Hi Joe

I’m so sorry, you must be going through hell right now. My condolences for the passing of your second mother. I hope that your niece’s cancer will be treatable.

I think it’s understandable that you feel numb considering the situation. You are dealing with so much in a short space of time. Everyone deals with grief in different ways, so please have patience with yourself and do your best to take care of yourself during this difficult time.

Would you like to talk about any of this? Please feel free to share whatever you want to.

Hi Ashley

It sounds like you’re doing all of the right things! Well done on taking care of yourself and your family.

How have you both been managing the parenting relationship between you? Are things going well?

It sounds like you’re on the way to moving on. Like anita said, it will take some time to build that trust.

Do you have any activities that reduce anxiety? When you notice yourself getting anxious. Self-soothing and bringing down your overall anxiety level will help your emotions and thoughts stabilise.

Hi Ashley

I’m sorry to hear that he cheated on you. It’s horrible that he betrayed you like that.

I’m curious, why do you still love someone who treat you so terribly? What about him do you love?

Would you mind providing a little more context? How long were you both together for? Do you have any children together?

It’s difficult because as you are probably aware he’s quite likely to do the same thing again if you got back together. Is he still with his most recent partner whilst he has been saying all of these things to you?

A relationship therapist might be a good idea for both of you if he is actually serious about getting back together.

Hi Swanky

I’m sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable, that wasn’t my intention.

At every stage, when anita or I asked about the dangers you are facing you ignored the questions. What is important to me is your safety, which is why I suggested that it might not be a good idea to feed this crush and why I was curious about why you choose to do so.

Please feel free to continue your discussion with anita about your crush. I’ll leave you both to it.

Hi Eric

I’m sorry for my late reply. It was nothing to do with you, I just haven’t been feeling well.

I’d just like to say that I’ve been really impressed by how you have been thinking more positively. It’s a welcome surprise seeing how you’ve grown from 3 months ago.

Yes, sensitivity and self awareness are the good part of your overthinking trait. As you continue to learn how to manage your anxiety you’ll find that your overthinking trait will evolve into a thinking trait. There are lots of benefits to being a thoughtful person.

I think some anxiety about your relationship is expected. It’s natural to be nervous when meeting your partner’s family for example. I was nervous meeting my husband’s family too.

You asked for advise about questions to ask. I don’t think I ask many questions except for “How are you?” or about their job. But I do pay attention to things that I might be able to relate to. For example, if they liked a similar media. Or listening to your partner if she mentions something about them. Jumping into a conversation when someone mentions something relevant to your interests will be helpful. Most of all, what parents really want is for you to treat their daughter well. That is all they care about. Something else I do is try to help out. For example, if they are babysitting I play with the baby. If they need groceries, I help with picking them up. If they’re cooking, I wash the dishes or help with food prep.

I hope this helps! 🙏

Hi Hamza

I think it’s difficult because you said you’re not able to be friends with her because it would be too painful. To allow things to naturally develop, you would have to spend time with her again and be okay with the idea that a relationship with her may never happen. This is someone you love and you say being in communication with her is harming your mental health.

It sounds like you know what you need to do. The question is, are you ready to do that yet? Or do you need more time to process everything?