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  • March 22, 2016 at 5:01 am in reply to: Feeling resentful toward men #99808
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    Hi dreaming715,

    Where are you meeting these men?? Maybe if you meet them via mutual friends or through a project or hobby you’ll have better luck.. as most people aren’t thinking of romance or hooking up in those settings.

    As we get older we have less tolerance for lies and games.

    Maybe consider dating men a little older? It does take them several years to out grow the Single Guy meme.

    Someone is out there for you! Dare I say several people! It’s just who you’ll find first! Have faith!

    Blessings,

    Inky

    March 21, 2016 at 3:43 am in reply to: I love this movie so much. #99673
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    I wish (perhaps morbidly) that people had actual expiration dates on them. Imagine all the love and attention we’d all give and get!!!

    March 20, 2016 at 6:46 am in reply to: Depressed #99532
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    Hi Dimple,

    In my distant family tree there were arranged marriages, but the woman had to like the guy!! One of them DID turn down fiancés, but the parents kept on trying! What were their alternatives? Can’t your parents introduce you to other potential fiancés? It’s not fair to you and it’s not fair to the guy. And the married guy doesn’t even matter for this issue. Could he get a divorce and marry you in less than a month? Probably not. Call off the engagement!

    Best,

    Inky

    March 19, 2016 at 6:02 am in reply to: Unique, Intimate Friendships #99481
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    Hi Braz,

    The good news is that people are more accepting of all KINDS of relationships now. When I was younger if you were standing in line with a guy at the deli together it meant you were going out. Now when my DD is in the deli with a guy it’s “We’re just FRIENDS Mom, jeez, what’s wrong with you??” LOL

    My sister is very close with her business partner. People get awkward because they don’t know if they’re sisters, best friends or lovers.

    People like Labels and to Pigeon Hole other people.

    Your relationship with your Person ~ “The people who matter don’t mind and the people who mind don’t matter!”

    You’re a lesbian whose best friend is a guy. What’s so hard to understand about that? 🙂

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    March 18, 2016 at 5:43 am in reply to: dazed and confused #99348
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    Hi William,

    If the other woman didn’t exist, would you divorce your wife? Would you get a divorce whether there was someone else or not? Once you answer that, then you’ll know what to do.

    The hanging out with her and not touching her? That follows The Letter of the Law, but not the Spirit of the Law, if you know what I mean. You are using each other as scaffolding, but you are not the each other’s structure.

    Work it out with your wife. Or not! Maybe in ten or twenty years you and your friend can be together. Who knows? But concentrate on the Present right now.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    March 17, 2016 at 4:50 am in reply to: I hate myself, what can I do? #99238
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    HI Cody92,

    Keep in mind that:

    1. Your fiancée loves you more than life. Out of the millions of people she could have chosen, she chose YOU! Do you doubt her decision making abilities? Is she crazy? See yourself through her eyes.

    2. Keep a framed baby picture of yourself in your house where you can see it everyday. The Creator of creation (or creation itself) knew what He/it was doing.

    3. You don’t have to go to the gym yet. You can hike, or do Pilates and Yoga at home.

    4. People are so self involved, they don’t think of each other hardly at all! They’re not sitting around judging you. Trust me. Like you, they too are trying to somehow get through life!

    Hope any of the above helps!

    Blessings,

    Inky

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    March 16, 2016 at 4:53 am in reply to: commitment issues #99136
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    Hi Lady Nadia,

    Are we not allowed to have preferences? My dad hated it when guys who had (technically) nothing wrong with them would ask me out and I was all “No thank you”. You don’t have commitment issues. You’re being discerning. Nothing wrong with that.

    Best,

    Inky

    March 15, 2016 at 4:45 am in reply to: Want to get sober (clean, technically) but…. #99028
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    Hi LindsayLou,

    It seems like you are extremely highly motivated!! Plan your Work and Work your Plan. It IS possible!! I am sending tons and loads of positive Energy and White Light your Way!!! Also a mental Good Fairy that sprinkles WillPower Dust on you every single day!! We got you here on TinyBuddha! You can do this!!

    Blessings,

    Inky

    March 14, 2016 at 8:03 am in reply to: Struggling so much in my marriage #98944
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    Hi JournoGirl,

    I wouldn’t leave the marriage for the other man. I WOULD however leave the marriage whether there’s another man or not (if you would leave)! Don’t leave your DH unless you would do it anyway!

    Yes, it IS possible there was another woman. HOWEVER, the fact that he is SO blasé about your heart is just horrible to me.

    Find out what you can live with and what you can’t. Maybe your DH will be more of a friend than a husband. Maybe you are meant to just be travel companions, or maybe he is meant to just help support you. Some husbands are not built for romance, believe it or not! Maybe he would be the best of fathers. Who knows?

    I know it’s wrong to say, but I’m GLAD the other man came along!

    Blessings,

    Inky

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    March 13, 2016 at 9:04 am in reply to: Work crush gone bad – need advice! #98842
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    Hi Karene,

    Some thoughts came into my head which may or may not be true ~ so take them with a grain of salt. It is possible that:

    1. He didn’t feel threatened by you when you met, but once you started taking care of yourself, he DID?

    2. Some Hook Up Sites teach the guys the Build Them Up and Tear them Down philosophy. After tons of special attention, suddenly there’s none. This is used to keep the girl unbalanced and make HIM the one with the higher “mate value”. Also used by giving compliments with sudden put downs.

    3. When he implied that you were average (because everyone at work is) he was practicing this kind of technique.

    4. Same thing with the Angel Girl comment. That was so you don’t get any illusions/”illusions” that you’re special.

    5. The FB Page concerns me. I have tons of Friends and NO ONE does the Friending 100 Blondes you don’t know and Photoshopping them with you in the photos.

    I would ~ seriously ~ date other people. An added perk to this would be that he would be kept on his toes! 😉 … But I think it’s time to see someone who doesn’t play games.

    Good Luck,

    Inky

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    March 12, 2016 at 6:12 am in reply to: The Truth About the Spiritual community #98799
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    Hi ZenAlex,

    One big frustration I have is that everyone in the spiritual/holistic community tends to eventually or suddenly label themselves as an “expert”. LOL! Then they get mad that their followers/”followers” don’t seem to follow them! Of course in the religious community it’s worse!

    Another frustration is that the communities tend to attract fringy or extreme people/personalities.

    I actually get away by reveling in science, history and the world in general. Just for a refreshing perspective.

    Best,

    Inky

    March 11, 2016 at 4:54 am in reply to: Why can't I recover from total heartbreak??? #98658
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    Hi Jonymm,

    I’m sorry this happened to you. That was a punch in the gut!! The lesson, I suppose, is never to take anything for granted and that the chickens always come home to roost. When someone suddenly breaks up with us, they’ve usually been breaking up, moving on, and planning it for months. And then they spring it on us which is NOT fair!!

    Next time, don’t buy a house with someone unless you’re married, and don’t live with them and raise their kids unless you are just that. The poor kids!! They, too, have lost someone they love (you!!) and now have no father figure.

    Sell the house. If you can’t, at least totally rearrange the furniture. And get new furniture while you’re at it (if you can). Replace the mattress first!! Energetically, our bedding can be one hot mess.

    Best,

    Inky

    March 10, 2016 at 4:37 am in reply to: Roller Coaster of emotions #98515
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    Hi Sapnap3,

    I’m sending continued condolences about your Dad, I can’t even imagine!!

    Not to be catastrophic or morbid, but…. OK, my DH had moved back home “because his parents were older and needed him”. Well, they didn’t need him at all then, actually!! Ten years later his Dad died. And ten years after that, his mother DID need him ~ 24/7 ~ while she was dying. It was a long process. She was in Hospice for a year. One day, when your Mom is very ill or very old, I know you’ll be there for her in that way!!

    This is why they invented Holidays. During those times we visit the family. And guess what? The older you get, the more in common with your sisters you’ll be!! I just went out to dinner with my older sister and our cousin. The cousin is twelve years older than me, and now it’s like we’re great old friends!!

    I would stay in Dublin until/unless you lose the job or breakup with the BF.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    March 9, 2016 at 4:26 am in reply to: how to find true self? lost, depressed, unmotivated #98425
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    Hi zenstrawberry,

    Everyone in Spring of Senior Year is feeling that bummed out feeling. Feeling bummed out is easier than feeling anxious. “It’s all coming to and end…” vs. “…BUT WHAT NOW???”

    Yoga, reading, cooking, drawing can seem very boring compared to this overwhelming future questions.

    All I can say is find a job, any job, and get that lined up now (if possible) so you have something to look forward to.

    Once you are truly on your own, in an apartment and a job/career, you should be OK.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    March 8, 2016 at 4:28 am in reply to: Relationship with myself? #98364
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    Hi Tony,

    It’s better you broke it off with her now then years later after you’re married and then find The One. Breaking up with someone who’s done nothing wrong is the worst!! But good on you for honoring your true feelings! Not everyone does that!! Society and turning 30 stinks. It will all come together. You’ll see.

    Blessings,

    Inky

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