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Hi operez14,
It’s very hard to have a job (much less one you hate), raise a family, save the world, and get an education. Do it in batches! Unfortunately, raising your family is Dharma ~ that which has to be done. After they are adults, you can quit, downsize, move, etc.
OR, and this is a shot in the dark, but an option… YOU be a Stay at Home Dad! Get a way smaller house. You can raise the kids while your wife works. You can justify the lack of income by living very simply and keeping house. Meanwhile, get your degree online or go to classes when the girls are in school. You can also explore volunteer organizations and options.
There is much less of a stigma towards stay at home fathers now.
Good Luck,
Inky
Hi D,
This isn’t like after the second date.. you are a serious couple!!
I would show up at his place of work or ask the secretary if he’s been in. Then call the hospitals and his family. At the very least he will be shamed for worrying everyone!
Good Luck,
Inky
Hi Braz,
The good news is that people are more accepting of all KINDS of relationships now. When I was younger if you were standing in line with a guy at the deli together it meant you were going out. Now when my DD is in the deli with a guy it’s “We’re just FRIENDS Mom, jeez, what’s wrong with you??” LOL
My sister is very close with her business partner. People get awkward because they don’t know if they’re sisters, best friends or lovers.
People like Labels and to Pigeon Hole other people.
Your relationship with your Person ~ “The people who matter don’t mind and the people who mind don’t matter!”
You’re a lesbian whose best friend is a guy. What’s so hard to understand about that? 🙂
HI Cody92,
Keep in mind that:
1. Your fiancée loves you more than life. Out of the millions of people she could have chosen, she chose YOU! Do you doubt her decision making abilities? Is she crazy? See yourself through her eyes.
2. Keep a framed baby picture of yourself in your house where you can see it everyday. The Creator of creation (or creation itself) knew what He/it was doing.
3. You don’t have to go to the gym yet. You can hike, or do Pilates and Yoga at home.
4. People are so self involved, they don’t think of each other hardly at all! They’re not sitting around judging you. Trust me. Like you, they too are trying to somehow get through life!
Hope any of the above helps!
Blessings,
Inky
Hi JournoGirl,
I wouldn’t leave the marriage for the other man. I WOULD however leave the marriage whether there’s another man or not (if you would leave)! Don’t leave your DH unless you would do it anyway!
Yes, it IS possible there was another woman. HOWEVER, the fact that he is SO blasé about your heart is just horrible to me.
Find out what you can live with and what you can’t. Maybe your DH will be more of a friend than a husband. Maybe you are meant to just be travel companions, or maybe he is meant to just help support you. Some husbands are not built for romance, believe it or not! Maybe he would be the best of fathers. Who knows?
I know it’s wrong to say, but I’m GLAD the other man came along!
Blessings,
Inky
Hi Karene,
Some thoughts came into my head which may or may not be true ~ so take them with a grain of salt. It is possible that:
1. He didn’t feel threatened by you when you met, but once you started taking care of yourself, he DID?
2. Some Hook Up Sites teach the guys the Build Them Up and Tear them Down philosophy. After tons of special attention, suddenly there’s none. This is used to keep the girl unbalanced and make HIM the one with the higher “mate value”. Also used by giving compliments with sudden put downs.
3. When he implied that you were average (because everyone at work is) he was practicing this kind of technique.
4. Same thing with the Angel Girl comment. That was so you don’t get any illusions/”illusions” that you’re special.
5. The FB Page concerns me. I have tons of Friends and NO ONE does the Friending 100 Blondes you don’t know and Photoshopping them with you in the photos.
I would ~ seriously ~ date other people. An added perk to this would be that he would be kept on his toes! 😉 … But I think it’s time to see someone who doesn’t play games.
Good Luck,
Inky
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