ve made has not helped that aspect of my day. Metaphorically, I’ve been asleep for a long time. And just like the author of this article, I recently lost a close friend through a tragic death. My friend spent her life being a free spirit, never turning down an opportunity in life and always took chances. I am still trying to process the fact that she is gone but deep down, I know that there is a lesson for me in her death.

  • Jeannette

    This piece, like so many on TinyBuddha, felt like it was written just for me and at just the right time. There is much comfort in knowing so many others feel the exact same way.

  • Kim

    Thank you so much for this post. This has hit pretty close to home for me. My first love and dear friend committed suicide just after Christmas, 2010. I have completely changed my views on life since this time, but I am trying so hard to actually live the life I want to, instead of allowing myself to live in fear. The Coming Back to Life course sounds fascinating!

  • Cheryl Harris

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom and courage…I hit the snooze button this AM in so many ways!

  • snowkat

    I think I might have just gotten another (unexpected) wake-up call! Even though I’ve been throwing myself into new adventures and thought I was facing the grief of losing both parents and my marriage over the past three years, I was definitely reminded by this article that I’ve only been allowing a few select new people into my world instead of embracing all possibilities. Time to not only stop hitting the snooze button, but throw out the alarm clock and start waking to life every day without it!

  • Stephanie // @artfullyadored

    Thank you for sharing. This post really resonates with me as I feel the familiar sense that I am missing out on something and am not loving to the fullest. I’m looking for ways to enliven my spirit and embrace new experiences and you inspired me to keep at it. Thanks for sharing your advice!

  • Rawhiteley

    Thank you!

  • Sylvia

    Fantastic read! This is exactly what I needed to read today! Thank you!

  • Transitions

    What a wonderful article! It really hit home with me and many of the experiences and changes I’m trying to make in my life right now. I’m currently trying to make some changes in my life to learn to embrace it more fully and get the most from experiences. That’s why I’m taking the semester off from college in order to figure out what drives me and how I can the make most of my education and post-graduation life. I believe my journey could really benefit from a course by someone as enthusiastic and knowledgeable about waking up as you!

  • Merri

    Thanks Jodi!

  • Sarah

    Wow. Beautiful and effective metaphor. Thank you, I needed to “hear” that. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks, Andrea! I’m so glad it was helpful! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Let’s stop hitting the snooze button together, Angie! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks, Debbie!

  • Jodi Chapman

    So true, Getchen! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you so much! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Congratulations for being ready to take the plunge! It’s such a beautiful way to live! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I think it’s really wonderful that you keep staying awake – even though it can be painful. Life is so much more colorful when we see (and feel) the entire spectrum. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks so much, Elle! XOXO

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Anna – whether you take this course or not, please know that I’m thinking about you. I know how it feels to be spiraling downwards – please know that you can turn the direction of the spiral around. It may not feel that way now, but you really can – just one conscious thought at a time. Hugs to you.

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you so much for sharing your waking-up story! I’m so inspired by how you consciously turned your life around!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you – so beautifully said. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Good luck!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Exactly – you do have the power! And remembering that (even when you’re feeling that you don’t) is what is going to help you step into a fully-lived life.

  • Jodi Chapman

    It’s a minute by minute choice. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Good luck!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you so much! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m sorry that you’ve been in a similar place, but knowing that we are not alone and are all connected definitely helps me – I hope it helps you, too. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    That’s a great point. We can be very accomplished and still completely asleep. It’s a conscious choice to wake up. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    YAY! I’m so glad you’re awake, too! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks so much!

  • Jodi Chapman

    :) Thanks!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you for such a sweet comment. I’m so glad you’re waking up, too. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I am right there with you – and it’s only when I began embracing these opportunities that my life began to brighten. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Exactly! Feeling anything (good or bad) is so much better (in my opinion) than going through life completely numb.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m sorry that you’ve been in hiding and afraid, and I hope this post will help you wake up, too! It sounds like we were in very similar places.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I love that each moment is an opportunity for us to choose how we will live. And so with that mindset, you can truly turn the wind around to blow your sails in the direction you want to go. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Good luck!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Practice and conscious choice. And pushing through whatever is holding you back. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so sorry that you are in this dark space. Please know that it is possible to heal from it and plug back into life again. There are so many people in this world who would love to support you in coming back to life. And it begins with you consciously choosing one moment at a time to do so. Hugs!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you so much. I’m so glad that you related to it and are also working on changing your mindset and waking up. I’m glad we’re doing it together!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad it was helpful for you! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you so much! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    That’s so true. A big part of my own coming back to life journey was opening up and letting others in. Knowing that I wasn’t alone was one of the most helpful parts of this experience.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad this was helpful. Being aware of what you would like to change is definitely the first step. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Yay! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I can definitely relate, and I’m glad that you are ready to wake up, too!

  • Jodi Chapman

    We all are. And we can all choose to wake up in this exactly moment. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad you’re waking up, too! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks so much, Sahil. I’m so sorry that this has been a difficult period for you, too. But I’m glad that you’re coming back to life, too. I’m so glad that we’ve connected! Hugs to you.

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re absolutely right – it can be painful to be awake or asleep. But when we’re numb, we aren’t able to feel much of anything – just a knowing inside of us that we aren’t feeling. Being awake allows us to feel the pain and also the good – it allows us to feel!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad it was helpful for you!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so happy to hear that. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Our inner voice is so wise, isn’t it? :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    That’s so true – and feeling the pain means you can also feel the joy. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Yay! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad this was helpful for you! Where you have been sounds very similar to my own comfort zone. And you’re so right that it’s not your purpose to stay inside of that fear.

  • Jodi Chapman

    Beautifully said, Craig! Letting the light in really is such a beautiful way to wake up. And it’s a choice – just as you said. We don’t have to live in the dark.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I completely understand your uncertainty and resistance. I was there not that long ago. What I found in my own life was that letting go of my past was the most freeing thing that I have ever done. And it wasn’t done overnight. It’s a process where you consciously choose to release that pain and hurt and redefine yourself based on the labels and experiences that you want to bring in. You do have a choice, and it’s not always smooth sailing, but I promise that it’s so worth living an awake life. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    It sounds like you’re in a very similar life space, and I’m so glad that you’re embracing this journey and are ready for what’s next!

  • Jodi Chapman

    That’s so wonderful that you and your husband can wake up together! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad that you’ve decided to wake up, too! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    It very much sounds like you’re in the process of waking up right now – sometimes you feel the blessing from it and other times you want to crawl back into bed. And this is all so normal and understandable. I think you’re well on your way to living fully!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re so welcome! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    It sounds like you’re really embracing your life by making conscious choices to live more fully – that’s wonderful!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you!

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re so welcome1

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks so much! I’m so glad this was helpful! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so sorry for your losses – it really sounds like you’ve been through a lot of sorrow in the past 3 years. I’m so glad that even through this pain, you’re still consciously expanding your heart and staying awake through it all.

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re so welcome!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so sorry about your loss. They were right around the same time. :( It sounds like our experience was very similar, where we opened up afterwards and experienced life so much differently. Hugs to you.

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re so right – we’re all in this together!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so sorry about your friend’s passing. :( It sounds like she lived a very full life while she was here, which is a beautiful lesson for each of us. Hugs to you.

  • Jodi Chapman

    Yay! I’m so glad you’re waking up!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m sorry about your loved one’s passing. :( I’m so glad this article was helpful for you – I now cry every single day rather than numbing out. But what’s changed over time is that the tears are now just as often tears of joy and gratitude as they are tears of sadness and pain. And that’s what I wish for each of us – to feel awake enough to feel it all. Hugs to you.

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Good luck!

  • Jodi Chapman

    That’s one of my favorite poems, and I am much happier taking this path of waking up. It’s one that I welcome everyone to take with me. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    So true – taking action is SO important. Life doesn’t life inside our head. We have to get out there to truly be in it!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Good luck!

  • Jodi Chapman

    It definitely sounds like you’re beginning to wake up! :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I hope that this article was helpful. We can choose to wake up each moment of our day. And if we stay asleep for one moment, I love that we can always wake up in the next.

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you so much. I’m so glad you are awake and have really taken action steps to live fully. You have so much to be proud of!

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re so welcome!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Good luck!

  • Jodi Chapman

    :) I love how we are all connected!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thanks! I’m so glad it was helpful for you. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so sorry for your loss. :( I know what a wake-up call it is to go through this pain, and I’m so glad you’re really processing it all and re-evaluating your own life. Hugs to you.

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad it was helpful!

  • Jodi Chapman

    It sounds like you’ve done so much soul work, and even though you’ve been through a lot of pain, you have assumed your own role in it and are conscious of the blessings that it brought into your life. This is such a beautiful way to live – thank you.

  • Jodi Chapman

    What I found when I began to push through the fear was that it was never as bad as I thought it would be. And you’re absolutely right – you have to make a change if you want your life to change. I have faith that you will begin taking steps toward the light. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    Please see what I wrote to Sonya above about fear – it really was never as bad as I thought it would be. And it always makes me feel so alive when I am able to push through it!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you so much for such kind words, David! I completely agree that it’s about living a full, real life – one that is complete with the entire spectrum of emotions.

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re so welcome!

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so sorry that you’ve been fighting depression, and I am hopeful that this post was helpful for you. I can only say what I’ve experienced from my own awakening, but my life in just 2 years has changed so drastically. I found that the universe supports us when we begin taking action. Hugs!

  • Jodi Chapman

    Thank you! I’m so glad it was helpful. :)

  • Jodi Chapman

    I’m so glad that this post resonated with you so deeply! I can feel your energy behind your words, and I am glad that you’re going to take action!

  • Jodi Chapman

    It definitely sounds like this post struck a nerve inside of you, which is a good thing! You are so ready to wake up, and now it’s up to you take that first step toward doing exactly that. Push past your fear – realize that you are the only one who is standing in your way. I know it doesn’t seem that easy to do, but if you just start with baby steps, you’ll build up your courage muscle quicker than you can even imagine. Hugs!

  • Jodi Chapman

    You’re so right – we can only change ourselves. And that can be such a painful lesson to learn.

  • Deanna

    The Baha’i Faith is what gave me the awakening of a lifetime. This new world religion is about unity, love for all of mankind and love for God. Everything is put into focus and makes so much sense! Every day I am in awe at the beauty of the Faith and the happiness it gives to me and my community, and this is what makes me excited to wake up and start a new day :)

  • Ot

    This is really my issue i think. Posponing my life, my dreams, for a moment snooze. Hope to get the gift, or join the course. Thanks.

  • LoveBeingAMom

    Thank you Jodi. I am still trucking ahead and doing what I can to wake up :) Your kind words and honest story help immensely! I am new to Tiny Buddha but have found get strength through the stories and articles. Thank you!

  • pauluk

    My story is a bit different to many I’ve just read in that on the surface there isn’t any major heartache, stresses or issues in my life. I’m 34, in a long term relationship with my wife, having met 16 years ago and now married for the last 7. We have 2 beautiful daughters aged 15 months and just 4 weeks old, I run my own consultancy which provides me and my family with a very good income which has meant we haven’t really gone without over the past 3/4 years, and it allows my wife to be a full time mum to our 2 daughters. I’ve just returned to work after being able to take the last 4 weeks off. What other dads would give to be able to do this…

    We have a nice family house, we have some great friends and some close family members. Even with all this I still feel I need to enjoy & embrace my life more, wake up, be more passionate, feel stronger emotions. I practically never let my hair down, for over 20 years my friends have seen me as the sensible one, the one who is a great friend who won’t let you down – but never the ‘life & soul of the party’ for want of a better phrase.

    I often think that as my life is so comfortable in how I have described it, and that I haven’t as yet had such lows as so many other people commenting have such as bereavements of close people, I’m therefore not fully experiencing the richness that life brings to many other people and I therefore don’t feel fulfilled.

    I do have a long standing family issue which means I have chosen not to see my mother for around 15 years, but I know that even since I was at primary & secondary school, so from around 6 years old, I have never really been one to let my hair down, take risks and truly live life, so I don’t think this is having an impact on how I live my life.

    So I am left wondering what do I need to wake up from as I move comfortably but quite boringly through life? I’m living life but not actually living life, if that makes sense

  • http://www.facebook.com/saphira.schroers Saphira Schroers

    This is a wonderful blog post. I’m 15 and feel at times I’ve already let so many opportunities go – I quit a lot of things and don’t handle rejection well. This blog is good in that it has inspired me to take opportunities now and not regret the past because without it, I wouldn’t be the awesome person I am right now!

  • kinley choden

    its true….have a try…….its hard to get angry even some people snooze on me………its a tiny wisdom:tips for love happiness, and more…..click down ..hehehheee:)

  • Chelsea

    Oh boy, Im going through that right now too. We have to try not to beat ourselves up, though. I, too, was under enough stress at my job to make me sick, and maybe our hesitation is because we need time to regroup so we dont dive back into a fruitless situation? There are many ways to make a living, and I believe its possible to carve out your own niche and be happy, tho I have not done that yet myself. Being jobless is the perfect opportunity to be open for it tho!

  • Chelsea

    This is all so true. My first love, and father of my child also killed himself several years ago, and the grief was as complete as grief gets, I think. But I do remember it shaking me to the core so much that I had no choice but to let go of trivial issues and focus on the deeper, more meaningful aspects of life. And I really never felt so alive. That year my heart broke and I transformed for the better, and learned so much. Times are not so easy right now, and sometimes I forget that lesson, but this blog grabbed my attention and reminded me. Its sad to hear that you had to feel such a similar pain, but it also puts into perspective how connected humanity is, and how resilient we are. Thank you.

  • Zina

    Absolutely amazing. Thank you for this, it was exactly what i needed.