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  • September 25, 2015 at 1:06 pm in reply to: approval #84096
    jock
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    Self-doubt is a flaw; we’ll care for you anyway

    That’s a relief. I’m the king of self-doubt.
    There seems to be a suggestion I am in a clique or “cool kids” club here. Mmmm..It’d be the first time ever, if that is the case. I’m a natural nerd, extremely uncool. 🙂
    I don’t do cliques and I am usually the one against them in forums.
    And I don’t feel I have anything to apologise for either.

    September 25, 2015 at 4:47 am in reply to: In-laws have torn us apart..what now? :'( #84077
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    When you marry someone , you marry their family too. From what you’ve written, I’d feel pessimistic about your marriage. My opinion? Move on…

    September 24, 2015 at 9:24 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #84075
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    But doing this thread has helped me reduce Ruminator Ron’s power. I feel I now have him under the microscope. The next time he plays up, I’ll hopefully label him before he gets carried away.
    I can imagine more extroverted people would laugh at this thread. Crazy uh? Why spend time introspecting on an imaginary crowd of inner selves, self-created?”
    All I can say in reply is it genuinely helps me. Maybe I’m strange but I don’t care any more. I know that ignoring what’s going on, inside my head, takes me down the slippery slope to depression and anxiety.

    September 24, 2015 at 9:15 pm in reply to: Life… #84074
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    Seems like you’re still very emotional so hard to plan anything wisely in that state. (in my opinion)
    Make sure you plan when you feel calm and clear-headed.
    Getting car licence is important I agree but for me personally not number 1 priority. If you can go to a city with good public transport infrastructure, you might not need it so urgently. However, the city I live in now in Australia, has moderate public transport system and some jobs just wouldn’t be available to me if I didn’t have a car. So in that sense, getting a licence is an investment/necessity to finding work.
    Suggest to your parents you need money to pay for driving lessons? (you’d have to get them in the city I imagine,)

    September 24, 2015 at 5:26 pm in reply to: Do you have a porpoise? #84047
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    here’s to the inner child and imagination!!

    September 24, 2015 at 5:22 pm in reply to: Life… #84046
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    tough situation I admit welding
    First it seems you are blaming yourself as you use capitals.
    It’s not all your fault at all but here are some things I would do if in your situation:
    – get some discipline into your daily life, wake up, do some exercises, maybe pray or meditate (too weird?), read some positive stuff (I prefer books to the net. You might want to visit the local library)
    -watch your nutrition, fruit and veges?
    -visit a local GP doctor and tell him your story
    -contact some lifeline/social services nearest your house
    -borrow some money for abus trip to a nearby city and spend a day lookingat jobs and the vibe (can I live here?)

    You are going to make some tough decisions soon. If possible ask to borrow 5000 bucks from your parents(possible?). Tell them you want to go to a big city and find a job and be independent)
    And finally get some other advice besides mine… 🙂

    September 24, 2015 at 5:12 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #84044
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    she’s sort of a special-needs child

    Haha. Good one. That’s exactly it. Ruminator Ron is an attention seeking child. I think your stance is make peace with all your selves especially the troublemakers. Have some patience with them. Try different strategies so they can get along.
    My approach is actually to ask him to leave. Send him to a special needs school. I can’t control him when he gets in that mood. He’s potentially dangerous to self and others. If he has to stay, better to just sit quietly and watch the others.
    Or one option is for him to ask to change his name? No that is desperate… 🙂

    September 24, 2015 at 4:07 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #84040
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    But Sally Ann’s a pragmatic gal, and she sees the cracks and won’t ignore them. She refuses to sweep upsetting things under the rug, and for that quality, she’s a valuable member of my mental team. She’s a little more likeable if I step into her shoes and realize that she’s helped steer me away from a few life catastrophies. Maybe the same is true for Ron?

    Hi jessa
    thanks for your post. I like your slant on things and yeah I guess I need to give Ruminator Ron his due. If he didn’t exist, I mightn’t notice anything, which would make me less aware….mmmm….but I think Analytical Al fulfills the role without going too far. I can do without the constant replays of negative events. Ron loves going the over same videos all the time “Ron,I’ve seen that one. No need to show me again. Yeah I know they treated you bad, but God get a life! Don’t be such a victim!”

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    September 24, 2015 at 3:53 pm in reply to: the real purpose of life #84039
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    I’ll try to answer this seriously but is hard because I know I can take myself too seriously and this makes me feel worse.( Analytical Al takes over Maudlin Mal starts to get too sentimental)
    You need to find answers to problems your parents/guardians/older siblings/circle of friends haven’t faced or solved yet.
    My parents never had an opportunity to get education for example or travel overseas. Whether I’ve used these opportunities to my full benefit is the question. I’ve had the opportunity to study Buddhism and meditation. I’ve got a more intellectual approach to life. That doesn’t make me better than my parents. Just different I guess. I think I have some self-awareness they didn’t have but one thing I’ll never match is their family making . They had 7 kids (all boys) and created a beautiful home for all of us. That is something I will always deeply respect about them. They lived their life to the full with no arrogance.

    September 23, 2015 at 6:08 pm in reply to: Please help.. am loosing my mind #83984
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    It takes time to heal, especially in circumstances like yours.
    This is a true test of your self-esteem. Time to dig deep and believe in yourself.
    I know it sounds strange, but you can find better than this girl. Today’s pain is tomorrow’s gain. If you choose to start believing in yourself, you can attract an excellent partner whom you really cherish and trust.
    I’d say take a break from relationships and try to enjoy time alone. This will be tough because you are still obsessing. If you can somehow gradually calm your mind down…don’t expect to be happy too soon. Patience is the key.
    I feel for you because I am an obsessor extraordinaire. Strong emotions seem to control us as they negate our self-talk. Self talk that sounds like this “I’m such a loser. Why did she do that to me? How could he? I’m never gonna find a girl like her again. What an idiot, a fool I’ve been. I’ll never be happy”
    Look at those thoughts. If we believe those thoughts, we will continue to be unhappy.

    September 23, 2015 at 3:32 pm in reply to: Anyone over 100 kg here? #83979
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    Take a break from TB too anita. I don’t blame you.

    September 23, 2015 at 3:30 pm in reply to: Favourite Buddhist Guru #83978
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    hi anita
    I’m trying to keep an open mind about Carl Jung. But you might be interested to know that I read something about Carl Jung the other day in the negative. A book called “the Jung Cult” was written by a scholar from Harvard I think. This guy said Jung was secretly hoping to create a cult of followers but not call it a cult of course, have a cloak of respectability.
    Anyway, I will try to maintain an open mind about the guy.

    September 23, 2015 at 3:24 pm in reply to: OK, come clean, how many of you are there? #83976
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    Chairman Chuck (aka jumpin Jehovah)
    This guy is like the MC. He introduces and makes sure everyone gets a turn. He has to discipline anyone who starts to hog the limelight like Llama Jack or Analytical Al. he tries to be objective but it isn’t always possible. He tries to be fair but again not always possible. He’s there to act as a balance.

    Jumpin Jack Flash
    This guy thinks he is a rock star. He’s musical, can play a few guitar chords and sings strictly in the key of C, one octave. He fantasises about being a magnet for adoring female fans. Good friends of Llama Jack. Sometimes they combine to make music with silly lyrics.Jumpin’ has narcissitic qualities which annoy Pious Pete and Analytical Al. Hate him or love him, he’s there to stay. Chairman Chuck has had to have a word a few times “hey Jumpin’, don’t get carried away, you’re startin’ to annoy the others”.

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    September 23, 2015 at 10:32 am in reply to: Did vocational guidance help you much? #83927
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    Attachments are necessary and unavoidable

    Memorable quote 🙂

    September 23, 2015 at 10:31 am in reply to: Anyone over 100 kg here? #83926
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    100 pounds is 45.5 kg. Very thin in my opinion. Congratulations Anita. And the prize is one week’s holiday to Scotland…………………in winter.

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